Husband / boyfriend with no friends?

[Unknown8264]

If your husband / boyfriend was a sweet, nice guy and treats you well but he has no friends just colleagues at work. Does that mean he’s a loser?

[Saiesh30]

A loser is someone who doesn't try or doesn't do enough in keeping his family and loved ones happy and cared for.
This metric definitely doesn't stand anywhere in calling out a person loser.
Over the time, through their experiences people stop liking the company of anyone else. They love to spend time with themselves or their family (in other words, "people who matter"). They prefer being with themselves than to be with self-centred or back biters or bullies or drunks or materialistic people who add nothing significant or positive to life.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I'm not so starved for external validation that I could ever give two shites if people at my partner's work like her or not.

If he is "a sweet nice guy who treats you well" then how is he a loser? How are we defining loser?

All my friends are from former jobs with the exception of one person at my new job who has since quit. She quit because nearly everyone is f'ing retarded there. If a bunch of people who are f'ing retarded to the point that people are quitting don't like me, am I to be upset about that?

[zagor]

She meant no friends, just colleagues at work - not no friends at work. So no friends period.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@zagor Oh gotcha. Comma placement would have helped.

Let's eat, grandma.
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Let's eat grandma

Still doesn't change much. If I like her what does it matter if nobody else does? Or maybe she's the one that doesn't like other people. Either way, has nothing to do with me.

[zagor]

I agree with you there.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. Myself I don’t have friends really. I have co-workers. But I do have my brothers. For me after spending 10 years in the service I can’t relate to many men, especially those who weren’t in the service. Which I’m fine w. I’ve been w someone for 15 years. I do my own thing. I don’t feel lonely or whatever not having male friends. I love to do yard work, building things, tearing things up, etc. I do go to NBa games, NFL games or concerts by myself sometimes. Most of the time my girl goes w me cause she lives all that stuff. Some people say that makes me a loser, if you think so that’s your opinion. Doesn’t bother me. I’m there for the entertainment of it.

[zagor]

No; I don't really have any local friends, and those I do have I see maybe once a year or so. Some people don't need constant validation.

[Anonymous]

Its significantly harder for men to make friends.

[TallAnon]

Yeah. Lots of losers in life. Question is more why it would matter.

[Billlewis]

Almost all guys are losers... lol

[Anonymous]

He might be. Might be an asshole too?

[Unknown8264]

Nah he’s anything but an asshole.
He’s nice and sweet

[BoopBoopBeep]

Then why do you care?