I recently caught my husband talking with another woman via emails, they genuinely seemed friendly, but they spoke deeply and was more than just chit chat, as they knew and asked questions about eachothers current life situations. She calls all my children by their names, makes references to their ages, suggests things to do for thier birthday etc etc, from briefly reading this it made me search bsck to other messages as I could tell they had got to know eachother quite well. From what I found the messages began in 2017. I approached him, as a few years ago the messages got heated, they both spoke of a sexual tension, it seemed he wanted too, but couldn’t physically cheat on me, she accepted, and seems that have kept it friendly, but close ever since. When I approached him he admitted all, and kind of srugged it off as if I was making a big deal out of nothing, he says she’s an old high school friend, they were always close and reconnected a few years ago. He says there is nothing in it, that I don’t need to worry, that he loves me and would never do anything to risk his family, that she’s a friend, he cares for her but that’s it. Around Christmas I found messages of her saying she loved him, and missed him, they must of had a lack of communication over that period, he said he liked her as more than a friend and cares for her but didn’t reply that he also loved her. They have met a handful of times, He said they have cuddled, but nothing more has happened. The conversations aren’t sexual anymore, I have gone back almost a year and they seem platonic but deeply caring, somethings he has said to her I can’t see him saying to me. He’s told her in messages she has a beautiful kind heart and soul, and on one occasion after they had a falling out he told her she broke him heart. I don’t know what to make of it, he says she’s alwYs been there for him, and he needs and is entitled to have a friend like her, and that I’m acting jealous. Is he right? Or am I right to object?
Husband in midst of 5 year affair or friendship?
