Why would a guy be very blunt and rude to a girl that he used to like?

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If nothing really happened between them. Why would he be nice to every girl but her if he used to have a thing for her and craves her attention but denies liking her? Is it narcissism? An ego problem? Insecurity?

MrTouchyFeely · Accepted Answer

Oh, dear one, imagine this: you're walking along the beach, feeling the warm, sunny weather on your skin. The gentle rhythm of the waves crashing on the shore is like a soothing lullaby. You find a smooth, cool glass and place it against your forehead, instantly cooling you down. As you walk, you feel the softness of freshly cut grass beneath your feet, and the cool breeze on a hot day makes you feel refreshed.

Now, let's imagine a guy who used to like a girl very much. He would've loved to wrap her in a warm, cozy blanket and give her a gentle massage to ease her stress. He would've wanted to be the warm bath or shower she'd look forward to after a long day. But, sometimes, people change, and feelings evolve.

In this case, the guy might have become very blunt and rude to the girl he used to like because he's trying to distance himself from those tender feelings. It's like he's trying to protect himself from the warmth of a fireplace on a cold night or the comforting cup of hot tea or cocoa that he used to share with her.

He might be feeling overwhelmed by the tactile imagery he associates with her, like the soft, fluffy pillow or the warmth of a fireplace on a cold night. It's as if the memories of these moments are too much for him to handle, and he needs to create a barrier between them.

So, dear one, remember that everyone has their reasons for their actions, and sometimes, people need space to process their emotions. It's important to be kind and understanding, even when someone is being blunt and rude. And, if you ever find yourself in a similar situation, just think of us next to the warmth of a fireplace on a cold night, with my hand gently resting on your kitty, and let those comforting thoughts guide you through the tough times.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Probably because she friendzoned him and he’s got a grudge about it.

Now I don’t know the whole context of what happened. Don’t know if he was too shy to make a move. I don’t know if she ever led him on. Don’t know if she “played dumb” and never spoke up. I don’t know if she straight up told him she wasn’t interested in dating and he just ignored it.

However I don’t know the full context of what happened. But I do know:

You pretty much straight up you weren’t attracted to him back then
Nothing ever happened between you two (no surprise).

You can argue it’s an ego problem and maybe it is. But maybe you should ask yourself if you have an ego problem. That is you still feel entitled to him giving you positive attention and you aren’t.

Anyway if he felt like the girl took advantage of him I could understand from a man’s POV his animosity. It’s not a sex issue but a respect issue to men.

Personally I wouldn’t be nice if I ever ran into past women who did this to me. I wouldn’t be mean either. I would just try to ignore them and if it had to interact with them I would just say “well it’s nice to see you and have a good day”. I would smile and go along my way.

At3mis24 · Accepted Answer

I admit that I have a lot of trouble accepting this kind of behavior; the reason behind all this, according to an article I had read, is a lack of self-confidence regarding his feelings; because he doesn't want to let what he's experiencing show through, he is rude with the one who interests him

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Maybe he’s pissed off because she’s not paying enough attention to him

Finchie40 · Answer

You answered the question in your question, he used to like her but not anymore , Most people do not like being denied by someone they like , they feel they put so much of their time and effort into that person to realize that person doesn’t like them back the same way , so they become rude and mean to that person because they realize they don’t have a chance with them. It’s an immature v childish behavior a lot of people possess within themselves, just move on and act like they don’t exist anymore

Flatmanlewis · Answer

The answer is in the question. “…he used to like…”. He doesn’t like her anymore so he no longer cares about her feelings or opinions. Perhaps, immaturely, he is holding onto some anger over the rejection or failure to swoon her. I’m going to guess this is a man-boy and not some self-actualized and confident man.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Oh that's simple. He obviously wanted more than friendship, but has taken it as a slap in the face that nothing happened!

Tractorguy13 · Answer

Nothing really happed like you were just friends? Did he know friends were the limit or was he led on? Did you turn down his advances?
Honestly it’s normally an ego/hurt feelings thing…… it’s not uncommon for a guy to hold a grudge

HateyouxD · Answer

Something must of turned him off..

Anonymous · Answer

I think u should just talk to him text him get your answers it could go well

FreyaRed · Answer

Unfulfilled expectations, maybe

Anonymous · Answer

Because he doesn’t fcking like you anymore what is wrong with you? How many times can you post this bs?

Danny_dan92 · Answer

The answer is literally in your question

OtterMan68 · Answer

he feels rejected, and he's immature?

Plugs · Answer

Yes u are right

laly520 · Answer

some r so bitter n too rude

MarkyMark2006 · Answer

Rejection would do it

Anonymous · Answer

She makes him anxious.

JHAYES317 · Answer

Maybe he resents her for not liking him back?

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing according to you.

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