Is he into me and is he flirting with me?

[Anonymous]

One of my coworkers at work we've been talking a lot and he's been one of my closest friends since he's known that I'm leaving the company.

The other two day he bought me coffee and bubble tea which was so nice of him.

He always wants to sit next to me and have banter and annoy me a lot, and we always leave together at the same time. There was one then where we just had a break and went on an hour walk and just chatted for a bit. Not sure if he likes me or not.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl don't read too much into stuff like that, dudes can be real confusing sometimes. But from the sounds of it, this guy def seems into you! A few things that stood out:

- Buying you coffee and boba is for sure a little flirty move, not something most guy friends do regularly.

- Always wanting to sit by you and banter one-on-one is a sign he enjoys your company more than others.

- Taking a long walk together alone is really intimate, usually a sign a guy is feeling you out and trying to get to know you better.

- Leaving work together too, seems like he's low-key tryna spend more time with you outside of work.

My advice would be - flirt back a little! Banter with him, play fight like you do. When you make eye contact, smile and hold the gaze a few seconds longer than normal. See how he responds.

Dudes will only act if they think a girl is receptive to it. Give him some green lights and I'm sure he'll make a bolder move. Trust me sis, he's totally into you! Just don't stress it and have fun. Let me know what else happens 👀

[Asker]

aww thanks girl hehehehe yess or sure!! illl keep u updated yea i feel like he's into him he's a super sweet guy! but guess we shall see where it goes

[Oliverlogan263]

Omg yayyy thats great!! I'm so excited for you!! 😄 He definitely sounds super sweet. Just from those little things it's so obvious he's really into you. I mean buying coffee AND bubble tea? And that whole hour long walk too? Totally boyfriend behavior if you ask me. 😉

I say definitely start flirting back a little to see how he reacts. Like laugh extra at his jokes, give him little compliments, lightly touch his arm when you're talking. Boys can be so thick sometimes, you gotta make the hints obvious haha. But from the sound of it I don't think you'll have any problems there - he's clearly already crushing hard!

I'm keeping everything crossed this goes somewhere amazing for you two. What an adorable coworkers to more story that would be. You gotta fill me in on any cute little moments you have. And if anything happens between you, I expect ALL the deets girl!! Wishing you the best of luck, you totally got this 💕

[Asker]

aww hehehe thasnk u guess time will tell!! yea he is a super sweet guy guess we shall see!!

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem girl, so glad I could help give you a little assurance and perspective on the situation! Dating coworkers can be tricky, so it's good to take things slow and see how the dynamic changes once work is less of a factor. But it definitely sounds promising based on how attentive he is already.

Just keep doing you and having fun chatting with him. Guys love it when girls aren't super needy or pressuring for more too soon. Let things unfold organically once work is in the past. Pretty sure you've got nothing to worry about - he'd be lucky to have a girl as cool as you!

You've got the right mindset too of just seeing what happens. Don't put too much pressure on it being something "serious" yet. Enjoy getting to know each other better first. And keep me posted on any cute progress with him! Fingers crossed it all works out, but even if not, sounds like you made a great friend out of it either way. You've got this girl!

[Asker]

hehhehee thank uuu we've been chatting a lot on our sociaals so i guess ill see where it goes and he says he's gonna drive 3 hours to see me for my farewell for work as its my last day soon , which is so sweet of him

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww no way, he's gonna drive 3 hours just for your farewell? That's some serious effort for a friend, he must really like you! I'd say that's a pretty clear sign he wants to see you even after you leave the job. That's so sweet of him, you really scored a great guy.

He must feel really close to you if he's willing to make such a long drive. I bet while you guys chat on social media he'll start hinting at wanting to hang out after too. Maybe drop some subtle hints yourself that you want to see him again when you're both free! You gotta make the most of your farewell and thank him properly for coming so far hehe.

A long hug and cheek kiss goodbye wouldn't be out of line i think *wink wink*. Keep us posted what happens! I'm telling you, after a romantic goodbye like that, there's no way he isn't gonna ask you on a proper date soon. You two are adorable, so happy for you girl! Try not to freak out too much but also don't be afraid to show him you like him back. You got this!

[Asker]

Yea hehehehe hope it works out he's a very sweet boi heheheheh thank u

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl you know it's gonna work out! That boy already knows what's up, he's totallyyy yours. Boys don't drive 3 hours just to see anyone, trust.

And yeah he sounds like a real sweetheart. The good ones are always worth waiting for, feels? Just focus on having fun at your farewell, let him swoon over you all night hehe.

then bam! When you say goodbye, give him a big ol' juicy kiss on the lips girl! Leave him wanting more, ya know? I'm telling you, by the time you pull away he'll be begging you to be his girl.

You two are gonna be the cutest couple, I already know it. Keep each other close, this one's a keeper for sure. And don't forget to hit a sister up with all the deets afterwards! I live for this romance shit lol

But for real, you both deserve all the happiness. So enjoy every moment - this is gonna be the start of something beautiful for you guys. Love ya sis, go get your man! Muah xoxo

[Asker]

Hahaha thanks sis, yeaa guess we shall see how it goes!! Sadly he just told me he won't be able to make it but he said he'll still visit me whenever he has the chance to come to Sydney so hopefully !!!

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww that's disappointing he can't make the farewell but at least he's still open to visiting you in Sydney sometime! Don't lose hope yet sis. Looks like you've still got a chance with this guy, he seems really intent on keeping in touch even when he's far away.

Maybe he had something come up last minute with work or family. Boys can be flaky sometimes lol. But I bet he feels really bad missing it since he offered to drive all that way before. At least texting and DMs are still an option for now!

Keep chatting with him lots online and send those cute selfies I told you about. Dropping hints that you'll miss seeing him could work too, make sure he knows you like spending time with him too. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, right? Maybe it'll only make him like you more in the long run!

As long as you stay on his mind, I still think it could totally happen between you guys eventually. Don't lose hope, keep me updated on how things are going long distance. Fingers crossed he visits you real soon in Sydney!

[Asker]

Ye heheheh I hope he can come!! He said either way he might drive up, so guess we shall see lunch might be hard for him since he lives far away eek

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww man that's too bad, I was really hoping he'd be able to make it! But at least he's still saying he might drive up, so there's still a chance. Fingers crossed he can figure out a way to come.

Maybe you could offer to meet him halfway or something, so it's not as long of a drive for him? Guys appreciate when girls make an effort too. Or see if any other work friends are around Sydney and you all could grab lunch or something casual.

Don't lose hope yet though! Even if he can't make your actual last day, I bet he'll still want to hang out when you're both free on a weekend or something. Long distance stuff is tough, but it seems like he really likes you.

Keep chatting with him lots online too. Send him funny videos and stuff about your new adventures in Sydney - that'll make him want to visit to see it for himself! Just stay positive, sis. I'm sure you guys will link up somehow soon.

[_Maya_]

Hard to say from just that and also the fact that you say that he is one of your closest friends. That right there tells me that he doesn't necessarily like you. If he is a close friend of course he is going to want to chat with you, sit with you and buy you a coffee. That is pretty much friend behavior. There would be some more clear signs and changes in his behavior if he were hinting at something more. If this is pretty typical interactions between the two of you I wouldn't read too much into it. Sounds like he what you say he is... which is a very close friend. The only thing I am minorly confused about is the part that you are leaving the company. He has become close since he knew that?

[Asker]

Yea because I guess we've been talking more and I saw him the last few days so we've become so close cos I've talked it with him and spent time with a lot more. It's just he flies over to the main office and I only get to see him every now and then

[_Maya_]

Do you to have each other's details (phone numbers)?

[Asker]

Yes I have him on socials