Do you ever wonder what a man's cry for help, when it comes to depression, looks like?

[worldscolide]

There are a few. Pay attention to changes in his music, changes in his work, changes in his social habits.. The bottom line is this, a man's cry for help is not the same as a woman's. We don't function or think the same note do we behave the same.

See the image below.

[sage2021]

I believe if a man doesn't give his woman signs of a cry for help, how would she know?

Some men don't want us to help them even if they did leave signs we should pick up on. Sometimes they joke around and still laugh, so it's hard to think otherwise.

But if my man wanted to talk to me, he always knew he could talk to me about anything and I would be there for him. We both had many discussion's with each other and what was going on.

If people want to cry for help, then they should just do it and not make other people guess by the subtle signs they leave.

The last song my boyfriend sent to my cellphone was last May when Gordon Lightfoot died. The song is titled "If you could read my mind". I didn't think very much about it at the time, but when he died suddenly I listened to that song again and it gave an entirely different meaning. Some part said "I'm a ghost that you just can't see". Boy, did that hit me between the eyes.

He was very confusing at times. Just when I thought he was not spending as much time with me as he used to, he would give me a greeting card telling me he loved me more and more each day, and wanted us to be together forever.

So, sometimes the other person gives off mixed signals. Then it's really hard to hear his cry for help.

This is a tough one to answer. I am an intuitive person and can usually pick up on things other people can't. But I didn't know he has passive thoughts of self eliminating because he had severe ADHD. He said the only time that those thoughts stopped was when he had me in his live. But that's not what he died from.

[worldscolide]

My friend, some signs are ignored. Our way of crying for help is different than a woman's way. My wife knows very well when to ask if something is wrong.

[laly520]

men generally aren't heard enough when it comes to mental illness n depression

a lot of men do face depression alone without receiving any support BUT also refuse to seek help for various reasons

[worldscolide]

I can tell you why. We have it ground into us from an early age that we aren't to seek help that we are to solve our problems on our own. That it's wrong to seek out help. This kind of thinking needs to stop.

[worldscolide]

Then you have the other side of the coin, and it's when we do show our vulnerability, it gets used against us by those that awe are supposed to be able to love and trust the most. Thankfully my wife does not do that.

[laly520]

totally agree with u
lucky u for having her

[worldscolide]

Agreed

[BCRanger10]

I'd be interested to see actual studies on this. I'm getting more and more wary of images that include these kinds of details. I'm not saying they're wrong, but I'm becoming more cautious of them.

[worldscolide]

I get that. The image is true, at least in my experience, especially the work part. There aren't studies on this though because the psychology community doesn't really look at men and what they do when they cry for help. The psychology community is largely geared toward women.

[worldscolide]

If you look at Robin Williams behavior before he took his life, the warning signs were there, but he put a happy face on for the public..

[worldscolide]

Same with Chester Bennington. And the lead singer from stone temple pilots.

[exitseven]

That is exactly what it is like. I used to think that if a car suddenly jumped the curb ad I was walking by , I might not move out if the way

[worldscolide]

It's terrible. And often we suffer in silence, because those that we are supposed to trust the most will use it against us when we open up..

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[midnightmoon05]

I believe most men behave this way…keep things to themselves because they were taught to not show vulnerability. But they have so much inside that they want to share with that, that one woman they long to be with…to open his heart to…that would be the only woman who he can cry to…when love and trust is there.
my ex hubby often uses music and laughters to mask his pain from his childhood up bringing…I was too young to understand…he also often cried…more so than other men…. he was able to open up to me…but the issues he and his parents had were bigger than I could handle. The issue was his mom never wanted to let him go and still won’t cut the cord.

At this point I understand him better and can teach my teen daughter how to work with him so that level of stress/trauma doesn’t carry on to her future generation.

Men…very very hard for them to open up. I hope they learn to identify compatible women to live and love to feel safe to share their deepest fear.

[worldscolide]

Absolutely no disagreement here. Plus when we do open up to the wrong person, our weaknesses are used against us

[IslaTheWitch]

there are many ways of crying for help... changes in habits, self-harm, disconnecting from life, saying goodbyes... not only men show them this way. Children, teens, women, men... we all...

we should keep a close look at our people, to be able to notice those changes and it's sometimes not possible because they can happen in time, slowly... so we should be taught to ask openly for help... at least let's try to teach that our children...

[worldscolide]

You're absolutely right

[TheSpaceGnome]

I mean when I'm upset and want help, I ask for help fixing the specific problem.

I don't change what music I listen to, or operate any machines differently, and I enjoy job crunch, so overworking is not a sign I'm uspset, its a sign I'm enthralled.

Whats the point of being subtle or stoic or changing habits? Just be blunt and honest, its simpler.