I started uni very recently and before it started, i had become friends with a guy who's going to the same department as mine on social media. We exchanged texts daily and the exchange was playful and fun. He even said we'd be inseparable close friends by graduation and i expected so too. but unfortunately, we didn't get into the same class, which virtually means we won't have contact with each other even on the same campus because classes are completely separate. Still, last week when uni started, we finally met for an info session at uni and went to lunch together before that. I enjoyed chatting with him because it was very easy to talk to him and i assumed he did too, but later that day when I texted him and suggested that we hang out again sometime soon after class, he texted me back and said not anytime soon bc he'll be busy with classes and other activities, strangely also adding that he would prefer to hang out in a group next time even if there's next time. i'm sure he's not in a relationship and i never suggested anything romantic and i genuinely just want to hang out with him again because it was fun chatting with him. since then, his replies got very slowly and much shorter. On top of that, i asked him this week if he'd like to go to an interesting uni event this week after class with me and when he finally replied he shortly just said he'd take a rain check (as his classes end before noon that day and the event is in the evening) and suggested i ask someone else particularly in my class out. I can't help feeling he's no longer interested in maitaining our still new friendship. and it's realistically very likely to just fizzle out as i don't see him at uni and texting is pretty much the only communication between us. Should i just let it naturally fade away without trying to keep the texting going and just forget about him or try to keep in touch with him by still sending him messages?
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Should I try to contiune text exchange with a guy friend who doesn't seem as willing to chat as before?
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Let it fade away slowly
Either something happened when y'all met that he didn't like or its literally nothing and he sees you close enough as a friend to where he doesn't have to lie to you and is being honest that he can't meet
Either way just put the ball in his court let him make the next move, so stop initiating the messages and asking to hang out and see if he hits you up
If he does that your good to go and it was genuinely nothing, if not. Then he ain't like something about you. Or your friendship just want as important to him as you would have hoped.
The goal is to see if he notices you've disappeared and to see if he wants to hang out. To find out how important your friendship really is
Just prepare for the worst but it's okay to have a little bit of hope that he still does like being your friend. But if all you have is hope, being let down will hurt you a lot more