What does it mean when a guy say it’s up to you to break up with him?

[Anonymous]

[Fanfare690]

My boyfriend always says this. And I took it as he doesn't want to break up that if I break up then we are done. But looking at these comments got me thinking... maybe he feels guilty or bad if he did. Me and boyfriend are still together but still it got me thinking

[Fanfare690]

My man also tells me he loves me more than I love him till this day so...

[Asker]

Lucky

[Fanfare690]

I am.
Stick it out with your boyfriend
Have a serious talk about it. Get his perspective

[Asker]

He doesn’t care

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice tho

[Asker]

I think he only wants sex

[Fanfare690]

Sorry to hear
You deserve much better

[DishLady]

Either he’s being passive aggressive and doesn’t want to be blamed for stuff OR he still really likes you but obviously won’t stay where he’s not wanted.

[ProbablyClueless]

Gonna need a lot more context before I can help you.

[Asker]

So I told him I think the relationship isn’t going to work out but I didn’t explain why. He said maybe he wasn’t so busy and spend time with me every time would have been okay. Then I gave him reasons is because he’s horny and only think about sex. He’s childish. He said one reason not to break up. He said it’s up to me if I want to break up with him.

[ProbablyClueless]

From what you described, it sounds like he just meant the straightforward interpretation of what he said. He doesn't agree with your decision to break up, but he recognizes that it's your choice.

[Asker]

He seem like he doesn’t care

[ProbablyClueless]

He's respecting your decision. He realizes that there's not much point in trying to convince you otherwise... were you hoping that he would get angry and fight for you?

[Asker]

No I wasn’t hoping for to do all that

[Asker]

He never tried to convince me and he never seem interested in me unless it was about sex

[ProbablyClueless]

Oh okay. Was his reaction what you were expecting/hoping for? How do you feel about the situation?

[Asker]

The reaction I was hoping is we can be friends. I felt stupid because I think he’s just using me for sex.

[ProbablyClueless]

Gotcha... This could be a situation where he just never felt like he connected with you on any deeper level than the physical.

[Asker]

I know and it sucks

[OtterMan68]

he doesn't want to be the "bad guy"

[WhitneySnow]

He’s not gonna dump you but he wants to break up and he wants you to do it so he doesn’t feel bad

[laly520]

means he is done n doesn't care anymore about relationship

[Asker]

What’s the point of him saying if we would have spend more time together every time would have been okay,

[Asker]

? I meant question mark not comma

[laly520]

he is wasting time

[laly520]

n obviously its over for him

[Asker]

So he’s wasting time with me?

[laly520]

yes while waiting for u to end it
he doesn't have enough courage to do it on his own

[Asker]

Why would he ask for 1 reason not to break up?

[laly520]

cuz he is sure of it being over n pushing u to end it

[Asker]

Oh thanks