Why would a guy unmatch you on a dating app even if you’re considered beautiful and don’t have anything weird in your profile?

[Anonymous]

I messaged a few guys on bumble and some unmatched me or even before I even sent a message.
Im confused because I didn’t say anything weird and I have really pretty and classy photos. I’ve modeled before so I know I’m not ugly or anything so I’m feeling confused and hurt.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Don't stress yourself out, I bet that happened to everyone as well. 🤭

I have encountered the same before (on a different app) then matched with him again. He literally said I look like I'm going to break his heart so he unmatched me. 😂 Some of them may think you are out of their league or something, since you have pretty and classy pictures.

[Asker]

This means a lot! I seriously was so frustrated because I put together a great profile and I’m confused. I put in looking for a relationship, Christian, conservative, hobbies, high quality photos. Maybe the guys I attracted this time around were depraved psychopaths who hate women, I’m not sure.
Girl I’m starting to think a lot of these men are gay who reject hot women.

[DaveJord]

So, you're not very familiar with online dating? Pretty much that is everyone's experience online. There are all types of reasons why they would unmatched you. There is no way for you to know what they are looking for or want, and there is not why for you to know if what you said in the write up put him off.

I mean it takes more than good looks, and honestly all the write ups are pretty much bullshit.

[Asker]

You’re right. And maybe they just have poor taste and don’t actually like classy women they can bring home to their mom. Good luck to them. Lol

[DaveJord]

I mean they are probably thinking the same the thing about you. I quit online dating; everyone is there for a reason.

[Asker]

What do you mean thinking the same thing about me?
You’re right. I told myself before I’d never do apps again.

[DaveJord]

You said, "they just have poor taste and don’t actually like classy women they can bring home to their mom."

I mean they could say the same thing about you, I mean they honestly don't know a single thing about you, and you do not know a single thing about them. You are both just making assumptions

I think people in general do not go online to find someone to take home to meet their mom. At least that has been me experience. Doesn't matter how classy they are, or good looking... it just seldom works out that way.

I mean it is just hard to want to trust an online dating profile... after trying for years and getting burned every time. Start out fun and everything is great... then all of sudden something changes, and they are gone. Just not worth the effort, and if you are building yourself up to be this great and classy chick... why are you online?

[DaveJord]

You want to find love, I mean you're a beautiful, classy chick, why you are online. Should not be that hard right?

But it is.

[Asker]

I’m really shy and not going out a lot so I thought I’d give a chance to online dating. But you’re right. In all honesty I can get good offers in person when I do go out. I’ll just delete the apps for good. I don't know why I even bothered signing up lol

[DaveJord]

I totally understand... I been through it many times. Not judging you at all, just sharing the love!

[Asker]

Thanks so much. It’s a tough world for sure. Sometimes it’s so incomprehensible how even basic things like dating can be so scary and challenging to this extent.

[DaveJord]

It can make you question everything. Then you get stuck in a loop like it 's ground hogs day. Trust me it not you, and you are not the only one. Men and women have the same issues.

Sorry you only 2o something, ground hogs day was Bill Murry movie where he was forced to relive the same day over and over again... on a repeat cycle.

[Asker]

Haha I’ve heard of that movie!
That’s refreshing. Sometimes I get so frustrated cuz I have worked so much on myself and do want to get married within the next few years but find the process annoying. The good news is I feel highly about myself so now it’s just a matter of finding someone to match my energy.

[DaveJord]

I wish you the very best of luck.