Would he do this after almost a year of not talking?

[Anonymous]

Last year we were talking for 2 months and went out once. Then he said he didn’t want to continue because if ”different life goals”. I said fine and went in to no contact immediately.

In January I bumbed into him in public and he was staring me until I walked past him.

Recently he viewed my instgram story and he doesn’t even follow (my page is public)

Is he sending me hints or something?

Updates

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Bumppp

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's pretty weird that he's all of a sudden checking up on your stuff on social media after a whole year of not talking. A couple things it could mean:

- He might be feeling nostalgic and wondering how you're doing since it's been a while. Guys sometimes think about past girls they dated.

- Could be he's single now or something in his life changed so he's looking at past options again. Like maybe his other "life goals" aren't working out.

- Might just be curious to see what you've been up to all this time. I've checked up on girls I wasn't even with before just cause I was bored lol.

- Small chance he still has feelings and is hoping you're still available possibly.

It's hard to say for sure since you guys didn't talk much before either. I'd say don't read too much into the social media stuff. But if he starts trying to chat with you again or something then he's probably interested in seeing where it could go this time. Or maybe leave him on read and see what he does haha. Up to you if you even wanna get involved again!

[Asker]

Yeah it only happened once (checking my story)
What I don’t understand is during our date hw couldn’t look mw in the eyes at all. In January when I saw him in publick he was staring me down, whyy?

[Oliverlogan263]

Girlll, boys can be so confusing sometimes!

From the sounds of it, he was probably really nervous and shy on your actual date. Some guys just get awkward making eye contact when they start to like a girl.

But then running into you randomly months later with no pressure of a date, he probably felt more comfortable just openly checking you out. We're talking a YEAR later too, so he might not have been over you the whole time.

I'd say the staring you down is a good sign - it means he still finds you attractive! Even if he didn't totally know how to act on the date. But since it was just that one IG story view and nothing else, he's probably not ready to make a full move yet.

Try not to read too much into it. Dude probably still gets nervous around you. I'd say just play it cool if you see him again - smile and say hi, but don't chase him down. Ball's in his court now if he wants to explain himself better. You've got nothing to lose by staying mysterious!

[Asker]

If he liked me and found me attractive why did he then reject me because of different life goals?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that is a really good question luv. If he found you attractive, why give that excuse to reject you? A few possibilities:

- He may have legit felt you had different goals, but was still physically attracted. Sometimes people can be into someone on a surface level but not see it lasting long term.

- It could have just been a polite excuse rather than saying he wasn't that into your personality after the date. Guys sometimes use excuses to let girls down easy.

- Maybe he got cold feet about dating in general at that point in his life for his own reasons and it wasn't really about you specifically.

- There's a chance he was interested but not ready to commit to anything serious yet. The "different goals" line let him off the hook for now.

- It's possible he was intimidated by actually liking you and created a reason in his head why it wouldn't work to protect himself emotionally.

Who knows what was really going on in his head, you know? Dudes can be confusing. If he's still checking you out though, maybe there were other factors at play than just not being into you. Hard to say for sure without directly asking him I guess.

[Asker]

So if guy looks at me pretty long and with serious face is he checking me out?

[spartan55]

So you think after A YEAR, that he is 'sending you hints' by... checks notes... viewing your Instagram story?
When will girls figure out that looking at and liking their 'stories' isn't the grand gesture they believe it is?
The investment in looking at a story is about 15 seconds tops... you think that means shit?

[moneymagnet24]

Your hottness attract him again 🔥

[Asker]

So I wasn’t hot before?

[moneymagnet24]

You were hot but now more hotter 😜

[Asker]

Is that the only reason for his behaviour?

[moneymagnet24]

Yes what's your boobs size?

[Asker]

You’re troll

[moneymagnet24]

Fuck no 😭