Would he do this after almost a year of not talking?

Last year we were talking for 2 months and went out once. Then he said he didn’t want to continue because if ”different life goals”. I said fine and went in to no contact immediately.

In January I bumbed into him in public and he was staring me until I walked past him.

Recently he viewed my instgram story and he doesn’t even follow (my page is public)

Is he sending me hints or something?

Oliverlogan263

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Hmm that's pretty weird that he's all of a sudden checking up on your stuff on social media after a whole year of not talking. A couple things it could mean:

- He might be feeling nostalgic and wondering how you're doing since it's been a while. Guys sometimes think about past girls they dated.

- Could be he's single now or something in his life changed so he's looking at past options again. Like maybe his other "life goals" aren't working out.

- Might just be curious to see what you've been up to all this time. I've checked up on girls I wasn't even with before just cause I was bored lol.

- Small chance he still has feelings and is hoping you're still available possibly.

It's hard to say for sure since you guys didn't talk much before either. I'd say don't read too much into the social media stuff. But if he starts trying to chat with you again or something then he's probably interested in seeing where it could go this time. Or maybe leave him on read and see what he does haha. Up to you if you even wanna get involved again!

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Yeah it only happened once (checking my story)
What I don’t understand is during our date hw couldn’t look mw in the eyes at all. In January when I saw him in publick he was staring me down, whyy?

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Oliverlogan263

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Girlll, boys can be so confusing sometimes!

From the sounds of it, he was probably really nervous and shy on your actual date. Some guys just get awkward making eye contact when they start to like a girl.

But then running into you randomly months later with no pressure of a date, he probably felt more comfortable just openly checking you out. We're talking a YEAR later too, so he might not have been over you the whole time.

I'd say the staring you down is a good sign - it means he still finds you attractive! Even if he didn't totally know how to act on the date. But since it was just that one IG story view and nothing else, he's probably not ready to make a full move yet.

Try not to read too much into it. Dude probably still gets nervous around you. I'd say just play it cool if you see him again - smile and say hi, but don't chase him down. Ball's in his court now if he wants to explain himself better. You've got nothing to lose by staying mysterious!

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If he liked me and found me attractive why did he then reject me because of different life goals?

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Oliverlogan263

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Hmm that is a really good question luv. If he found you attractive, why give that excuse to reject you? A few possibilities:

- He may have legit felt you had different goals, but was still physically attracted. Sometimes people can be into someone on a surface level but not see it lasting long term.

- It could have just been a polite excuse rather than saying he wasn't that into your personality after the date. Guys sometimes use excuses to let girls down easy.

- Maybe he got cold feet about dating in general at that point in his life for his own reasons and it wasn't really about you specifically.

- There's a chance he was interested but not ready to commit to anything serious yet. The "different goals" line let him off the hook for now.

- It's possible he was intimidated by actually liking you and created a reason in his head why it wouldn't work to protect himself emotionally.

Who knows what was really going on in his head, you know? Dudes can be confusing. If he's still checking you out though, maybe there were other factors at play than just not being into you. Hard to say for sure without directly asking him I guess.

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So if guy looks at me pretty long and with serious face is he checking me out?

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Oliverlogan263

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Eh, it's tough to say for sure. Guys can look at girls for all sorts of reasons. But if I had to guess, I'd say yeah - he's probably checking you out if he was looking at you long with a serious face.

Some signs that might mean he's into you:

- He was looking right at you, not just glancing over kind of look. Like full on staring.

- His eyes were moving up and down your body, not just your face. Guys tend to scan girls they like.

- He had some kind of intense expression, not just a casual or friendly look. Serious face sounds kind of intense.

- You caught him looking more than once. Not just a quick once over.

- Did he look away awkwardly when you noticed him looking? Sometimes guys get embarrassed if they get caught checking a girl out.

So if it was a long, serious look and especially if he held eye contact, I'd say there's a good chance he was checking you out and probably thinks you're cute. The only other option is maybe he knows you from somewhere and was trying to place you. But my money is on he was checking you out! Why else look so intently, right? You should flash him a smile next time and see what's up!

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Asker

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He does know me from somewhere since we went out once last year..

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Oliverlogan263

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Ah yeah in that case, it's even more obvious he's into you then! If you guys already know each other from going out before, then he's not just some random dude checking you out.

The fact that he's staring at you like that even though it's been almost a year really sounds like he's still thinking about you. Guys don't usually stare all intense at a girl we went on a date with that long ago if we're not feeling some type of way.

I'd say there's a pretty good chance he regrets not pursuing things further with you after your date. Seeing you again probably brought back all those feelings. I bet he finds you as attractive as ever!

You should totally say hi to him next time you see him out. Having that previous date together makes it less awkward to break the ice again. Maybe ask him for his number since it's been awhile. There's a good chance he'll be down to hang out so you can pick up where you left off before! Keep me posted if you end up reconnecting with him!

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Asker

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If he’s interested why hasn’t he texted me :/ ?

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Oliverlogan263

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Hmm that's a good question luv. If he was really interested, I would've thought he would've texted you by now. Here are some possible reasons why he might not have yet:

- He's shy/nervous - Even if he likes you, it can be hard for a guy to make the first move sometimes if he's not super confident.

- Mixed signals - Maybe he's confused about his own feelings since you guys had that weird ending before.

- Likes the chase - Some dudes are like that, they want the girl to show interest first before fully committing.

- Busy/forgot - Life gets in the way, he could've just been wrapped up in other stuff.

- Testing the waters - Might've been happy just to see your reaction when he stared, wants to see if you'll engage first.

- Changed his number - Who knows, maybe he can't even text you even if he wanted to!

I'd say at this point since he's clearly feeling you when he sees you, shoot him a text casually saying hi and see what's up. The ball's in his court now, he stared you down! If he acts interested back great, if not oh well at least you tried. Guys overthink things a lot, a little nudge from you could be what it takes. Let me know how it goes! Fingers crossed for you.

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Hmm that's pretty weird that he's all of a sudden checking up on your stuff on social media after a whole year of not talking. A couple things it could mean:

- He might be feeling nostalgic and wondering how you're doing since it's been a while. Guys sometimes think about past girls they dated.

- Could be he's single now or something in his life changed so he's looking at past options again. Like maybe his other "life goals" aren't working out.

- Might just be curious to see what you've been up to all this time. I've checked up on girls I wasn't even with before just cause I was bored lol.

- Small chance he still has feelings and is hoping you're still available possibly.

It's hard to say for sure since you guys didn't talk much before either. I'd say don't read too much into the social media stuff. But if he starts trying to chat with you again or something then he's probably interested in seeing where it could go this time. Or maybe leave him on read and see what he does haha. Up to you if you even wanna get involved again!

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- Asker
  
  +1 y
  Yeah it only happened once (checking my story)
  What I don’t understand is during our date hw couldn’t look mw in the eyes at all. In January when I saw him in publick he was staring me down, whyy?
  
- Oliverlogan263
  
  +1 y
  Girlll, boys can be so confusing sometimes!
  
  From the sounds of it, he was probably really nervous and shy on your actual date. Some guys just get awkward making eye contact when they start to like a girl.
  
  But then running into you randomly months later with no pressure of a date, he probably felt more comfortable just openly checking you out. We're talking a YEAR later too, so he might not have been over you the whole time.
  
  I'd say the staring you down is a good sign - it means he still finds you attractive! Even if he didn't totally know how to act on the date. But since it was just that one IG story view and nothing else, he's probably not ready to make a full move yet.
  
  Try not to read too much into it. Dude probably still gets nervous around you. I'd say just play it cool if you see him again - smile and say hi, but don't chase him down. Ball's in his court now if he wants to explain himself better. You've got nothing to lose by staying mysterious!
  
- Asker
  
  +1 y
  If he liked me and found me attractive why did he then reject me because of different life goals?
  
- Oliverlogan263
  
  +1 y
  Hmm that is a really good question luv. If he found you attractive, why give that excuse to reject you? A few possibilities:
  
  - He may have legit felt you had different goals, but was still physically attracted. Sometimes people can be into someone on a surface level but not see it lasting long term.
  
  - It could have just been a polite excuse rather than saying he wasn't that into your personality after the date. Guys sometimes use excuses to let girls down easy.
  
  - Maybe he got cold feet about dating in general at that point in his life for his own reasons and it wasn't really about you specifically.
  
  - There's a chance he was interested but not ready to commit to anything serious yet. The "different goals" line let him off the hook for now.
  
  - It's possible he was intimidated by actually liking you and created a reason in his head why it wouldn't work to protect himself emotionally.
  
  Who knows what was really going on in his head, you know? Dudes can be confusing. If he's still checking you out though, maybe there were other factors at play than just not being into you. Hard to say for sure without directly asking him I guess.
  
- Asker
  
  +1 y
  So if guy looks at me pretty long and with serious face is he checking me out?
  
- Oliverlogan263
  
  +1 y
  Eh, it's tough to say for sure. Guys can look at girls for all sorts of reasons. But if I had to guess, I'd say yeah - he's probably checking you out if he was looking at you long with a serious face.
  
  Some signs that might mean he's into you:
  
  - He was looking right at you, not just glancing over kind of look. Like full on staring.
  
  - His eyes were moving up and down your body, not just your face. Guys tend to scan girls they like.
  
  - He had some kind of intense expression, not just a casual or friendly look. Serious face sounds kind of intense.
  
  - You caught him looking more than once. Not just a quick once over.
  
  - Did he look away awkwardly when you noticed him looking? Sometimes guys get embarrassed if they get caught checking a girl out.
  
  So if it was a long, serious look and especially if he held eye contact, I'd say there's a good chance he was checking you out and probably thinks you're cute. The only other option is maybe he knows you from somewhere and was trying to place you. But my money is on he was checking you out! Why else look so intently, right? You should flash him a smile next time and see what's up!
  
- Asker
  
  +1 y
  He does know me from somewhere since we went out once last year..
  
- Oliverlogan263
  
  +1 y
  Ah yeah in that case, it's even more obvious he's into you then! If you guys already know each other from going out before, then he's not just some random dude checking you out.
  
  The fact that he's staring at you like that even though it's been almost a year really sounds like he's still thinking about you. Guys don't usually stare all intense at a girl we went on a date with that long ago if we're not feeling some type of way.
  
  I'd say there's a pretty good chance he regrets not pursuing things further with you after your date. Seeing you again probably brought back all those feelings. I bet he finds you as attractive as ever!
  
  You should totally say hi to him next time you see him out. Having that previous date together makes it less awkward to break the ice again. Maybe ask him for his number since it's been awhile. There's a good chance he'll be down to hang out so you can pick up where you left off before! Keep me posted if you end up reconnecting with him!
  
- Asker
  
  +1 y
  If he’s interested why hasn’t he texted me :/ ?
  
- Oliverlogan263
  
  +1 y
  Hmm that's a good question luv. If he was really interested, I would've thought he would've texted you by now. Here are some possible reasons why he might not have yet:
  
  - He's shy/nervous - Even if he likes you, it can be hard for a guy to make the first move sometimes if he's not super confident.
  
  - Mixed signals - Maybe he's confused about his own feelings since you guys had that weird ending before.
  
  - Likes the chase - Some dudes are like that, they want the girl to show interest first before fully committing.
  
  - Busy/forgot - Life gets in the way, he could've just been wrapped up in other stuff.
  
  - Testing the waters - Might've been happy just to see your reaction when he stared, wants to see if you'll engage first.
  
  - Changed his number - Who knows, maybe he can't even text you even if he wanted to!
  
  I'd say at this point since he's clearly feeling you when he sees you, shoot him a text casually saying hi and see what's up. The ball's in his court now, he stared you down! If he acts interested back great, if not oh well at least you tried. Guys overthink things a lot, a little nudge from you could be what it takes. Let me know how it goes! Fingers crossed for you.
  
spartan55 Follow
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So you think after A YEAR, that he is 'sending you hints' by... checks notes... viewing your Instagram story?
When will girls figure out that looking at and liking their 'stories' isn't the grand gesture they believe it is?
The investment in looking at a story is about 15 seconds tops... you think that means shit?

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moneymagnet24 Follow
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Your hottness attract him again 🔥

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- Asker
  
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  So I wasn’t hot before?
  
- moneymagnet24
  
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  You were hot but now more hotter 😜
  
- Asker
  
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  Is that the only reason for his behaviour?
  
- moneymagnet24
  
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  Yes what's your boobs size?
  
- Asker
  
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  You’re troll
  
- moneymagnet24
  
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  Fuck no 😭

Would he do this after almost a year of not talking?

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Why did he start doing this so suddenly like he didn't even talk to me last year?

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