I’ve met this guy at church. He’s really sweet and generous. We’ve became friends after we’ve met and I feel like maybe it might lead to something more. I find that I’ve been overthinking everything with him, feeling like I maybe did something wrong that we don’t talk much or he doesn’t see me as much in church. What I mean is that he’s told me that he has a lot going on with his family and that has caused us not to go out and do anything together. Recently I asked him if he wanted to go see a movie with me, and he said he had to do something with his family. Even with texting each other, it’s not like it used to be. We have like small talk and that’s about it. Like today I just felt sad because I felt like maybe I’m doing something wrong, and I keep overthink it. It’s just that I never had a boyfriend before or really had a true friend, that I’m just afraid that I might lose him. And honestly I just want to feel loved and cared about for once because guys don’t approach me or take interest in me. Which is why I deny that I like him, and only like him as a friend. Am I just forcing something to happen? Also this is the guy I’ve talked about in my recent post.
Just sounds like he’s not interested. He’s just trying to be nice. From reading what you wrote if I’m being honest I’d probably feel annoyed w you always trying to converse w me. It seems like a little too much especially if he’s not interested. Maybe he doesn’t want to be rude. A man will make time no matter what for a girl he’s really interested in. I know when I was stationed overseas I’d wake up at 2 am just to talk to a girl back here in the states. Even if that meant losing 1-2 hours of sleep then having to get up by 4 am.
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You are not doing anything wrong. I sounds like he is not interested in you the way you are hoping or he already has a girlfriend he is not telling you about. He may also be from a strict family that will not allow him to have a girlfriend.
A girl can be her own worst enemy in situations like this. Try to step back and give the guy space to think. We tend to get excited about the guy and the guy still needs time to just sit and think. If you rush the guy, he'll feel "trapped" and probably only say what he thinks you want to hear, which is no good.
U just want to feel loved , like u said yourself. U are lonely. U don’t really love this person. U feel they would be a great band aid. And trust me u will discard them after u get validation and approval and not in your lonely low state anymore
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