Can a guy be completely oblivious to women checking him out?

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I ask because either it never happens or I simply don’t see it

Boobafooba · Accepted Answer

You tell me dude. I can’t tell if she’s checking me out and all these signs from women go over my head. This girl had plenty of room to workout and she came right next to me. We are all facing the mirror and she’s side by side with me. As I’m working out I can see in the corner of my eye that her whole body was turned toward me and not the mirror. She was looking at me as I worked out. A few minutes later I turned to my whole body to the left where she was standing next to me to look at the benches behind her. It’s like she noticed me looking in her body's direction and she immediately turned her body and face away from the mirror to her left to look at me again. Like she was trying to catch eye contact. Then she just stared at me. At that moment we weren’t side by side but now face to face with bodies facing eachother.

RebelinSteel · Accepted Answer

Yeah it’s fairly common, not only that you often don’t notice she’s subtly hitting on you.

i met an ex in a pub, her and her mates had been looking over at me and my mates. Then she was the one getting the drinks in every time I went to the bar, so she could casually chat to me.

i never noticed this, it was not until later when everyone was leaving and I was chatting to the barmaid, that this girl bought me a drink n asked if I was leaving or staying. I found out about this after we started seeing each other. It’s really easy to miss something in your face and really obvious.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I find the difference between men and women is that men over estimate a woman's desire for them and women underestimate a man's desire for them. I've had guys assume I like them just because I was trying to be polite and considerate.

Lowiu · Accepted Answer

Yes my boyfriend didn't realize how much I was checking him out in the beginning

GoodManDave · Answer

All I know is, I doubt I am oblivious. If any women ARE checking me out, or showing interest, they're doing a VERY good job of hiding it (or being subtle... so subtle no one would see it). I doubt it's happening - partly because I see so few single women at all.

Unless they're a block away, or in a car, and I'm walking down the street, oblivious, I might not "feel" like I'm being looked at. I would think though that if it's happening, I would have CAUGHT it happening at some point.

But can guys be oblivious? Sure.

Cute_Miss_Laura · Answer

Yes! Trust me, I can't tell you how many guys I’ve looked at, and when he looks at me I touch my hair, and NOTHING! It really is like guys are completely oblivious to the signs girls give to show you we want you to ask us out!

Laura. 🤗 🥰

demonics · Answer

Plausible deniability.

"I flirted with him and he didn't notice? His loss."

"I will be SO subtle so I can play it off in case he doesn't take the bait."

"I believe I flirted with him therefore I did."

Anything to preserve their feelings. They get more bold as they age.

Age 15: Sits close to you

Age 20: Glances in your general direction

Age 25: DM's you about something completely unrelated

Age 30: "I have this friend you should meet." (its her, she's the friend)

Age 35: "So, you gonna buy me a drink or what?"

Age 40: "You wanna get out of here?"

Age 45: "Whats a girl gotta do for some dick around here?"

SotiCoto · Answer

Of course. But it doesn't pay to be uncertain about these things. Women have a habit of obfuscating their meaning and trying to maintain plausible deniability in everything they do so that the responsibility for decisions can be pinned on the man.
As such men often come to realise that nothing less than absolute certainty is enough to commit to. Women tend to falsely interpret this as men being clueless... as opposed to the reality where men are generally aware of what is going on, but can't be 100% sure they've judged it accurately.

diversethought · Answer

Yes, I have completely missed ques from a woman to talk to her. It's like that philosophy goes, if a tree falls in a forest, and nobody hears the sound or saw it happen, did it still happen?

Women, some women, are shy... and so are some guys. If you see her look at you and smile, uuge brownie points. If she touches her lips or hair after, if her mouth is slightly open and her eyes wide, if she looks at your crotch, if she looks you up and down. A shy woman however will play tag. She'll look, you look, she'll look away. She looks back, you look, she looks away. If you don't get the woman I mentioned in the beginning, then I wouldn't pursue, but the shy girl you could. Women are unique and flirtatious by nature. What you perceive as an invitation could just be her checking you out.

Phoneposter · Answer

It definitely happens. For me when I find someone particularly attractive i can't actually make much eye contact with them so I'll usually admire them when they're not paying attention or just glance here and there.
This isn't the case across the board, I'll also be cautious about glancing at someone that looks particularly weird in some way so the most reliable method is just getting to know them enough until you feel safe to ask them out If you're interested in them.
There's just no one way when it comes to attraction and flirting. From the female experience, I've met men that will be overly forward to where it makes my skin crawl and men that just steal glances from a distance and wait a few years to tell me they had a crush on me at that time

A_Nihilist · Answer

Honestly, if I look at a woman who is looking at me and they smile at me. Most of the time I assume that it's a nervous smile that a lot of people do when a stranger is staring at them, rather than them checking me out. Which just results in me looking somewhere else not wanting to make them uncomfortable.

I wish we lived in a world where every woman had the courage to walk straight up to guys and be blunt with them. "Hey, you, me and a coffee? Cool?" Or however people do it these days. But that's rare to happen in my experience.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

For sure. I think most guys are. Mostly because women are too “subtle”. That’s how they spell ‘chicken shit’. Ell oh ell!
A proven technique for getting and keeping someone’s attention is “mirroring”. It works because you’re literally speaking another person’s body language. If you’re afraid to use your words, practice mirroring. That way “subtle” cues aren’t lost on the intended recipient.

HawkPerception · Answer

My buddy and my exes have all told me I get attention, but I don't notice a thing. I genuinely think they're just saying that boost my confidence, because I like to think I'm an observant guy that is aware of people around me.

But yeah... guys tend to be more oblivious than girls.

Katebfun · Answer

You have to understand women are more subtle then men. Women see the tiny details so we know when a man is interested. Some men think a women is kind and flirty likes them, she might just be that way charismatic women who is like that with others. Some women are coy/shy and watch you at a distance. Look in her eyes. Eyes never lie, energy never lies. Body Language, laughs at your jokes, smiles. All are signs she likes you

Bricealan · Answer

Don't feel alone in that. Many/most women are very subtle in doing that, and I was only told later that she was watching, and checking me out... Men are just too obvious about doing that.

Women are subtle... My wife 'trapped' me in a grocery store at the checkout stand, and I had no idea she had been watching me... completely blindsided me.

RavVid · Answer

Yes. And be completely oblivious to her interest.

One of the best clues is that she loses interest in talking to you. While quite definitive, the retrospective perspective is retrospective and not very helpful.

It would be more helpful if they stared at our crotch the way we lock eyes with their breasts. They do take peeks though.

thearchjoker · Answer

Yes it happens to men all the time. Men suck at knowing when a girl is interested or hitting on them. I didn't know my Ex was even interested in me until she started walking besides me while hugging my arm. Only after that i was certain she was actually interested in me.

goaded · Answer

Yes, but it doesn't mean it is happening, either. People can also think there's a connection where there isn't. The only 100% safe thing to do is to talk openly (says someone who has totally F*ed up by not doing so on multiple occasions; learn from my mistakes).

82lynx · Answer

Don’t expect me to read your mind. Just be direct.

Even if you are direct, it will be hard to convince me that you’re being genuine.

Since my requirements are very different than those of most men, and women in general haven’t treated me well, I can’t think of a reason why I would want to take on dead weight.

DarkOsiris · Answer

There's a good chance we're oblivious to women checking us out as it usually isn't a common thing for the majority of guys. I usually stay away from assuming it's happening; even with other hints because I like, many other guys, know what it's like to mistake attention from women.

MLGbreezy · Answer

Yes but I think girls just don’t make as obvious as they think they do a lot of times they don’t wanna come off desperate do they do this subtle bs that if you’re not already paying attention Or checking them out then you’ll never notice but I’ve honestly stopped looking for signs if a girls being flirty or not if you see a girl you think looks good shoot ya shot you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Yes.. The amount of times I've been told after having been checked out by random woman (and men for that matter) has to be at least 20! Might even be nearer to 30! I've never once noticed!

Anonymous · Answer

YES! guys will beg and beg and beg me and then i check out some guy and i could be standing naked in front of him and he doesn't get it. not quite that bad but it does seem like it sometimes

blueonblack22 · Answer

Yes and I think most guys are. But some guys are naturally good at this. I wasn’t one of them growing up but my spidey senses pick up on it now.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Yeppers, I was clueless when I was younger, and it really hasn't gotten much better, so to all of those that were interested in me over the years, I wasn't stuck up, I just didn't have a clue.

Sorry about that.

JacobJordan · Answer

I definitely am. Married for almost 20 years. My wife still tells me that it is happening because I can't tell. Even if I could I would reject them but yeah it is very possible to have to no romantic radar.

AviatorTom · Answer

Women are sneaky, not blatant like guys are. They don't stare and they don't whistle. Besides, we guys are not thst observant... about most things.

molonski2 · Answer

Happens all the time , with guys women need to be absolutely beyond obvious , men are often oblivious.

b_lova · Answer

They do it so quick we don't notice it. At least that's what my girlfriend says. Unlike us their eyes don't linger.

Avicenna · Answer

It's not only possible, it happens quite a bit. It's nothing to embarrassed about- you can't possibly always tell.

DishLady · Answer

Sure. Anyone can be if they’re busy or preoccupied with something else.

Unit1 · Answer

I question Even what makes women think doing nothing is sending signals. I mean almost everybody glances or flips their hair. Doesn't mean most, that do that are interested.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, I am always oblivious of that. People used to tell me how a girl was checking me out and I used to think they were nuts.

MisterWack · Answer

Yes , nothing much more to add. Same happens to women too.

Finchie40 · Answer

Happens a lot , especially if we are focused on something else

Flatmanlewis · Answer

100% yes. We are not wired to expect this and it’s going to go right over the head of most men.

236color · Answer

Yes, we rarely figure out what women are doing.

ManInChains · Answer

I don’t think women check guys out. Why would they if they’re so afraid of men and sex?

JHAYES317 · Answer

Well according to my friends apparently I get hit on semi-regularly and don’t realize it, but I think they are just messing with me, so I’m gonna say no…

RossyBoi · Answer

Yes it happens all the time. My mates are always telling me that a girl was checking me out or flirting with me and I never noticed. Thought she was just being friendly.

Miristheiss · Answer

Sure. Us dudes can be social cues dense sometimes.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Yes. Most people don't make it obvious they're looking at someone

sheenagwapa · Answer

how do women check guys out? a girl who loves talking to you could be into you

Yannae · Answer

Even worse, they might be oblivious to a girl making a move on him. And this is why, ladies, you shouldn't hint but just be straight up.

bolverk · Answer

Without a doubt - Men just do not notice the cues/signals women use as they are too subtle instead of being upfront about their interest.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Yeah I was in both my relationships until they made unsubtle moves like snogging me in the case of the first and blowing me in the case of the second

Phoenix98 · Answer

For sure especially if your not at all paying attention.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Men can absolutely be oblivious to women checking him out.

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

Nope! Never worked for me. I stopped doing it. Now I am much more sneaky. Girls hate when guys check them out. a lot of them do anyway.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I'm sure it has happened if they are preoccupied with something else

Loner111 · Answer

I'm trying to act like I'm sooo hot, but I can feel the eyes on me at times and other things such as laughing, giggling.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I'm Pretty Sure we don't see it and we can never tell if a Girl is Flirting with us or just talking to us.

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

I usually don't pay attention to others but I've been told that guys check me out.

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah since women are better at it you will never know or expect it

OtterMan68 · Answer

it's possible. People can be really sly doing that.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Yes, but why would a dude not know he's being checked out?

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Yes. I’ve been oblivious only later to be told by friends

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

Only if he is based and cool. Go chase some weak cuck. They don't want you

straightmax12 · Answer

Yes, because sometimes a guy just wants relax and have fun and be by himself and not trying to flirt or talk to girls.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends if he's used to being checked out and recognises it as such.

anongirl68987 · Answer

Girls really will not let you know they like you but will find you attractive sadly

Anonymous · Answer

It happens to me from time to time. Women embarrass themselves infront of their friends and partners checking me out.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Of course.

elizamichale1 · Answer

I don't think so

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