So there's this guy. He's a year younger than I am and we've been friends for almost 5 years. We were friends, classmates, teammates, etc. I've become a part of his family. Before I left for university, he had just broken up with his first serious girlfriend. Even when he was with her, he always seemed to have this chemistry with me --I wasn't the only one who noticed it. We would joke about being "best friends". He would try to spend time with me as much as possible, would ask me who I have a crush on, etc. He told people he was going to make a move, but the timing wasn't right (also said he would've dated me if I wasn't leaving). Over the pst couple of years, we've still stayed connected and that chemistry is still there. He's always there whenever I need someone, when he looks at me while I talk I feel like he's daydreaming or something because he's so focused on what I'm talking about. The other day I FTed him and he answered, in some girl's room and kinda seemed to be hiding that fact, however, he was all chatty while I was trying not to cry bc I knew there was a girl behind the camera. I've liked him for about four years and I know at some point he felt the same but the time never really seemed right. What do I do? Could this be like Jim-Pam relationship from the Office [because we low-key resemble them exactly]? I want to date and marry this kid but I feel like my chances have vanished, is that true? I'm clueless on what to do so please please please let me know if I ws being delulu and he never liked me or if I'm just overthinking it and he still might have feelings for me deep down?
You are so infatuated that you cannot think straight and that you create those scenarios where there is a happy ending.
You know that if you want something to happen, you have to talk with him and not just talk over the phone or video conference. You are living in this secluded world like Cinderella and Snow White did and you don't want to face reality and wake up.
You need to act and take the lead if you don't want to miss an opportunity. Apparently, he is satisfied to keep things the way they are. You had your bout of jealousy when you saw he was having a good time with those girls.
You should set the record straight and tell him how you feel and ask him directly if your feelings are reciprocated. You are taking a 50/50 chance that they are not but if they are not, your heart will be broken for a while but then you can move on with your life. If on the other hand, they are reciprocated, then I hope you 2 will be happy knowing that you found each other.
But without you taking the lead on that one, I have the feeling that nothing will ever happen. Good luck.
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Why u like them. U do understand a younger guy can not protect and provide like a man ought to
You know it’s ok for you to make the first move , you don’t have to wait for him to make the first move Some guys’ just aren’t good at picking up on whether a girl is interested in him or not , the same goes for girls’ as well , when she isn’t sure on whether a guy is interested in her or not, we sometimes get confused on whether someone just likes us a friend or they want more than just friendship with us, it happens more than we think. So it’s ok for either party to make the first move, especially if you are unsure. If you really like this guy let him know how you truly feel about him. He will either say Yes or No. but at least you will have an answer.
Men and women are different. Women think that we can understand hints and read minds. We can't. Guys are simple, if you have questions, speak slowly, us simple words and don't leave anything to interpretation. You need to speak with him in person. Face to face. Then you can figure this out.
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Jesus... this is ridiculous
You are beyond overthinking here.
Good luck
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