Why won’t men commit, but will lay down and make a baby?

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A lot of men don't want to commit or get married, but they will lay down and make a baby. Half of them don't even take care of their kids, make it make sense.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

The majority of men are responsible, but maybe 10% of men are completely irresponsible and it's blatantly obvious - they don't take responsibility for anything. Most of them are "bad boys" - they sleep around, many have multiple women at once, etc. Some already have multiple other children with different women and don't take care of those kids either.

And, yet, a sizeable minority of women choose those "bad boys" because they are chaotic, irresponsible, and unpredictable - which those women see as interesting and exciting. "Good guys" who would be responsible and reliable are seen as boring, and they are largely ignored and are invisible to most women.

Women, not men, are the gatekeepers of sex. Women are the ones who decide which men become fathers (outside of rape) and women have all the say in which children are born and which are not. That makes this issue one that is solidly on women. Most women who get pregnant from an irresponsible man knew full well that he was irresponsible, but she either thought she could change him or she just shrugged and took her chances because she wanted what she wanted.

The only people who can change this is women, but most women today don't think they need to change and are unwilling to deny themselves whatever they want in the moment, so the chances of this changing is small.

It's not much different than women who choose to date drug dealers and then get upset when they go to prison for drugs and drug money. It's not difficult to avoid, but some women choose it, and are surprised when it goes badly.

Choices have consequences.

kmg9150 · Accepted Answer

Marriage is still form of slavery. I thought woman dont want to be “owned”?

The actual practice to how the bible describes marriage is hardly ever followed anymore. Marriage is merely a status title and a glamour event to show off. Marriage is not needed for one to commit, its actually the opposite. I would rather a woman that chooses to spend her time with me have the freedom to do otherwise, rather than one than spends time with me because marriage is supposed to stop them from doing otherwise…. Marriage is not a natural part of life, its a religious and social status ideology. Sex is natural.

This practice you speak of is imbedded in the male DNA. This why women have a limited number if eggs, but men produce sperm constantly. How bodies adapted to there reduction of the male population for numerous reason, but mostly because hunting and protecting was dangerous AF and dudes were dying. So in order to not become extinct, those men that could protect would have multiple partners with the ability to put a baby in each at the same time. This is also why women start having there period at a young age, because we werent all surviving as long as we are now…. So yeah, our species exist from a bunch of adolescence making babies recklessly.

True, real love doesn't need restraints to exist.

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SarahS98 · Accepted Answer

No one force her to have unprotected sex with a man that's not even her fiance at least. It takes two to make a baby and she was just as responsible too. The consequences of having kids with a man that doesn't commit is being a single mother, lowering your value as a woman for the next candidates of suitable men looking for marriage. She's then going to have a hard time finding a man that will commit and take care of someone else's kid.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because she is laying down spreading her legs as well , You shouldn’t be having sex with a guy that you do not feel completely comfortable with , or a guy you barely know anything about , so she has no room to talk , if she is allowing herself to be used that way. It takes 2 to Tango , so that’s something she should be thinking about , before spreading her legs with any guy , She is just as dumb as he is If she is getting knocked up by a guy she barely knows anything about. Sex doesn’t bring commitment , commitment comes from 2 people choosing each other and being honest with each other , proving to each other that they are both in it for the long haul not the short haul , if she doesn’t want to get pregnant? She should be wise about who she spreads her legs for period. Make his ass wear a condom or she should be on birth control if she doesn’t want to get knocked up. So I am sorry to say most you girls’ are complete dumbasses when it comes to screwing a guy you barely know anything about , stop pointing fingers before pointing fingers at yourself first.

Anonymous · Answer

This isn’t just on men. A lot of women want traditional men but they still want to be out clubbing, going on girls trips, shaking their goods out in public, etc. Men don’t want women like that. They don’t want women w high body counts, porn stars, only fans, etc. They may say they do but chances are that’s so he can get between her legs. Even if he thinks that’s what he wants eventually he realizes what comes w being w a girl like that. I think too men don’t want to commit because why should they? We’ve been told we’re trash, we don’t need you, I’m a boss bitch I can do it all by myself. Men get slammed in divorce court. They lose their house, their kids. The ex is still living in the house w a new man that he has to still pay for, on top of child support but can’t even see his children as much as he’d like to. To a lot of women a child is a paycheck. Men have been shamed for opening doors for women because it undermines her as a person. Men have been shamed by women in general just for being men. Everything a man does that a female doesn’t like or he stands his ground telling her no, he’s called narcissistic. A lot of women are just giving it up like candy, so of course a lot of these dudes won’t commit. Then you let him have sex before getting married, w no protection. That is something women can control. Either you tell him to wear protection or it’s not happening. Or you tell him you’re eating till marriage. A lot of women aren’t like they used to be in the past. Men are pretty good a adapting, many of us are just adapting to the culture of women today.

Lliam · Answer

Why would an unmarried woman have unprotected sex? It's she, not the guy, who can get pregnant. I think she should be responsible for the consequences.

I'm all for sexually active women. But they need to be responsible for themselves. It is their responsibility.

Every one of my girlfriends were on the pill. We had LOTS of bareback sex with never a pregnancy scare. So why not use birth control?

Condoms make for less than satisfactory sex, but they are better than nothing. And the pull out method is just retarded.

So I don't think that unmarried women who agree to have sex and wind up pregnant are poor victims. They are either stupid or they wanted to get pregnant. And quite a few unmarried women now days do want to get pregnant. There is no stigma attached to it anymore. In the past, the children would have been called bastards.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do women go for the type of man that doesn't take care of his kids?

Because you have shit taste in men. The good guys who would be good fathers are either married up or alone AF. And then there's the men women truly want who won't change a diaper to save their life.

It's all in the desire of the pussy. You wanted men to be like this for thousands of years. You fuck the alpha male and then settle for the beta provider.

Women created men to be this way. It's the ideal survival scenario. Top tier genes paired with beta male servitude. Every woman's ideal is the combination of the two but such things don't happen too often in reality.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i want to be respectful, but this is that question. so please don't hate me for the answer.

some guys don't want kids, but they still want to have sex. if a baby happens then it was worth 18 years of child support. if that guy is broke, then the government pays for it and he got a free lay.

use a condom or get on birth control.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

I wouldn’t consider that a man.😒
Also this isn’t all “men” but if it’s all you seem to come across than maybe try finding a man some place else. Definitely raise your standards. Sadly I think to many people want to hold their partners to a higher standard than them selves, not saying that this is you.
generally the better you are the better your partner is.

Anonymous · Answer

In the situation you describe, it’s not so much that the men want to make a baby (a guy who won’t commit a woman won’t want to get her pregnant), but more so men liking sex and often throwing caution to the wind not using condoms or ensuring their girl is on something.

Furthermore, some will lie their way to the bedroom without the intention to commit.

It’s irresponsible and on them to be better but also worth advising women to always be on BC if sexually active, make him wear a condom and be discerning between sweet words and actual commitment (a guy who wants to commit will cut off other women, introduce you as his girl and treat you like a girlfriend.)

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

Reverse that logic. Why would women want to allow a guy in raw without a commitment or marriage to make a baby knowing the guy probably won't stick around?  This is a round about discussion.

Pohjolan · Answer

The majority of men  are  looking for a long term relationship. Fuckboys just go through more women making them seem more common than what they are. And its not like women choose them over other men because they are seeking a long term relationship.

XHopelessRomanticX · Answer

It’s simple: Unprotected sex = baby. Sex + risk of failed birth control methods = baby.  Don’t have sex with men who will not commit to you. Sex is the reward of commitment.

DishLady · Answer

They'll commit if you don't just spread'em and let them do whatever tf they want with you. My goodness...

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Sorry for being brutally honest but some men will have sex and then fuck off and you never see them again

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

For me it works backwards: 1. i meet a girl 2. date her 3. marry her 4. make a baby

Sugar100 · Answer

I can't even get pregnant from a guy, I don't know how girls end up pregnant by a guy and are single moms.  No guy wants comitt to me nor get me pregnant i don’t get it

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

A guy isn't going to marry someone if there isn't enough of an upside beyond just sex. Too often the juice isn't worth the squeeze

WhitneySnow · Answer

A lot of guys get girls pregnant by accident. Either they don’t care or it really was an accident and they feel awful about it (not to mention panic).

Shelly2002 · Answer

That's because some women keep giving them wife services and children at the price of just girlfriend. Why are you even cooking, cleaning, having sex and giving children to a man that's not even your fiance?

JacobJordan · Answer

Stop picking shit men. I married, committed and made 3 children with my wife and still here raising them.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

The baby commitment is easier to walk away from in their mind.

madpete1111 · Answer

Society, feminists, lack of morals and religion. Go conservative

Brittanyroseee · Answer

Why won’t women? 😂its the same shit with females girl.

jahaims · Answer

*some men. Because some people can be selfish and immature. The same reason why some females will let people that are bad partners and fathers dump loads into them.

12234445 · Answer

There is a big difference between need and desire. Having sex is a need, while having kids it's a desire that comes when the brain cells are actually put to work and not just the reproductive system.

SotiCoto · Answer

Some will. You're just talking about the wrong men.

Alex-Snow · Answer

If ur going to want or have a baby you better be ready to commit!!!

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Song of the year.

mayurr · Answer

First you choose them & then say "all men are same"😂😂

FuqUFggt · Answer

We train everyone how to treat us by what we except. You take losers nut in your body and you get what you deserve

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

If it's such a selfish thing that we don't want to get married, then tell me your selfish reason why you think marriage is necessary?

handsomelad70 · Answer

We're boys. It's what we do.(Well, plenty of us, though by no means all of us.)

LiamJHayden · Answer

True, but she chooses to lay with him as well.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Your the ones with all the birth controll options. If you end up with a baby that's your decision

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Because you women killed marriage. Don't expect anything to change anytime soon.

LazerBean · Answer

Because they don't want to commit, that's it

Booklover_90 · Answer

Remember, everyone doesn’t want to get married.

Unit1 · Answer

Just sex

RoronoaZoro8 · Answer

They have no honour

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