Why don't men want to have children? Are men afraid of taking responsibility?

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Are men afraid of taking responsibility?

Jerre · Accepted Answer

I’m too old to want to raise I had a vesectomy many years ago so my cum is pure cum

LiamS95 · Accepted Answer

I want childre n

lightbulb27 · Answer

Childhood trauma, fear... lack of good roll models or other issues.

Cormac995 · Answer

Most men want kids I certainly did but there's pretty much no justification to have them anymore. We live in a world with no future worth having for them. They're inheriting a broken economy where they'll probably have to rent their car and never have a prayer of owning a home. They'll die in even deeper debt than us and have the lowest standard of living since the great depression.

Most people can't afford to raise kids either kids are expensive and need a lot of time and care too, time and care that people don't have. In a world where both parents have to work to pay rent and everyone dies in debt where our standard of living is going down off a cliff and violence, pollution and corruption of all kinds are on the rise I think bringing new life into the world is unethical.

If I was ever able to, I'd adopt for sure, but I'd never have my own kids. I also kind of lost the genetic lottery and I have Bipolar, ADHD, OCD and seasonal anxiety disorder plus I picked up some form of PTSD along the way. My genes are completely fucked and passing them on feels unethical to me. I'm not in support of the government enforcing eugenics but I do think people with bad genes have an ethical responsibility to society to not reproduce.

AMS700CX4u2 · Answer

So much has changed. For better or worse, suggested the possibility of life as a gamble, After the second world war, with the American economy so stable, the risk element appeared to be removed. I can remember my father telling me that if I got up and went to work everyday and pulled my weight success was a given. Just be there and of course the American dream was, likewise, a given. Children were a given.

At some point, late in the 70's, industry need a way to increase profits. They tried everything. If you remember by 1974, American automobiles were trash, that was the worse year in automotive history. So, things started to crumble. Outsourcing, started and our own steel mills started to close down. Jobs were no longer a given. The American Dream (the carrot before the donkey) kept getting further and further away. The wealth of the nation was no longer in the pockets of a strong middle class. Women found their place in the work force. By 2009 the balloon burst and us older guys were ditched right before retirement. We survived but relied heavily on Social Security. Years of contributions from our paychecks were a safety net.

Generations trained on Computer games instead of helping dad in the garage left a generation devoid of skills. No shop classes in school? No physical ed? Few jobs with a real future. For better or worse? More of a gamble now than it was for me. Gonna take some balls. So to answer the question. Wouldn't you be. Note: What has been the most influential force that keeps a man trying against all odds. What makes him get up in the morning and try again. The Love of a good woman. Melanie underestimate your power.

Meatballs · Answer

That's a good question why don't men want children sometimes guys don't want that responsibility of taking care of a child and sometimes you know it's it's not the easiest thing in the world I've got it I got a 25-year-old kid I always said that I was never going to have kids when I grew up because I didn't want you know to put a kid to what those like now and what is going to be like so this you know there's a lot of reasons why men don't want children you know it depends on the person depends on the situations it depends you know a lot of things you know you're still young so you got a lot of learning to do yet you know once you hit my age you know I'm not the oldest person in the world but you gain wisdom you gain knowledge you gain you know all these things in life as you get older and experience things so you know like I said you know I personally didn't want to bring a child into this world you know because of you know what's coming for them in the future but you know I just my wife and I had a kid anyway now I'm sorry my ex-wife

Anonymous · Answer

It’s The Other Way Around…

I Have Two Kids With A Woman I Was Dating, She Became Pregnant And Was So Happy To Become A Mother… Three Years Later, She Was Pregnant Again While On Birth Control, Which I Think She Lied About Taking Daily…

On My Sons 6TH Birthday, My Daughter Was Three, She Packed Up And Left And Never Returned… Before She Left She Promised The Kids She Would Be A Phone Call Away, And She Would Fly To Visit Once A Year…

She Agreed I Would Have Sole Custody, She Was Also Ordered To Pay Child Support, Which Was Taken From Her Wages Before She Was Paid… She Never Returned Their Calls, Never Acknowledged Their Birthdays, Never Sent Christmas Gifts And She Never Visited…

At One Point, She Figured She Would Quit Her Job And Never Have To Pay Child Support Again, My Case Worker Told The Judge, Who Pulled Her Into Court Immediately… The Judge Gave Her An Ultimatum, You’re Either Going To Jail Today Or You Have 1 Week To Get A Job, If You Don’t Have A Job In One Week You’re Going To Jail Unless You Can Provide Proof Of Looking For Work And You Have Had Interviews, She Got A New Job In Four Days…

My Kids Never Knew Their Mother, She Continued To Ignore The Fact She Has Two Children…
I Raised My Kids On My Own, It Isn’t Always Easy, But We Always Come Out On Top…

I Don’t Think It Is A Fair Statement To Put The Blame Of Lack Of Responsibility On Men, Whether Wanting Kids Or Help Raise Them…Plenty Of Women Fall Into The Same Boat… I Met Plenty Of Single Fathers Who Also Have Sole Custody Of Their Kids, Many Kids Like Mine Also Never Heard From Their Mothers Again…

rtj1211 · Answer

To be brutal, a lot of men look at the western legal systems and say: 'This is so hateful to men that why should my life become an alimony slave to a woman who won't let me see my kids?'

Custody decisions by courts are overwhelmingly anti-men. As a man, if you have to pay alimony AND pay for your own life too (in effect paying for two homes) and you have to do it for 15 years, is that something you really want to do?

Of course, there's still lots of men and women who have loving and successful marriages, but the number of divorces and contested custody battles have been rising a lot and men seem to come out of those battles much, much worse than women.

LiamJHayden · Answer

At least in the USA, as of February 2024 between the ages of 18 and 34, the opposite is true. 57% of men and 45% of women want to have children some day.

RingOfFire · Answer

With all the fake AI pictures of "yourself" you post I am amazed you still have an account here! But still going... amazing.

But yeah, that's pretty much it. Women have a biological clock. So they are pushing and pushing for babies in their 20s. And by they time they hit 30, and the clock is expiring they can get downright desperate.

Many men, on the other hand can father children and any age. So their entire perspective is different. A lot of them want kids too, but they are not in such a hurry to have to deal with all the responsibility, sleep loss, emotional trauma and stress.

Anonymous · Answer

Hmm... the world we live in, half the world disagrees with the other half to the point of hatred. What kind of job are they going to be able to get? Walmart? McDonalds? Amazon warehouse? 8 billion people in the world when 100 years ago there were only 2 billion. So many reasons. We need an extinction event to start over, but then, what would be the point? It will all end up the same again eventually anyway. There are a lot of good people in the world, but they're being overrun by evil, useless people whose only mission is to make life miserable for others.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Reasons...

#1 reason... the women are not mother material

#2 reason... child support for sluts that will cheat and leave while taking everything they can on the way out isn't exactly appealing.

... oh wait, that's actually also the women. Do better women.

Speaking_Frankly · Answer

As if I need to justify myself, I'm not afraid of taking responsibility. I don't see the gamble being worth it.

Too many mothers weaponise their children after breaking up with the father and alienate them from him.

The state has married a lot of women through the child support system and become a poor substitute for a father.

There is so much debt and such a high cost of living that I don't want to impose that on a child for the sake of genetic vanity on my part.

There are far too many busybodies who presume to impose their views on how to raise and look after your children, especially it's a father on his own in public with his kid (s).

class_reductionist · Answer

my line of work demands a lot of time (I've actually been going through severe career burnout for the past 7+ years), and the nature of the economy is fickle with the requirements for a baseline living seemingly outpacing increases in income over time

I also grew up having to take responsibility for other people before I could develop my own autonomy

between that and my career burnout I have the awareness to recognize that I don't feel like I've lived a sufficient life for myself yet, and it would be unfair for any child to have me as a workaholic father

also, I'm clearly just not meant for the kind of relationship that would lead to it anyway. I'm always the stepping stone relationship for people who didn't deserve me in the first place

supercutebutt · Answer

Gentlemen realize it's a roll of the dice and the odds aren't in anyone's favor. The typical baby grows up to be a major disappointment. The chance of getting a child who is a miserable clunker is extremely high, especially in this era. Also, kids are annoying and way too expensive.

Finchie40 · Answer

At the age of 17 ? He isn’t a man yet , so of
Course he will be nervous to have children that age. Most men don’t want children until they feel established and financially stable with their careers , having children prior to that is playing with fire

molonski2 · Answer

I always wanted to have children and I had two , would have liked more but extremely costly so economics sent me for a vasectomy, plus a broken marriage ( which at the time I didn't want )

I think what scares most young men is not the children it's the way the system and whole child support thing ( especially in Australia) is geared against them , the woman can just leave and you have to pay , it's an horrendous one sided system.

I think most actually want children.

aceleon · Answer

yes.

but i not only am afraid, i absolutly get disgusted by the very idea of responsibility.

most responsibility i ever have any intention of having is owning a pet, at least they don't cry like a bitch when they are hungry or peed themselves.

HighValue · Answer

The majority of women cheat, divorce, steal from the man, then lie and use the courts to steal the kids from the father, get majority custody so she can get child support. Men are tired of getting used, abused, and scammed by women. And it is the MAJORITY of women that are that way. If so many women weren't morally corrupt, many men would be happy to be in an exclusive long term relationship and raise a family together.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Very afraid. Having kids costs money. Women cost money. Once you (women) get the kids, you now want a divorce so you can take the rest of the money, then take the kids with you and teach them to hate their father while you get pumped and dumped over and over on our dime.

80% of men will experience some version of that story. So outside of people who enjoy being used and destroyed, what's in it for me? absolutely fucking nothing.

I'm sure you are different though...

Shiprex · Answer

Not afraid of it but don't want to have a life of peace not drama and turmoil.

What do children bring to one's life? Not a lot and it's not like there aren't enough people already.

Ask why women want children? THEY have a parental urge that men historically went along with. Few men (except evangelical types insisting women are baby farms) really want kids i think.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

no, we are not afraid of reponsiblity. we are afraid of women who not only do not want to take responsibility but who want to weaponize our role as fathers

Anonymous · Answer

I’m a woman but I actually do want kids but I’m scared and worried about putting them in this world. I have been through trauma. Also I have been watching the news for many years and seen so many other people traumatic stories and experiences as well.

dragoblack · Answer

Wow the ignorance of this question. Children are expensive as fuck and super stressful to raise.
When you live in an economy that barely pays enough to support 1 person, and with relationships so massively unstable nowadays, of course there are a ton of guys who don't want children. It's not about responsibility and commitment, it's about understanding the the current economy is unfit for child raising, when survival is already hard enough as is

Apple1996 · Answer

Its really the opposite. Men often times want kids because they dont have to put the same amount of work in them compared to women being the main caretakers of the kids.

Anonymous · Answer

I want children, but women nowadays aren't wife material. Definitely not mother material. No way could I stomach having my children come out of a hole that's been penetrated and contained the semen of 30 other guys. Not in this life 🤮

Women aren't even worth committing to nowadays. Men are better advised to be with women only for sex and then move on.

DishLady · Answer

It’s not FEAR. It’s a ton of responsibility. A smart guy knows not to take on more than he can handle.

A stupid guy makes babies he’s I’ll equipped to raise them skips out on them like the character in a bad country music song….

Curiousbenjamin90 · Answer

My daughter is the hardest and best thing I’ve ever done, it doesn’t even feel like work even though she gets all of my time. Kids aren’t for everyone, but lots of men find real purpose in their kids as well

qwerty2469 · Answer

Men have no legal protections and worse. Legal liabilities marrying in America. Men aren't afraid of having children. They just won't do it with classless, non trad l, vapid, useless, American women. Thays why they marry Ukrainians, east Asians, Indians, anyone but Americans.

RavVid · Answer

Well marriage is the appropriate social structure for that but 50% of the time the wife/mother unilaterally divorces when the 1.8 kiddies make it to primary/elementary school.

Marriage is bust so having children is bust.

NervousIndividual · Answer

I can't speak for all men. I don't know. I do think men need to step up and contribute to the raising of children much more however. For thousands of years women have been made the prisoner of the household, left to do menial work and drudgery, been reduced to objects of sexual gratification, and have been denied the very rights and prerogatives that every human being is entitled to.

DamianSTG · Answer

I want to have children, not sure what you're talking about.

I think men are afraid to have children because how social media is brain washing women. I'm now 31 back then women did clean, cook and had some pride in being a decent woman. Suddenly women starve for body count, and hook-ups.

WonderingManII · Answer

Having Children is a huge life change. And there are other scary things that come with it. A man needs a really good and faithful, caring and loving woman, to make him feel less afraid of having Children.

jshm2 · Answer

LOL, it takes two to make a child, kiddo.  Men want more than just kids, they want the relationship over the duration as well.

Summeroflove · Answer

Same reason women have abortions. No they’re cowards. They want to have sex without the consequences

exitseven · Answer

Having kids is a big deal if you plan on doing it the right way,. It can be a 20 year commitment. If you re not up to it, you should leave it for somebody else.

ohsheeT · Answer

No when a man has a child. Depending on the man. He has 1 goal. To raise his child to be 10 times better person than himself

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Many men do want kids. Some are afraid of women stealing their kids and using them as collateral in games

mattthefatbat · Answer

Honestly i'd love taking care of a child of my own but money says im not ready

Anonymous · Answer

Men have been marginalized in the role of husband and father since at least the 1960s. Imagine if we reduced women to just their reproductive capabilities, that's what's been happening to men. They're mostly viewed as resource dispensers now. And also in the post-sexual liberation era a man can't really be sure his children are biologically his.

loveyouoak · Answer

In fact, it's the opposite; men want to have children, women don't.

MJVillarama · Answer

"It’s not always about fear, some guys just have different priorities or aren’t ready for that kind of commitment. It’s a personal choice, not necessarily a lack of responsibility."

SolitarySolace · Answer

Personally, I can’t have sex and I don’t make enough $ to care for a child let alone a woman. Besides, I am also unable to protect and provide. 🤷🏻‍♂️

WhitneySnow · Answer

Some guys are, but some guys really want kids (not usually at our age, though).

Anonymous · Answer

No. Men want to have kids but not with a woman who's been around the block with every guy. Woman care more about having careers and money cause it buys them happiness. Im married with 2 kids and im very happy in my life.

Jackblue · Answer

Allow me to respond with someone else's song.

beenherebefore · Answer

I think most men actually want to have children once they're well established in life.

i_Jedi · Answer

Not always about fear. Some men don’t want kids because they value freedom, career, travel, or just enjoy life without that big responsibility.

Vegasrunner · Answer

in my opinion men would love to have children but you need a woman and most men don't want to be tied to one woman.

noohair · Answer

Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex. It was usually courtship and marriage. Women wanted freedom and equality. This is what freedom and equality looks like.

Dargil · Answer

Why don't women want to have children? Much more true than your question.

kellytheman · Answer

Well yes the responsibility but It’s not the responsibility we fear it’s the possibility we might fail to provide having a kid.

Anonymous · Answer

In this society with a crumbling economy you can't afford to survive in and leftist politics Personally it's my health is so bad I'd probably barely see them become teenagers

lorenzomichael · Answer

I have to two a 25&22 yr old boy and girl and I love them both and I’ll spoil my little girl till the day I die. Just two months ago when she came home from college I bought her a Cadillac XT4. she wanted an Audi but she loves her caddy.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Here in Canuckland, it costs about $300,000 to raise a child to eighteen. The expense scares away most otherwise prospective dads.

Jltakk · Answer

In a general sense, the system isn't very beneficial for the man in this case. In a personal level, I would just be a horrible father

grega239 · Answer

I wanted kids. But women think im not good enough for them

Anonymous · Answer

It’s not that. It’s with the right woman. Someone normal for a change. Not demanding, gold digging or spoiled entitled. It seems many in this country are

Anonymous · Answer

It's not that we don't want to have kids. We just don't want to do it with today's women and in today's social and legal climate.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd like to have children, but no girl wants me (or at least - no girl that I like), and I can't reproduce asexually.

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

We live in a disgusting narcissistic, nihilistic culture.

Pohjolan · Answer

Most men do. Just not with anyone in any situation.

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