Why are men afraid of becoming fathers?

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RavVid · Accepted Answer

Well the median length of marriage is 8 years with 1.8 kiddies. Wives unilaterally initiate 70% of divorces but husbands only initiate 10%. 20% are joint divorces and I would think most are caused by known infidelity. That is just surmise of course. If you count infidelity as proactive divorce initiation I think you have to rate it as 90% of divorces are initiated by wives as a best guess.

So well might men be hesitant to be fathers. Divorcing women still act to exclude the father from his children's life. A man is in the position of having a job to do but prevented from it in a lot of cases and certainly not the best job he could do as an in home father.

Men buy the idea of a family but have that taken away. At the same time the costs of being a father are escalated significantly. He will lose assets in the divorce. There will be two households resulting which will significantly increase costs which will be for him to support substantially.

Overall his life will be buggared. It is bad to get married but even worse to have children.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Child support, alimony, the statistics... et cetera.

Just imagine being in the position of making a child and having a HUGE fucking chance of the kid being taken away and then just forced to pay for them, go to prison if you can't, and then you get fucked in so many other ways... like never getting to see your own child while you pay for it financially.

Honestly, I don't even know how you can ask why we would be afraid of it.

I simply don't know how you would wonder why.

Wouldn't you be if you were a man?

I just don't know anymore... you people are crazy.

Brl234 · Accepted Answer

Because young men are more immature than young women. I became a mom at 23 and thankfully I married a man not a boy so he was nervous but our pregnancy was planned and he knew he was ready to be a father. Most guys don't like committing to things that are permanent when they are so young. Guys like options and freedom.

Peridot25 · Accepted Answer

Most don’t want to be fathers because they don’t want the responsibility. But, those who do are afraid they’ll get with a woman and their kids aren’t biologically theirs.

Lliam · Answer

They require total commitment. You have no more freedom. Your life is 100% dedicated to them. You are a slave.
Expense - toys and entertainment, clothes, sports, medical, school.
Drama. Fear of catastrophe.
Inevitable heartbreak.

bolverk · Answer

It is a bit late for me now and I would have loved children in my life , that's probably why I invested so much in my nieces & nephews.

But if I were a younger man today I would not even consider marriage much less bring a child into the world (unless I'd specifically employed a surrogate to carry a child to term for me) as fathers today have bugger all rights of access to their own children they’ve fathered either in or out of wedlock, but they are expected to pay through the nose to support them.

Joshua_H_1010011001 · Answer

Becuase women.

Kids are great, they are the best thing ever, I love my child more than Air.

But they are your kryptonite, and will be used as leverage against you.

You can no longer just walk away from evil.

We don't fear kids, or commitment... We fear women.

You lot are cunts.

molonski2 · Answer

Its literally terrifying , you go from only having to worry about yourself , and then all of a sudden ( often at a young age ) , here is this little thing that is totally and utterly reliant on you , someone who is not afraid should be severely questioned.

RiseofArtemis · Answer

Actually most men would want to be fathers, but and that's a big BUT. They don't want to father someone elses child, they want theirs and they don't want to risk all their belongings if the mother wants him gone from the childs life because the government enbles single mothers and even rewards them.

So modern society is a big no to men in general, there is nothing in it for them to gain, only to lose.

Garud · Answer

I am not afraid of this 20-year project but the times are expensive, the population is humongous and the jobs are such that 10-20 thousand applications are received for one seat. The government also takes 30-40% of the income tax from those who earn slightly better and get nothing in return.
I do not want children until I have enough money so that they can live their lives happily.

Stevepro68 · Answer

I'm a dad best thing in life. But it's a huge responsibility you have to be a fully formed adult that can take care of yourself before you can take care of someone else. It's wise to treat being a father as a big decision.

Graptemys79 · Answer

At your age they should be afraid, because they don't have the emotional maturity, the financial resources, and (hopefully) are completing their education. I, personally, would love to be a father, but I have a job and have completed my education.

talentedclock · Answer

Most divorces are initiated by women. Men aren't afraid of becoming fathers, it's women who are afraid of being in any sort of a committed relationship and would rather use men as ATMs.

MrPiercedD · Answer

Because:
- it's something new (people in general are afraid of new things)
- it means end of being "free"
- it means new chapter of their life's
- they are afraid that girl will leave them with the baby and alimony to pay
- it means that they will need to provide stability for the family
- they will need to dedicate their life to new human being

LonelyHsoul · Answer

Responsibility, no more freedom, less money to spend on themselves.

Also if the mother and father of the baby are no longer together she will try to squeeze any money out of him dry even if he takes responsibility of being there

McLlovin · Answer

If they’re not a little scared then they either don’t care or they are brave, because taking care of a whole human being and being solely responsible for how they turn out is a serious responsibility if you actually care

exitseven · Answer

It is a huge responsibility and it could result in bankruptcy and poverty. The courts always favor the mother and the guy always ends up becoming an ATM machine.

itsannalee · Answer

They just afraid to take responsibility of the kids and support them.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

Basically, court ordered child support if the relationship goes south.

aceleon · Answer

Having a daughter means some day a mutt will try to hump your lass. For son, it is hard being a role model.

pinconon · Answer

I don't think most men are afraid of becoming fathers. most men seem to want kids more than most women do

SmileyLady · Answer

Because it changes their lives forever. You’re a parent forever and have to put other people first forever. You’re responsible for them, for seventeen years.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I am not afraid I just don't want a gremlin running about. Nobody wants that.

Anonymous · Answer

18 years, minimum, of forced labor with no reasonable guarantee of custody.

kellytheman · Answer

I do feel some men are scared that they might fail or succeed being a good father and provide for another human life. Also maybe they feel their life or freedom is over.

Aimée__LJ · Answer

Because being responsible for a small human is absolutely terrifying?

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of it is they don’t want to pay for the kid for the next 18 years

allaboutyou2 · Answer

Real men are not afraid of being fathers, they look forward to it. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Except for the cost and, right now, the lack of room, it doesn't scare me at all.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Because that means a woman is involved and statistically women are terrible when it comes to the safety of the young and elderly.

Loki97 · Answer

We’re not, we’re scared of becoming fathers to an insufferable bitch’s child.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

We are afraid of the woman having all the fucking leverage and force of law on her side once the child is born.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Because at any moment for any reason a court will take away our children and force us into wage slavery to support the mother

Anonymous · Answer

We aren't. We are afraid of our wives leaving us and taking our children from us via the courts.

Tonita91996 · Answer

Because the sex feels good but the responsibility is too hard.

Gospeedracer · Answer

Child support and I know how women treat men when they think they own them.

clampfan101 · Answer

I’ve wanted to be one since I was a kid, and still do. Just gotta find a wife first.

msc545 · Answer

$$$$ child support, loss of access to the child.

Anonymous · Answer

Because unlike mothers, fathers have responsibilities and liabilities without rights.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Why are women afraid of being held accountable?

Slim57 · Answer

Shits expensive and the world sucks right now to raise a kid in

Anonymous · Answer

Because it is a heap more bill he has to pay and more things to do.

Apple1996 · Answer

They don't want the responsibility

NoCour · Answer

Right now in my life that’s a good thing!

abc3643 · Answer

I have no interest in becoming a priest.

slatyb · Answer

It's a huge responsibility

Jennz6 · Answer

Are they really?

MicahRaine · Answer

I wouldn't know, I can't wait to be a father!!

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

All the responsibility for so many years.

DrPepper12 · Answer

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AhmetHasanCan · Answer

It's not easy to take responsibility for a baby.

Iron_Man · Answer

I am not at all

ehatsham_hussain · Answer

Not all... I am happy with my kid.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Kids are to expensive

Stephanie2004 · Answer

Maybe they didn’t have a good father.

Emily12344 · Answer

Bc it’s a huge responsibility

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Finance

Strongballs38 · Answer

I don't think so

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