Why is everything so sexual with guys?

Question

Me and this guy have been seeing each other for a couple of weeks. We are not dating or anything, but he always make some type of sexual suggestions. I understand that people would want a guy to find them sexually attractive, but most of the guys that I talk to it always lead to something sexual that they would want to do with me. Is that consider a red flag or that just something guys just do?

TommyMountainFigure · Accepted Answer

There are three types of guy.

One will think he is impressing you by being open talking about sexual innuendos Another will be too shy to even bring it up. The 3rd is the guy who has no filter.. He says the first thing that comes in to his head and to heck with the consequences, whether it embarrasses you or not.

So if you really want to dissect his behaviour, first work out if he is 1 or 3 in my list, and then decide if it is what you want or can live with. 1) will probably cease doing that over time.. where as 3 will likely give you years (or however long the relationship lasts) of embarrassment..

Also, just for context. I probably fit mostly as number 3 in that list, but that works well for us because my wife loves my sense of humour and lack of filter, even though I do embarrass her a lot in public!

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

It's how they convince you they are interested. so many girls respond to that emotional approach, guys get what they want... others see them rewarded, and repeat. If girls shot those guys down, you wouldn't see it.

so it's girls fault for reinforcing the behavior they actually want without standards in place to manage it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because that’s how superficial they all are.

Theyre demonic. They don’t operate from a place of sympathy, most operate from a place of narcissism.

Thats why you can’t just reward just an idiot walking around ; with your p—sy.

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

Some will if you let them. If you don’t like it communicate your boundaries and be firm about them. Be tactful and kind but make yourself clear.

Crazyced · Answer

It could mean a lot of things. But there is one thing I feel like women don't take into consideration and in my opinion should appreciate more.

Even if a man's one and only goal is to have you as his forever woman, his most important task is to 'convince' you (for lack of better word) to have sex with him. Because the reality is no woman on the planet has a guy they have no sexual interest in as the man of their dreams. And if you say 'No love should be the focus!', well how often do women fall in love with someone the feel absolutely no sexual chemistry with? Statistically, 'friends first' rarely works and is more the exception that proves the rule.

Since it's the man job to escalate tension, I feel like women understand that chemistry about as well as men understand women beauty. Meaning there's a whole lot of people that grossly underestimate the amount of prep work and planning that sometimes goes into it. lol And unfortunately just like women, some men are quite a bit better at it then others, whether from being naturals to having a lot of experience.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Its not, we talk about lots of non sexual topics, this does not mean that nothing is sexual though.

What you are experiencing, is guys making verbal advances on you, in hopes that you are receptive.

Its not a red flag, its just normal testing of the waters to get a girlfriend.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because that’s how most of us guys’ are made , sex is important to most of us , it’s pretty much our way of feeling closer to a girl , that we want by our side , especially with a girl we are in a relationship with , having sex with her , makes us feel closer to her , it’s how we express our feelings for her. If she doesn’t make us feel wanted and appreciated, than he will more than likely leave her or find someone else. Another girl that wants to be in our arms. So if you really like this guy , you are best to have sex with him and make him feel valued and wanted by you , if not , you wil probably be single again soon

hahahmm · Answer

Men are attracted to women. It is basic biology. That said, some have learned to switch that on/off whenever they feel like it or to have higher standards than others. So some guys would ignore you and others won't.

You are the one who keeps talking to the guy so he is taking it as a sign that you are open to his advances. The same as if someone came to you trying to sell a product and you kept listening to them every day instead of doing something else.

If you don't like the attention he gives you then saying something like, "my boyfriend just got out of prison for chopping off the nuts of a guy who was bothering me" would most likely get him to leave you alone.

Part2603 · Answer

It's a strategy since in modern dating the majority of girls severely punish passivity rather than reward chivalrousness.

Don't worry too much about it, in the early stage there's too many layers to say for certain what he would and would not expect. If you are starting to have serious feelings for him, then maybe you can have a serious discussion about it, but until then be optimistic.

It's mostly jokes, and I think most guys are willing to "earn it" from the right girl.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes most guys do it and many don’t even realize it.

But I was taught “chivalry” when I was young. I had that approach to never bring up sex at all when I was interacting with the girl I was interested in.

4 out of 5 times that got me friendzoned. For the 1 out of 5 times it didn’t end in that calamity was because the girl I liked already really liked me as well. She made a move first.

But most women are on the fence via the early dating process with men. And most them still expect the man to make the first move

The thing is women expect men to be sexual at the right moment. Most guys don’t pick up on passive communication the way women expect them to. That’s not to say I’m giving men leeway to be creeps (and some are unacceptably bad at that).

But women could do a better job at directly communicating what’s cool and what’s not.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

You have to answer if it's a red flag yourself. If you don't like a guy that make these types of suggestions or innuendos then you have your answer. The reality is all men and women eventually are looking to have sex (ok like 99% for rare exceptions of asexuals) with someone at some time.. don't believe me... well how are we here with 8 billion people on the planet lol.

My point is figure out what kind of person you're looking for. Sounds like someone a little more mature who knows when sexual advances are actually wanted and more appropriate. Not just after meeting for 30 seconds.

mobiusforniner · Answer

It’s because he has no self control. Any man worth half his shit would exhibit more restraint than reducing a woman of interest to a mere piece of wet meat.

meepmeeperton · Answer

Well, boys have a penis and girls have a vagina. When those parts go together it’s called the birds and the bees!

Guys should have some respect for girls, but it’s only natural that their minds will go there. Especially if they’re younger.

DreamLife7 · Answer

It's because they never liked you. When men don't like you they try to get sex as soon as possible so they can get rid of you and move towards a woman who is the real deal. The problem here is there's no chemistry they aren't attracted to you unfortunately

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Because that is why they exist. If it were not for the requirement of sex, there would no no males or females. There is no other reason for the existence of males and females. It's the biological job of males to spread their seed. Ever other difference between males and females are secondary traits, but not the purpose.

Did I make that clear? The entire purpose of males existing is to have sex.

MisterWack · Answer

Most guys don’t do that (I’m one of them) also I have lots of friends who are guys and none do it. I would say it is a red flag if it is not taken out of context, guys say a lot of “thats what she said” or “you can be such a dick sometimes” or something on occasion I don't know however nothing like “you should suck my cock right now, whatcha say baby?”….

gilmoregirls_456 · Answer

high testosterone makes them super horny and according to my guy friends it gets worse at night

Kaylei2006 · Answer

It's only a red flag if he wasn't' doing it.

Not being mean but it sounds like you are the problem, you said, 'seeing each other', then, 'not dating or anything'.

Guys friends don't define the same way, lol.

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

Guys are hard-wired to want sex all the time, with pretty much every fertile woman they see who isn't a relative.

It's how we keep the species going.

Your guy friend wants to spill his seed into you, to make sure the human race doesn't go extinct. When he's done with that, he wants to spill his seed into all your female friends, and your sisters, and possibly your mom. Then he wants to go find some attractive female strangers and spill his seed into them as well.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

It's only a red flag if it's something you don't want, for me my relationships have to be very sexual. For some of my friends they can go years without sex. This is a huge compatibility issue, so in your case I don't think you should pursue things with this guy, he is a lot more sexual than you and it may hurt later on.

n8ofthenorth · Answer

testosterone! Seriously though, it's all to do with hormones, and nature... males reach sexual peak earlier and life and it tapers off gradually they say, while females reach their sexual peak later on... by peak I don't mean sexual maturity but peak sex drive etc.

tfan1 · Answer

Men are from mars. Women are from Venus. Most of the time - everything involves our penis 😛

Radiate143 · Answer

They only want sex from you. Men categorize usbquiickly and pretty much don't change their mind. How great you are and your qualities don't matter. It's what he wants to do.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

That’s a red flag. Get a man with self control

SugarSugarplum · Answer

Our bodies were  literally designed  for sex with each other. You might as well ask why birds are so into the sky, or cars are so into freeways.

Apple1996 · Answer

Most decent guys will not push sex like that. There are some creeps that make everything sexual. They don't understand that they need a woman's consent first to be sexual.

HaleyWalker · Answer

I've had interactions with different people a good majority is yes sexual at least they act that way I don't interact with that s*** weird.

Actually now that I think about it there's mostly two that and then the ones that are chill

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I would consider that a red flag, especially if it's early on in the relationship. If that's all they are about and the keep coming back round to it, then they really don't see you for anything more than a piece of meat.

ManOnFire · Answer

That is just something guys do, and women being annoyed by it is part of the sex appeal of a female.

If you don’t like it and want him to stop just say so. And if he doesn't then stop talking to him. Simple.

Aubrey97 · Answer

Guys have two different heads they think with and they're often very forward about it. They're not all like that, but many.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

He is just looking for sex. Men that are seriously interested in you will desire to know you deeply as a person first then the sexual conversations come later.

slatyb · Answer

Seems rather juvenile to me. If he wants to be closer he should make the effort to invite you on a date.

Crushed76 · Answer

It all depends if you are atracked to him then stop acting like a lot of the woman that feel they can't let their sexual desires out because they feel if they hold back on sex then that will keep him interested. That is not the case he will stick around because he wants you and yes a lot of guys can't help or he is really atracked to you and that's the way they show it. So no definitely not a red 🚩

soe11 · Answer

Not everyone are same as him. Best advice is kicking him out from your way.

normalice · Answer

Our brain is wired that way. All thought must pass through the "can i fuck it?" checkpoint.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

Basically, he is attracted to you but because you aren't attracted to him it's creepy and not flattering.

paledreams · Answer

High sex drive coupled with anxiety and boredom - I'm not nearly bad. However privately my mind brain likes to think often about love and relationships lol - after all, boredom is boredom lol 😆😂

Nikki1989 · Answer

Small things amuse small minds. Some men are very simple creatures.

Sonorous · Answer

Because we have testosterone that doesn't care about feelings apparently.

nawtee_me · Answer

Not all guys but it seems that he and others have sex on their mind when around you. I guess it is sort of normal with like flirting but if it turns rude then no it is not normal.

Sharkstealth · Answer

Say "Oh shut up and kiss me". Everything needs to be taught and if you teach him he will remember you forever.

genericname85 · Answer

you should try testosterone. you'll understand when you got a lot of it in your system.

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of guys are that way, but a lot aren't. I'm not, and I'm pretty sure most of the guys I hang with aren't either.  So yeah, it's a red flag. Avoid guys like that.

Anonymous · Answer

simple minded creatures that only care about getting off.

Dongie · Answer

Only the straight ones. Or, only the ones with a cock.

rebeliouse · Answer

why is it a problem to girls that guys are sexual? @avony12

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe if girls offered anything besides sex at the expense of all of our hard earned cash, maybe we wouldn't be so sexual with them

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Let's start with men having 17 times the testosterone women do.

CaitlinSims25 · Answer

not all but some are only sexuality when comes to online dating and only and maybe get some in bars /clubs.

Anonymous · Answer

Why I refuse to call my previous partner on ex-girlfriend

Anonymous · Answer

It isn't. We only talk about sex when we want sex.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys who don't do that get friendzoned and exploited by women.

jahaims · Answer

You just talk to immature guys

DishLady · Answer

It’s just something guys do. Take the win.

Ladybossj · Answer

So what you scared of

es20490446e · Answer

Look at the role you are playing yourself.

JacobJordan · Answer

Guys are physical.

DrPepper12 · Answer

He's fishing and pushing. That's all

handsomelad70 · Answer

We're lifelong lads !!!

RedInnocent69 · Answer

It’s fun, and authentic.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why everything so sexual with girls.

Loner111 · Answer

Because it's sexual with women...

In_Trance · Answer

For the same reason it is with women

Pterodon · Answer

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