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Exchanged numbers with my Uber driver he’s cute and whatever but I didn’t know how to ask him how tall he is. Height does matter to me because I am 5’9” but don’t want to be disrespectful to him by just asking
u I think this is one you just have to ask directly if you can't get him to stand next to you to check if he's taller. Just ask him his height and if he asks why just say you're making conversation, give your own height in exchange.
I totally get the height check thing though, I'm 5'10 myself.
Good luck!
Perfect height. 🙂👍
Aww ty!
@Ez-Bri-Z_v2 I don’t really get the height thing? You don’t have to only date guys taller than you…that’s just a social stigma…
I don't just date taller than me, it's just a preference
@JHAYES317 It only matters to you because you’re short. Fat people say the same as to why weight matters because they’re trying to overcompensate. Dating is based on preference not necessity so yes, people are allowed to be picky on who they want to date. Stop being insecure.
Well, I won't be single forever because I'm dating a guy who is also 5"10, but like I said, it's a preference for me, not a necessity. The asker is free to pick whomever she wants to, and if that's someone over 6 ft, then that's her right.
It is what it is. That's why it's called a preference.
@JHAYES317 I’m so tired of you insecure short men thinking someone HAS to date you. No we don’t. Like I said before, dating is not something that is mandatory so you are allowed to have preferences. I see plenty of short men with girlfriends so it’s obvious that you’re just insecure about it. I can tell you right now, if you are not preferred by women it has to do with a lot of other things. You’re probably unattractive and quite obviously insecure. Fix that and maybe you’ll get some better options.
@Juxtapose I’ve never dated a man under 5’10”. So not sure why you think there’s a scarcity. Plus, like I said before, dating is optional, so therefore yes, you can have preferences. If a man wants a woman with red hair, me arguing with him that gingers only make up 5% of the population isn’t going to change his mind. And frankly, you never have to be flexible on your preference. That’s like telling someone who doesn’t like pizza that they should like pizza.
@Juxtapose So is going to a car dealership and wanting a specific type of car “shallow?” Jesus, you people are so pathetic. I can tell you right now if that’s you in your profile picture, you are in general just unattractive to me and I wouldn’t talk to you even IF you were 6’5”.
And it’s so funny because I am not discriminatory towards men’s heights, I just as a taller woman request to date a man around my height, and STILL get told I’m shallow. Seriously? Lol. You know what, if it makes me shallow for having standards and not just settling for someone who is short AND unattractive (because let’s face it, if a short man has problems dating, it’s because he is probably ugly) then I guess I’m shallow as fuck.
@Juxtapose And yes, 5’10” would be a shorter man to me. I am a taller woman 5’9” so I’d consider anything tall to be over 6’0”.
I don't really care if you find me attractive because your personality is not attractive to me at all. I have plenty of women who think I am good looking, your loss!
Comparing finding a mate to shopping for a car is weird and objectifying. Yes, basing standards off of something shallow like height it's just a shallow as a guy saying he will only date women with big tits. Looks fade!
I am literally above average so your standards don't really chalk up too much when matched up with reality.
@Juxtapose Ok well according to you you should just settle for my shitty personality! It’s something can’t control, therefore you would be shallow NOT to date me because of my shitty personality!
Sounds ridiculous right? Because it is.
And while you apparently have many women who think you’re good looking, I have plenty of options over 6’0” that I can choose. Now why would I settle for a man who was shorter than 5’6”? Makes no sense. Just like I’m sure you’re not settling on the apparent options you have of women, are you?
And yes, it’s perfectly fine for a man to have a preference on a woman with bigger tits. Just like if a man wants a woman with blue eyes. You seriously think with age this woman still won’t have blue eyes? Oh brother. What a clown you are.
And no sir, you are not above average in any way shape or form. Not only do I find you unattractive and you generally aren’t attractive to most women, you also appear to be overweight. There are many factors as to why you wouldn’t be preferred.
And frankly, a person who wasn’t insecure about what they were arguing about wouldn’t be arguing about it. Dont see billionaires complaining about gold diggers, only broke men.
Actually you do have control over your personality unlike your height or breast size.
I focus more on personality so it's not settling. If I am satisfied with what I am getting I am cool, they don't have to be some storybook girl.
You really don't understand men if you think blue eyes is what turns us on 🤣 Those big tits and other features are going to sag, get wrinkly, get liver spots and so on. You can't hold on to beauty forever.
I don't have a double chin and I can kick over my head. My doctor actually said my way is fine and I am in good health. Many people call me attractive so I'm going to call you out and say you either have bad taste in my opinion or you are being salty. There are plenty of beautiful women who like how I look and I don't need your validation when your judgment has already been shown to be compromised.
I come here to argue for fun. I will argue about things I know will not change with people I know who's minds I will not change.
There's plenty of rich people who absolutely despise gold diggers and they have to actually conceal their wealth to form genuine connections with women without being paranoid about being sought after for their wealth.
Just to play devils advocate here, technically we can do something about our breast size if we aren't happy with it. That's why breast augmentation exist.
Also 15% doesn't sound like a lot until you realize that just 15% of the US alone is still nearly 50 million people. Those are still great chances to meet someone.
It's still not as bad as you are making it seem.
And doubtful, most men go for larger breasts fake or not.
@Juxtapose You know what, I’d rather take my chances with the 15%.
Plus, as I can see, you’re overweight so maybe worry about your own tits first and foremost.
Yes, they are. But of course everyone has big opinions online that they’d never say in person. Anyways, thank you for your answer I appreciate it
Says the coward who won't show her face. You're all talk & no bite, shallow and unpleasant too.
I don't care about what you say about my looks because I have women way hotter than you who love what I have to offer. And I see guys call women who aren't fat fat all the time to try to get under their skin. I know these tactics and they don't work on me.
@asker I’m insecure just because I said you are shallow? That’s a bit of a reach…and you are also ignorant. If a guy is a bald autistic dwarf with a micropenis…no amount of working out or confidence or style is gonna make them desirable to women. You can’t just make yourself more attractive. Some people just get fucked by genetics and there’s nothing they can do. Also spoiler alert, you don’t have a preference, you have a standard. It’d only be a preference if you were ok with dating men shorter than you, but since that’s a dealbreaker you can’t call it a preference
@JHAYES317 I’ll be shallow then. I don’t know why you think I would feel bad about having a preference because I certainly don’t lol
@Juxtapose I mean you are overweight so I don’t know why you said all of that.
@JHAYES317 It is a preference. Just not benefiting you that’s why you’re mad. If a man said he only likes shorter women I wouldn’t give a fuck.
@JHAYES317 I don’t want to date a shorter man, and don’t have to date a shorter man. If that makes me shallow so be it. You’re just some random dude on the internet you really think you thinking I’m shallow is going to make me feel bad? Lol.
My opinion has not changed. I am not into shorter men. You’re not my type and not most women’s type. Don’t like it? Too bad. Calling us shallow isn’t really having that much of an effect so keep trying.
@JHAYES317 And even if I did lower my standards to date a shorter man, if a man who is taller comes around, I will probably cheat on you with him. I prefer taller men and my preference will always be as such.
@JHAYES317 Taller men will always be more preferred by women. There’s height surgeries now if you’re feeling inadequate. I know a man who’s 6’5” must make you very insecure.
@Juxtapose Doesn’t matter and it’s not going to change my mind. And like I said you’re not attractive and overweight so why would I possibly care if you thought I was shallow?
@Juxtapose Even if I showed my face wouldn’t change the fact of how you look.
I mean you're so dumb you worry about the specific height of a guy when you can see him face to face. What does the specific number even have significance when you can just eyeball him?
"Oh it's the same reason why guys care about weight that way."
Yeah, no guy I know frets about weight 🤣 It's a problem you women self-inflict on yourselves and then you project that insecurity on to me because you're probably never okay with your way. I don't think you have the intellectual capacity to introspect and be at peace with yourself.
@Juxtapose I did see him face to face already and he was 6’1”. Not sure why you think 2 days later there is no resolution to this.
And frankly, I wouldn’t care if a man asked my weight either. I’m also not overweight so wouldn’t matter to me if he asked or not. And he’s not shallow for wanting a woman who wasn’t overweight.
@Juxtapose “Destroying me”? Where exactly have you destroyed me in any way shape or form. You aren’t really making progress as my opinion hasn’t changed since the first message I sent, nor will it ever.
Also, sorry girl for blowing you up. I’ll be blocking this dude soon for the sake of your notifications.
@Juxtapose I actually can. It’s called erasing everything you’ve written, and anything else you write.
@Juxtapose I don’t know why you’re so offended that I called you overweight. Did you not know that already or something?
@Juxtapose Sorry what was that?
You could just meet for a hangout in a public place and do something fun together to get to know each other. You’ll get a good idea then if you’re okay with his height. Worse case it’s a no bueno and you still have a great time, or it’s fine and you go on another date
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Mention your own height and casually ask what his height is. Drop it into the conversation.
Talk about things like going to the gym or fitness and health. Ask him if he knows how to compute BMI or if he knows what his BMI is. (You need to learn how to do it, but do not mention that to him.)
If you can get him to offhandedly mention his weight, you can compute his height from his BMI and weight.
Suppose he doesn't know his BMI. Then you can ask him if he wants to know it. If he agrees, then you say "OK, I'll need to know you height and weight then."
See what I am doing?
I am not having you ask solely about his height but giving you a way to figure out his height without him realizing that what you really want to know is his height.
Do NOT be afraid to give your own height and weight and compute your BMI to give him an example.
www.cdc.gov/.../iframe.html
No offense, but this is such a "sitcom" problem.
I guess you could ask him a bunch of leading questions, like is he good at basketball, is it hard for him to find pants that fit, and that sort of thing.
Or you could ask him if he had any funny nicknames in high school, like Stretch or Too-Tall.
Or you could treat this like a math problem, and calculate his height from his BMI, or the length of the shadow he casts.
Or if none of those work, Elaine, you could ask Jerry and George and Kramer if they have any ideas.
Or... radical thought here... you could just go out with the guy. And if he turns out to be too short for you, you'll probably still have an okay evening, since you seem to enjoy talking to him. And just because you go on one date with him, doesn't mean you have to go on a second date with him.
If you're 5'9, and you just want a guy who's taller than you, the chance that this uber guy is 5'10 or taller is... decent.
Anyway good luck.
The reason guys don't ask you how much you weigh is we see you with our eyes and make a decision based on that. The actual scale number doesn't matter. If you ask the guy his height when he knows you're interested it's almost like asking him to apply for a credit check. It's like saying "if you give the wrong answer you're out." Don't think it's the right tone for getting to know somebody. My theory is that dating apps gave people the impression that they're entitled to know lots of details about a person they haven't even bothered to have a drink with yet. And it's wrong in my book.
You probably already have an impression of whether he is tall or not because height is discernible even when a person s sitting i. e. how high up is his head. So I think intuitively you would have taken that into account into your 'he is cute calculation' and are now over thinking it.
I don't see why you can't just ask straight out. It s not as if you are asking for the length and girth of his cock.
If you want to ask in a round about way you could say "I'm 5 9. Am I too tall for you" or any number of ways.
You just ask. Most men aren’t like women when it comes to asking our weight or how tall we are. The things that women usually find offensive like her weight, her body count, etc, men don’t. We’re not as sensitive to every little thing. I think most men get it as well, most men want a girl shorter than them so it would make sense that you ask. If he’s going to cry about it cause he’s shorter than what you’re looking for than he’s probably not the one. Most men just say fuck it then move on if they don’t qualify.
With how much men lie about their height, I find that hard to believe.
I wouldn’t know about that.
I don't understand. Why are the actual feet & inches numbers of the height so important to know? You can already see how tall he is with your own eyes. Why is this needed or necessary at all? Is this to tell friends & family his height as a flex of some kind?
Same reason the weight is important to you men in a selfie where you can only see my face. Don’t act ignorant please
The thing you shouldn't do is say
"Oh I only date tall guys so how tall are you?"
Because even tall guys find that kinda pretentious.
But just asking the question
"You where sitting down when we met. I'm wondering how tall are you?"
That should come off as a normal conversation
Take a gun, put it on his D, ask him how tall are you, wait for his response, then say, I said how tall are you?
When he gives tou the right answer, you ask for his number, fb, insta, and then say Ima holla at ya!
You hear mi?
Then repeat slower and louder!
Ima holla at ya, aight?
(Sorry Im black and thats how I always believed the AfroAmerican women handle these things. My evidence is in a Vivica Fox movie and Bad Boys 4. Trust me, my evidence is good, in de hood!)
u Tell him that you are 5' 9" and don't feel comfortable dating guys shorter than you. He won't necessarily respond by telling you his height, but he will know not to pursue you if he is 5' 6" (or he may try to argue with you about your preference, in which case you know the answer to your question.)
Wanting to know an exact number initially will always be superficial. A number shouldn’t matter. All that should matter is that he’s taller than you by two or more inches when he’s standing next to you (as long as he isn’t wearing boots). You shouldn’t need an exact number until you are in a committed relationship where you would probably know each other’s social anyway.
" Hey , you know I think I'm pretty tall for a girl.. I like my height , Do you think I'm too tall? I'm 5ft 9in .. You seem to be a nice height , would I be correct to guess 6ft 2in? "
Something like this I reckon would work , without any offence at all , I think he'd just answer.
You exchanged numbers with a stranger who you met in person but couldn’t tell if you were eye-to-eye with eo? 🤨 Did his feet reach the pedals of the car, tall girl? 😂
Don’t know.
Pretty sure I just asked a question on how tall he is. Not if he was a midget. You can take your passive aggressive sarcasm and shove it right up your ass, thanks
Sorry, passive aggressiveness isn’t really my thing. I was raised to be direct. Now F off.
I like your spunk Asker
The Asker is evidently unaware that the preferred nomenclature is "little person"
If height doesn't matter to you, then the question is pointless.
The fact that you said "because I'm 5'9", suggests it does matter to you.
Because most people do not equate height as something that matters, asking how tall a person is usually does not result in being offended.
You met him in real life. Did you not get a sense of how tall he was by looking at him?
If you want to ask, try asking him how big his dick is. When he goes, "what?" you say, "I'm just kidding! How tall are you?" He won't find that a probing question.
Obviously not or I wouldn’t be asking. It was 12 at night and like I said he was my Uber driver.
Ask him if he can touch rim on a basketball net. If he says yes ask him how tall he is, if he says no tell him he look he could then ask his height, or you can ask how high you need to be to do it.
You just ask just like you ask any other question such as "Where do you work?" However, if you standing and facing him, knowing your height, pretty much tell you his height within one or two inches and that close enough.
It doesn’t matter how you ask.
Either he’s taller than you and he won’t care that you asked, or he’s shorter than you and you don’t care about his feelings anyway. Just ask. You literally have nothing to lose.
Doing so respectfully shouldn't be the goal in my opinion as ideas of respect can easily differ from person to person. Maybe just ask him plain & simple & if he gets offended, then he gets offended.
“How tall are you?”
I am 5’10” which is pretty tall for a woman, so I get this question a lot. I never saw it as disrespectful, just someone being curious.
Your 5’10?
@pass_the_celery98 5 foot 10 inches. Or, if you’re in one of those countries that doesn’t use feet to measure, 177.8 cm
Can I ask you to join my basketball team then?
@pass_the_celery98 you could but I’m not very good at it anymore haha
It’s ok you’re a girl, just act like one of the guys on the opposing team hurt you, fake cry, and when he asks OMG are you okkk? Just throw the ball at his groin so there’s no defence on you for a wide open shot, swishhhhhhh 🏀 💨
@pass_the_celery98 I would, but that would a foul and I don’t play like that haha
It’s ok I’ll tell the ref, eh, she’s playing so be lenient with the rules, ref will be how lenient? I’ll lie and say, one of the guys on the opposing team is her ex boyfriend and she wants revenge. Ref will be like, “say no more, I’ll look away if she hits a guy in the nuts, no foul, play on”
@pass_the_celery98 nah, I don’t play dirty haha😅 if I win, I want it to be on even playing fields (well, as even as they can be). I want to win because I earned it, not because of a dirty play.
You Can just ask him directly, most guys dont mind. Im 5'11 so i get this question All the time 😅. So i got used to also asking it, noone ever had a problem to answer it.
Or just don't worry about it. You liked him enough sitting down.
If you liked the Uber driver, I don’t think height should matter… Just go out on the date and see how things click.
You let him tell it by himself. A guy with no insecurities in this matter won't avoid discussion about this topic or go with him to a date.
If you need help asking a man how tall he is you should not be dating
Simple.. Just slip into a conversation how tall you are, and he will automatically tell you!
Ha. This guy will learn real fast, what a waste of time dating is in this age!
I'm 6'1 but if a woman asks for my height I say I'm 5'8. I see their true colors afterwords.
Ask him this "can you touch an 8 foot ceiling?" Why? Because a man 6+ can reach an 8 foot ceiling.
"... By the way, you seem pretty tall, how tall are you..."
Simple as that, you insert it in with a compliment or another question. Just normal casual conversation.
How do I ask a girl how big her tits are respectfully? XD same thing
Lol, since when are girls respectful about anything?
Most guys would not be offended by a woman asking how tall he is. Just ask him?
Just ask him. I doubt he'll mind the question. However, if his height doesn't matter to you, why do you want to ask?
Never mind. You wrote that it *does* matter. My bad for reading it fast. Well, my answer is the same (just ask), but my question now is different. If you find him attractive, but he's your height or shorter, he'll no longer be attractive to you?
You should look at the seat rail. If the seat is pushed all the way back, he’s over six foot. If not, he’s short
Being 5’9” doesn’t justify you being a snob about height…plenty of tall women date men shorter than them…
Yes, I'm well aware of this argument. I even used to say it all the time.
That difference doesn't really matter.
You're right that men can't grow taller but that doesn't somehow make it any one woman's responsibility to settle down with a short guy even though she wants a tall guy. That relationship would be doomed.
Many women don't care about height and even some love short guys. The idea is to find someone that desires you as you are.
Not claim a moral high ground and make it their fault for being shallow
Well the asker didn't really mention her weight so I don't know where she complained.
But if you mean in general then yes I agree with you.
No one should be shamed or ashamed for having preference.
I'm not attracted to obese women and no ammount of finger pointing or vogue magazines cover featuring lizzo will change my mind about that
@ZackBan there’s a difference between a preference and a standard though. Like a preference would be like “I’d rather date a tall guy, I’m ok with dating a shorter guy”…whereas a standard would be “I only date tall guys, no shorties allowed”. So the distinction it’s important and people need to stop calling standards preferences when they aren’t…
I think most guys don't mind a direct question like that. Men usually don't have a 'don't ask him that' kind of question like women with their weight.
if you ask him how tall he is, be prepared for him to ask you questions back like your weight and body count
You can just say for example hey I am so so feet tall what about you then he will tell you how tall he is
Just ask him how tall he is because you were thinking of wearing heels but not sure if you should
You don’t. Better to go on a date with him and see what he looks like standing next to you
Why don’t I ask him?
For one thing many guys lie. But if he told you he’s 5’10 would you go out with him?
Yes I would
So then you can find out on the date. No need to ask before
Well I want to. So deal with it
See? he's tall enough so no worries
Yeah, because I asked him prior to the date. Thanks for nothing.
You are welcome. How was the date?
What does it matter anyways? Decide for yourself when you see him
“How tall are you?” 😆 Sorry. I’m straight forward with people.
Asking a guy how tall he is, is like asking a woman how much she weighs. If a guy is on the shorter side, it will probably be offensive to them.
I would ask it discreetly like this...
"How tall are you?"
Ask him to walk you to your door and make a guess on his height
Just ask. No reason to waste time if someone doesn't fit your preferences.
Is he taller than you? If he is his exact height shouldn’t matter
You can't ask a guy his height for the same reason a guy can't ask a woman how much she weighs. Common sense stuff here.
Just go up to him and see whether he's taller than you or not.
Same way you'd like a guy to ask what your cup size is after you met him.
Honest people have nothing to hide. I am 6 foot 1 and I could not care if a woman asked my height.
Say "How tall are you?"
That's it! 🙂
Ask him... to get a selfie 🤳🏻...
Shall we take a selfie? then you will get what you want I think...
You should just ask the question. No need to worry about HOW to ask
Just ask, we don't dance around shit like that.
"So, how tall are you?"
You're desperate and cringe 🤣🤦🏼♀️
Nike: Just Do It!
You just ask him it’s not a rude question
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