Is it appropriate to ask a man how tall he is?

[marish01]

People who voted B, please show up lol

No. Unless you talk abouth height and WEIGHT

Yes. But he shouldn't ask how much she weighs

Yes, it is so is asking how much she weighs

[God_of_Thunder]

I don't really see an issue with it, but then I'm tall, myself. As such, I've never been insecure about my height, and I'm used to people asking me how tall I am, so maybe things just look different from up here?

I can understand why people on the shorter side might take offense to getting shut down because of their height, though, especially since it's something they have no control over. I can also understand a woman wanting a guy who's at least as tall as, if not taller than, her, too.

I can also totally understand guys wanting to know a woman's weight, by the same token. Personally, I wouldn't ask a woman her weight, although I do have my preferences, just because I feel it's rude to ask, and many women also consider it rude to be asked.

I see this question asked a lot, by both men and women, and I feel like there's kind of a double standard there. It's absolutely alright for people to have preferences, and both sides of the aisle, both men and women, seem to want to know the answer to their particular question, while also getting offended when they are asked, in turn.

I think the only acceptable way to go about it is to understand that, by asking about a guy's height, or a woman's weight, which is a potentially rude question, then you have no right to complain when they then as you the inverse question.

You're risking asking someone something that you know can be considered rude, so you're sort of unofficially acknowledging that, and open yourself up to reciprocation.

So, I think people can ask, if they want, but it should be understood by both parties that they are allowing the other person to ask, also. If that's a problem for them, they should consider how it feels for them to ask the other person, too. If they find it rude to be asked about their height/weight, then they should be considerate of that, and not ask the other person.

[globetrotter22]

I really don’t care about a girls height unless she’s taller than me which is unlikely because I’m quite tall myself. Even in those rare scenarios it’s not a deal breaker if she’s exemplary in other ways.

I also don’t ask for weight BUT I will be curious about her body shape. If she has nothing but face pics on a dating app that’s usually a red flag. I don’t need or even want an inappropriate pic of her body prior to meeting her. However I do want to know her body shape and it’s not unfair to see a pic that shows that plainly (e. g. pic of her wearing athletic/gym clothes).

Also weight can be deceiving. There are 120lb very athletic girls with toned muscles who look very good. Then there are 120lb “skinny fat” girls who might have skinny arms/legs but have pouch stomachs and butts. Muscle weighs more than fat and woman who have athletically muscular “gymnast” physiques are actually the hottest in my opinion.

But as for height I agree it’s ridiculous. I’ve seen women post on their dating profiles that “if you are under 6ft swipe” left. Society claims that men are “shallow” but that’s female standard is completely asinine. I’m 6ft by the way.

[Subarugirl]

Lol a woman wanting a tall dude is asinine but waning a woman with they physique of a competitive athlete isn't? lmao okay

[globetrotter22]

@Subarugirl one thing is hard set genetically (height). The other issue (fitness) is something you can work on.

I’m got a very athletic body that I earned. Does that mean I expect that exact same from a girl? Hell no. But if she’s overweight and refuses to put any effort into improving that than that’s an issue.

[Subarugirl]

Body type is genetic too…. You said that you think that women that have the gymnast physique are the hottest… gymnasts are short…. My preference is men taller that 6ft. I think they are the hottest.

[globetrotter22]

@Subarugirl it’s not genetic when you are overweight from lack of exercise and a crappy diet. That’s a decision.

My last girlfriend was a tall and skinny 5’10”. Her height was like reason #47 of my 50 concerns. Far from the top of the list.

Yes petite athletic chics are attractive to me. But it’s not a big deal to me all considered just as long as she cares about taking care of her body.

I’ve met thick her athletic chics that were attractive in their own way by the way. I could tell by how they moved and held themselves they were active. I’ve met enough inactive vs active people to know if someone exercises/diets properly in my life.

[MCheetah]

@globetrotter22
I may have blocked her, but I see the idiot you're arguing with. Don't even bother with the feminist. All you're gonna get is double standards and excuses from that one.

[Subarugirl]

Okay lol thanks for proving my point, everyone has a type:

[globetrotter22]

@Subarugirl no you proved mine. I’m much less likely to judge someone on things they can’t control (height) vs things they can (fitness).

You like tall men? Fine. But you don’t see short guys forming “every height is beautiful” campaigns and marching just because their upset women aren’t attracted to them.

Most women promoting “body positivity” movements are just depressed and frustrated they don’t get as much (or any) male attention vs their prettier/more fit counterparts.

And aren’t you getting married anyways? The whole dating game shouldn’t be a concern for you anyway now.

[Subarugirl]

No you see them form groups like MGTOW and putting people down instead of supporting and lifting people up...

[globetrotter22]

@Subarugirl you should know by now that MGTOW means “men going their own way”. It’s not a “mens right movement”. Rather it’s men who have just sworn off and given up pursuing women in relationships and marriage given the culture we live in. They have concluded that there are more drawbacks then benefits trying to date. But these men aren’t protesting, marching, getting involved politically or trying to change laws, corporate culture, etc. The only power they have is stop giving women attention via pursing them in dating. But other than that they are unorganized and almost powerless. The only confrontations they with feminists are about 99.99% on Reddit, websites like here, etc. They do talk a lot on these threads. But that’s because they can’t publicly criticize women without dire consequences. Besides be mocked as an “incel” they could get lose their jobs. You on otherhand can post all you want about feminism and never worry about being canceled. In fact in some companies you might get promoted.

I am not “MGTOW” by the way. I still approach women and try dating. But I have much better define bs meter now. I don’t tolerate crap like I used to. If I feel I am being jerked around I’ll call the girl out on it and then just go on my way.

But anyway MGTOW/MRAs don’t even hold a candle to the political/societal power and influence feminist organizations have. Not even close.

[Subarugirl]

Exactly, they whole group is centered around hating on women, MRA orginizations do exist and there are a lot of men that participate in it, how ever you wonder why groups like that have no pull or impact and its because you can't get enough men to support the cause...

[globetrotter22]

@Subarugirl “hating women”. Alright let’s be careful about your semantics there. It’s easy for me to say that all feminism is based on misandry. While I personally believe modern feminism definitely hates men I don’t feel that way about first and second wave feminism.

Anyway here is why MRA aren’t popular:

1. Although there is a need for them it’s a newer concept. Many guys don’t even know if they exist.

2. Men are usually more independent and we don’t network/socialize the same way women do. This is especially true when we get older. While women keep friendships well into middle age most guys start seeing their friendships fade after 30. Reason being we are focused on our careers and supporting families. So to devote time to “organizing” MRAs is hard for us

3. Dating and getting meaningful relationships is already tougher for most men (MRA or not). Fair or not who belong to these groups will automatically get smeared as angry losers, incels, etc. Feminists on the other hand will still find interested men just as long as they are at least semi attractive. I could easily bash those guys who date and support that. But that’s a different topic. But I truly believe that feminism would of never succeeded if it was for sympathetic men.

4. Cancel culture is very real and these men are risking their careers. This is a built in societal deterrent.

5. The mass media, entertainment sector, social media and now corporations will push back and censor them. They will automatically equate MRAs with far right extremism. This is sometimes true but most of the time it isn’t. But again this is another built in societal disadvantage men have.

Just remember this though. When men fail women fail. Modern feminism does have real negative consequences for men. That ends up hurting women in the long run.

[Subarugirl]

Have you ever seen what those groups post? What they talk about? MGTOW is based on thinly veiled misogyny.

[globetrotter22]

@Subarugirl I don’t directly follow those groups. But honestly most men are NOT misogynists. Most of these men who follow MGTOW or support MRAs have suffered very real discrimination for being men.

Anyway I’ve said my part. I don’t think we are going to find a common ground on this one. I kept responding because I thought you might have a “ah ha” moment surprise me. I have been surprised by some of your comments on other past topics (like telling a lazy entitled girl not to freeload off men). But I don’t think that’s happening with this debate. Have a nice day @Subarugirl

[Subarugirl]

The exact same can be said for being a woman... but anyways, you too.

[EmyyWolf]

I met the manliest man in my life ever. He was Latino, a mix between Brad Pitt, and Vin Diesel. He looked more like Danny From Grease.

.

AND GUESS WHAT. HE WAS SHORT! Maybe a 5ft.5 or 5ft.7 . But he wasn’t like most men which are taller. But unlike most men, HE WAS BUILT! HE HAD GAINS, HE had a deep voice, large hands, and much more.

And guess what he was getting women left and right. He was a Dad at only 25. And he still had game. And women would be the ones chasing after him and fighting over him. Specially the women who seemed to be innocent and Christian. This man had the power to hipnotize ALL OF THEM!

So no. From personal experience. Because I liked the guy too. Height doesn’t matter at all. The height of a man only matters if there are so many other flaws, then if he’s short, it adds to it. It worsens it. It highlights it.

[EmyyWolf]

This guy was so attractive and enticing in fact. That I feel like most women looked past the height issue. As if it didn’t exist or wasn’t there at all. Plus. He mainly went for shorter women anyway.

[Autember]

I think it's fine to ask how tall someone is... as long as you aren't asking it maliciously. It's like asking eye color, etc. It's something you cannot change.

I don't think it's okay to ask anyone what their weight is. No matter how you ask that, it's always with rude intentions...

But regardless i would answer it. Either you like the answer or you don't. And that's not my problem 🤷‍♀️

[OlderAndWiser]

I assume you are talking about a couple who have met online and have not yet met in person. Sure, ask his height, but don't get offended if he asks you for your bra size.

[IceCreamSandwich]

Depends on the context. If you're trying to get them a life size cardboard cutout of themself? Appropriate. If you're trying to see who's the tallest among friends? Appropriate. If you're trying to help them set a weight goal, workout, or are their doctor? Appropriate. If they said they don't like their height, don't like when people care so much about height, or they are in a situation where height is scrutinized? Inappropriate.

You wouldn't want someone trying to drag out a detail about yourself that you don't want to talk about, or that you don't want to talk about *in that company.* That's not very friendly.

[Ευδεμονια]

I think it’s correct to be honest. There shouldn’t be taboos about the height and weight, if I’m judged for being short I don’t know why you shouldn’t be judged for your weight, considering also the fact the height is something you can’t modify, while you can work on your diet and weight.

[Juxtapose]

If you ask how tall I am then I'm going to be prying into all kinds of private business of yours because I know what you're fucking doing and I don't like it. I hope you're prepared for me to examine your weight under a microscope 😂

I'm saying this is someone who's taller than the national average by the way.

[Juxtapose]

*as someone who's

[MCheetah]

She can ask me whatever she wants. Doesn't mean I have to answer, though. And I'll ask her whatever I want. So I voted option C.

"How tall are you?"

Me: "That's irrelevant."

"Come on. Tell me!"

Me: "Okay. I'm the same exact height as Uma Thurman and Brad Pitt. How many men have you had inside you?"

"What?"

Me: "Come on. F*ckin' tell me."

[slatyb]

A man you are considering meeting? Height and weight are pretty basic to self-description. If you are afraid to tell a prospective date your height and weight, then you aren’t ready for a relationship.

[Kabluie]

I'm 6'0, i like the flaunt it. I think it's perfectly fine if you don't get enough information.

I like pictures where i'm standing straight up. Like on my dresser right now I see three photos of me tilting over to someone shorter, and just one standing tall with a girlfriend that is 5'7. So I can imagine being asked if I showed 2 of those photos.

[likelyOK]

I honestly would be fine with a man asking how much I weigh I weigh 130 lbs but I’m concerned there may be other women who would be bothered or self conscious

[Hairylegs222]

Asking about someone's height should be ok to ask anyone. Weight question on the other hand can be rude to some people and shouldn't be asked. Weight question isn't important anyways. If he or she's overweight and not your type, you don't need to know their weight, just see what their body type looks like.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Both are ok but only 1 upsets certain gender and thats women SPECIALLY the American WOMEN, most American women weight heavy and that's due to being LAZY

Fun fact only 2% of American women weight under 135 pounds and thats why Im done with American women.

[marish01]

135 is too much for short and average women

[zagor]

Maybe online. In person, you should be able to get a close enough estimate without prying. And very tall people might take offense.

Supposedly when someone asked 7'1 Wilt Chamberlain "How's the weather up there?" he, being tired of the question, spit on their head and said "It's raining".

[Ga-girl]

I think the answer choices are comparing apples to oranges when the question only asks about apples. Yah, I think its appropriate to ask a man how tall he is.

[marish01]

Are we not allowed not to ask about oranges?

[MCheetah]

Women care about men's height a lot.
Men care about women's body type/weight.
If a woman is going to judge a man's worth based on something she deems very important (his height), then women can't start bitching when men do the same thing to them on what they find important (weight). If women want to be rude and judgmental, they can't say sh*t when men do the same back to them. If people were respectful of each other, this wouldn't be a thing. But for some reason, society has made it seem like only women can get away with being assholes.

[Kabluie]

Orange you glad you're asking the question?

[Ga-girl]

@marish01 haha yes of course but the question is just referring to apples. Maybe I went to deep with that. My bad.

[Ga-girl]

@mcheetah I agree, it would be a double standard if we were to be judgmental.

[MCheetah]

@Ga-girl
Asking a man's height, especially one you just met, is judging him. Either as good enough (6 feet or taller) or inferior (short). Some women are too stupid and narcissitic to see that (not necessarily you) because women are more sensitive about their weight and insecurities than men are allowed to be about their insecurities (such as height when a guy is short).

It's a double standard because women are allowed to judge men and be insensitive to their insecurities (and then ghost/reject them if they end up being too short), while telling men not to judge them or bring up their weight insecurities as a female, even though weight is changeable and height is locked in by genetics.

[marish01]

I mean can a man ask about oranges like a woman can ask about apples?

[Ga-girl]

Yes haha

[marish01]

😄👍👍

[Kaytiee]

Yes but if I can ask those types of questions so can he.

[understanddd]

I thinks it not good to ask a short guy how tall he is because he is likely insecure and you might embarrass him if you do.

If the man is not short than I think it’s okay to ask his height.

[hahahmm]

Women always have a lot of questions when they're looking for an excuse to reject a guy. I'm sure you have 20 more questions.

[QuietVerbena]

I’m gonna say yes because height isn’t an embarrassing fact but weight is

[Vegasrunner]

@quietverbena Height isn't controllable weight is.

[MrOracle]

It's easy to say that when you aren't systematically rejected by the opposite sex because of something you have no control over. Guys that are 5'6" positively dread women asking about their height, because they are almost always dismissed immediately, and sometimes in extremely cruel ways.

It's no different than asking about a woman's weight in my opinion.

[Revenant_Titan]

As a 5’6 male I always get, you’re handsome but you’re short. 🤧

[MCheetah]

@QuietVerbena
For short/not-tall men, height very much IS an embarrassing fact. One that women will negatively judge men on. So if women want to go there, then so can men, and they can't say sh*t about it, since they were the rude ones first.

[JosyJosy]

Yeah but be ready to be okay to answer one of his questions too, whatever physical trait that may be.

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

The problem with shallow questions is they never allow you to get to know the person. That's the issue with online stuff. In real life people fall for people that aren't perfect. Online you have to be literally perfect.

[Phoenix98]

Only if your fine with him asking your weight or bra size.

if your gonna go down that path then you miles well be fair about it.

[Chazmatazz269]

If you have a height preference, just don’t be a hypocrite if a short dude has a weight preference or something else you don’t live up to. We should all be permitted our own preferences. It’s the hypocrisy that smurfs everything up.