What text to send after no silence?

[Anonymous]

Hey, I decided to send a message to a guy with whom I was texting. It's been monts since we spoke together but I want to be the first time to text him. He reached out to me so many times and ased some random questions just so he could create a conversation, but he eventually stopped. So now I want to text him first, but I am afraid he'll think I am too needy, or why the fuck did I text. Can you guys suggest me types of texts you would like to receive from a girl who breaks the silence?

[spartan55]

You haven't texted in months and you are worried about appearing needy? That's about stupid. You never texted him first before and look how that worked out for you.

[Asker]

Are guys in this section dumb or what? I texted him planty of times as well, I suggested to meet up , dont’ go assume things you want to assume

[spartan55]

Then write a better post. The only dumb here is you expecting us to know what you think even though you didn't write it down.

[spartan55]

"I want to be the first time to text him"... your words... yeah everyone else is dumb.

[boggboss]

So your are playing games because he is no longer giving u attention?

[Asker]

What makes you say that? It's pretty easy to judge someone by a post right? Did I mention anywhere I was in need of attention? I asked you another question, so if you can be useful than help, if not, then don't answer. You don't know anything about my situation , antyhing about my feelings.

[Asker]

And what games you're even talking about? Sorry if you had to deal with girls who played games with you lol, because I don't have the time nor the energy to play games with anyone.

[boggboss]

Nobody has played games with me I'm in a pretty good relationship as for the playing games it just seems odd that after the guy has stopped putting effort in u now want to do something when simply replying at the time woukd have got u what u wanted the reason I also state u are playing games is because to any guy thats how it will look to him when u decide to contact him he will 100% think this as a option

[Asker]

But who told you I didn't answer, I don't get your point. I don't know what the hell you're imagining, but it's different, because I always spoke to him, texted him back and was always honnet. The only thing I regret I didn't do, was being more transparent with my feelings so he would know that I am interested. I don't know what the fuck is going in male' messed up minds, but he is definitely not a person I want to lose. Eveything was going so well, but at some point he simply didn't text. I have no clue what he is thinking, but I know if I don't do the first step than we might never recover. And you dared to say that I was playing games.

[boggboss]

On multiple occasions the conversation has gone dead and everything he is the one to start it up again that shows him putting effort in and u not now he has not done it again is when u decide u don't want to lose him how will that not look like u reaching out only when he has decided to not do it again

[Asker]

Broooooo omg, who the said I never initiated a conversation? I was even the one who suggested him to meet upL See, you're just interpreting things like you want, based on what you might have gone through, or based on i don't know what.

[boggboss]

I'm filling in gaps of information that u have left at with what it sounds like if u have already done this before then why is it a issue doing it again

[Asker]

That is the exact reason why. His opinion matters so much for me that I am scared he’ll think that I am being needy as I did text him before.

[boggboss]

If he thinks your being needy by trying to contact him then the vary baises of trying to keep him in tour life is already lost u have nothing to lose by attempting to contact him