From a males perspective what can I do and what do you think will happen in the future?

[Anonymous]

I had a fling with someone two years ago. He was quiet afterwards and it felt so uncomfortable I had to ask him why.. he said the sex we had was the best he’s ever had. I just took it as he was just saying things to say it. He soon after started professing how he feels..”I want a relationship, I could really see us settling down” etc. I pretty much sabotaged it on purpose because I wasn’t looking for anything serious. He was mad that I was seeing other men. (Back then) -/ fast forward to now, I messaged him to ask if he wanted to have sex? He said yes, so we exchanged numbers and set up a time and day. The day comes and he’s slow to respond to me, he’s not a responsive as he’s been over the course of us reconnecting.. I made plans with someone else. The next day he asks what I did the day before and I told him “I went to go see someone” and it pissed him off to the point where all we did was argue. by the way -/ he’s in a relationship with his baby’s mother (new born) and they live together, I am single. so we’ve argued for like 3 weeks until he finally agreed to see me last Tuesday and we had sex at his job. He’s extremely dry with me after so it started to irritate me to the point I told him “you’re only making me not like you and I can’t wait until I do” so I sent him our Se’x tapes and told him if that’s how I have to remember him, it’s how he gotta remember me (called him names) and he said “you’re way too much for me💯 it’s not attractive” — what I’m confused on is why is trying to impose how he feel and what he wants on me, when all I ever wanted was to have sex? Like the first time we’ve met. That’s all, I didn’t have no attraction to him outside of intercourse. Why is he behaving the way he is when I just started caring more (I didn’t care at first) and now we said some things to eachother that’s hurtful and we both blocked eachother. Like what is the reason for all of this? Am I wrong?

He’s wrong

You’re wrong

[Dr_Lovejoy]

You’re both in the wrong. If you knew he was in a relationship, and with a newborn, why didn’t both of you let everything end right then and with that? What happened before is done and gone. Not one thing anyone can do to change one single minute of it. But what you’re doing right now matters a whole hell of a lot. Making it a point to mention HE is in a relationship and YOU are single in a futile attempt to sway public opinion is just BAD. If you’re really searching for truth and trying to decide on the right thing to do, then you need to remove yourself from the situation, leave your phone and social on block and move on with your life. Live yours and let them live theirs.

[Asker]

You’re right but I don’t even care about his relationship, I like having sex with him. I just want him to understand that I don’t want anything else. Nor can I have it when he’s in that situation already. His reaction to me being single is out of pocket based on that itself. I did block him though.

[Avicenna]

Sounds like the two of you don't want the same things from each other

[Asker]

We don’t. I’m more focused on personal growth and investing. I don’t think a relationship would be wise for me at the moment. I only wanted to have fun and here we are.

[Anonymous]

You guys are a disaster for each other move on the both of you

[Asker]

A beautiful disaster might I add

[Opinion Owner]

No…train wreck

[Asker]

He made it into something it never was from the beginning. All because I can’t contain his feelings for me and have a conversation. All things im willing to do

[spartan55]

You are both immature.

[Asker]

I don’t 100% agree but I do, think that this is something we could’ve talked about. He doesn’t tell me how he feels until he’s mad.

[CubaPirate]

You reep what you sow

[Asker]

I didn’t get in too deep because I knew what his intentions were. I knew what I wanted and I honestly don’t care if we’re done. I just don’t understand where his behavior towards me is coming from. If it’s from what happened two years ago.. he needs to grow up.

[CubaPirate]

Agreed 👍