Why does my ex get so bothered being in my presence?

[Anonymous]

I literally do not bother him, don’t talk to him, don’t look at him and haven’t for months but we are forced to be in the same place once a week. All he does is talk about me to mutual friends and try to continue this petty drama when it’s been months since we’ve broken up. It bothers me because he tries to act like a victim as if I’m harassing him every time we see each other , when in reality I don’t even look in his direction.

[Finchie40]

He is upset that the 2 of you didn’t work out , so he is probably trying to play a victim and blame you for the reason the relationship ended , it happens a lot

[Asker]

I don’t think he’s upset about us. If he was , he’d reach out.

[Finchie40]

No, he is pretty much bashing you and talking behind your back to other people to make himself look like he was the victim , so people feel sorry for him , he is pretty much pointing fingers at you before pointing fingers at himself first , like he was the good guy and you were the bad guy pretty much , he can’t admit that he was wrong at all, everything was your fault

[Asker]

Does that point to having feelings for me still or just doing it solely to make himself look better? Everyone keeps saying it seems like he wants me back by his body language and this behaviour but I honestly don’t get that from this situation.

[Finchie40]

Probably just solely to make himself feel better about himself , other people are just assuming he still likes you because he is probably talking about you a lot to them , some people are immature when it comes to break ups , basically saying they didn’t do anything noting , everything was their partners’ fault , they try to act like they were this innocent person like they did no wrong whatsoever. You are best just to ignore him and move on with your life , he will eventually move on as well , hopefully lol , Why did you guys’ break up in the first place?

[Asker]

Well we broke up a year ago but I cut him off for good a few months ago. Being friends wasn’t working out. And I’m pretty sure he’s seeing somebody. All this gossiping really only started after I cut contact with him. The new woman also contacted me recently saying she thought he still liked me because he won’t stop trash talking me to her and is being very inconsistent with her, and wanted to know if it’s because we still communicate.

[Finchie40]

It could mean he still has feelings for you and sadly he should n’t of got himself into another relationship with someone , before he was 100 percent over you and ready to move on , sadly that kind of shit happens a lot as well , so you are best just to move on and ignore him as much as possible and act like he no longer exists , Exes can be crazy immature people when they feel they did no wrong and can’t admit they did anything wrong. Since you said you cut him off for a few months he probably assumed you were cheating on him with someone else , so he is angry at you for cutting him off like you did. Usually when a partner walks away from a relationship without a valid reason as to why? The other person suffers cuz they don’t know what they did wrong and why all of a sudden are they distancing themselves from me? It leaves them with a constant question mark over their head as to why? So if he doesn’t have a valid reason as to why you left him , he is gong to resent you and be angry at you for blindsiding him , The same thing happens to my brother when his wife decided she. O longer wanted to be married to him and ended the marriage , without giving him a valid reason as to why? He was devastated and upset and angry that she did that to him , So the right thing for you to do , is give him a valid reason as to why you cut him off instead of letting him assume why you cut him off , whether
You met someone else or cheated on him or you just didn’t want to be with him anymore , just be honest to him as to why you ended it with him , because it’s selfish of you to not give him a valid answer. How would you feel if your partner cut you off without a valid answer?

[Asker]

Sorry maybe I didn’t word that properly. I’d in no way ever leave somebody with no warning while still in a relationship. I meant that we broke up a year ago, tried to stay friends and then I finally cut him off in March because I couldn’t move on and I didn’t like him calling me and pretending like everything was fine and then occasionally telling me he still had feelings for me. He also got mad at me for something then a week later blocked me on everything, which is when I decided that I wasn't going to react, and instead just be completely done with him. I know him to be somebody who pulls shit like that to get attention and gauge your interest and I wasn’t going to give in anymore. He knew I was talking to people and I knew he was so what’s the point in continuing that? Was the way I cut him off sort of cruel? Maybe. He probably thought he’d never lose me after all these years. I just completely stopped replying to him and acknowledging him in person. He’s also not in a relationship with this woman. She told me he seems unstable which he is and also very inconsistent, only comes to see her once a month, and she started asking me some very odd questions that I thought could be coming from him. She seemed too interested in my life for somebody that sees him occasionally , asking me if I ever really loved him, if I’m seeing somebody, that I’m so beautiful , etc. and told me he claims I’m obsessed with him meanwhile this is when I cut him off, and she knew this was all BS which is why she came to me, but I thought she was going too far with the questions almost as if he put her up to it.

[Plugs]

He’s clearly obsessed over u , and that woman is a rebound

[lorenzomichael]

I would I really couldn’t tell you, but why do you even care. fuck him who gives a shit if he gets annoyed. Fuck him let him leave. If that was me every time he would be annoyed. I would act like that’s the best day of my life.

[Asker]

It shows how bad I affect him lol

[lorenzomichael]

Right. But still he needs to get over it. You have a life too.

[rosemilk]

eh, he just doesn't like you. you two are ex's. some ex's don't like each other and are bothered with them. just how it is. can't change it.

[Anonymous]

He irritated af that he can never be enough for u

[foxsquirrell]

He is still not over you. Otherwise he would not care about you. I don't know all the details, like how did you break up, and how long have you been together, because it might be that you can't blame him completely if he is still bothered with your presence.

[Asker]

Together for a few years, both our longest relationships

[foxsquirrell]

Was it you who put an end to the relationship?

[Asker]

Sort of a mutual breakup almost a year ago then we stayed friends and I completely cut him off in March.

[foxsquirrell]

Sounds like it was more you who ended the relationship. Typical.

[Asker]

Not really. In the beginning it was more him and when we stayed friends I realized I was giving him way too much access and control. What do you mean typical?

[foxsquirrell]

By typical I mean that more often than not it is girls who end relationship and not the other way round.

[Asker]

I noticed that even after we were broken up I couldn’t keep a friendship and get over him at the same time and I could tell he thought I’d always be there so I decided to just completely start ignoring him. Now he bashes me to mutual friends and acts like some victim. I don’t even look at the guy and he makes himself seem so affected. Can’t be in the same room, if I walk by he almost runs the other way. Just strange behaviour.

[foxsquirrell]

And you did not like that he was feeling secure that you would always be there for him. Its was kind of he was having something for free out of you. You girls can be a blessing and a ruin. And then they wonder why I talk against women. Its just such a risky high stakes gamble with you. For this my hat goes off to bad boys. They seem to have figured you out, and know how to deal with you b...

[Asker]

Why should I continue to be there for someone when we broke up and he didn’t treat me right? I have no clue what you’re talking about and why you’re being rude for no reason.

[Asker]

Maybe some of you don’t realize this but once you break up, you lose access to that person. By keeping some kind of connection you both cannot move on properly. If his ego can’t handle losing control over me and the situation, it isn’t my fault.

[foxsquirrell]

You can say what you like. I'm pretty damn sure that you are not going to blame yourself for anything. I would like to hear what he has to say so that the whole picture can emerge. Probably he sees things differently, and perhaps if he had to chance to tell his side of the story he might also add details that you excluded because its better for you not to mention them.

[Asker]

Definitely had some blame in this, why would I not admit to it? And you don’t know either side of the story so you’re making a lot of assumptions and I noticed you flipped really fast lol. The fact of the matter is I cut him off. I have every right to do that.

[foxsquirrell]

Perhaps you have heard the saying history repeats itself. I say even these things tend to follow the same pattern. My assumptions are based on my own experience ok, coupled with what you yourself have already admitted.
I know how bad it feels to be suddenly cut off ok. I have gone through hell more then once because of these things. And so yes I state again my admiration for bad boys who seem to have figured you out and know what you are, and they deal with you appropriately as you deserve to be treated.
Good day. And if you don't care anymore about him, you don't need to ask question here about why he acts like he does! Which, by the way, I think you know why he is acting like he does. You just want to play the innocent.

[Asker]

I “suddenly” cut him off because he randomly blocked me on social media to try and get some sort of reaction out of me, and started calling me on no caller ID then speaking ill about me behind my back. I was done playing games. And it’s also very difficult to have any kind of conversation with him so I thought, there’s no use in even trying.

[Asker]

And I’m sorry, what am I exactly?

[foxsquirrell]

I already told you. I don't want to be explicit because then I would be liable to having my account frozen or something.
Anyways if you think you have the right to do what you did, then enjoy what you did, and do it again whenever you have the chance. When things don't go your way. Hopefully you don't find a guy that will take you seriously and get hurt because of you. Hopefully you will find a bad boy in disguise and then you'll see how much better it was with the nice guy who really loved you.
Good day.

[Plugs]

Don’t bother talking to this guy. He probably acted sketchy and was blocked himself by someone.

[Asker]

@plugs thank you. I don’t think he understood the situation and is extremely bitter. Didn’t know they were entitled to our time and friendship after a breakup after clearly not appreciating it during the relationship lol.

[Asker]

@Plugs ^^

[Plugs]

Lol why is the other woman calling u beautiful. She seems jealous

[Telekinetic-Potato]

He's got unresolved feelings about you and the fact that you ignore him is probably driving him through a wall.

[ProbablyClueless]

Sometimes people just get it into their heads that something is going to be a problem. There's no rhyme or reason to it. It's as simple as "she's my ex, so I'm going to be difficult around her."

[spartan55]

"all he does is talks about me" I really doubt that. Just ignore him. How are you 'forced' to be in the same place once a week?

[Gent207-2]

No greater revenge then happiness and success. So do you and your real friends will show

[SotiCoto]

Right. And you don't post complaints about him online either... oh wait...

[Anonymous]

He's hurt. He misses you. Probably pass as soon as he gets another girlfriend

[DrPepper12]

He's immature and not over it. Be direct. there's nothing there now. I wish you well.

[OhLongJohnsoning]

Forced to be in the same place?

I'm guessing you dated your coworker, or something

[_Troian_]

He is butthurted beta man

[Danny_dan92]

Because he doesn’t want to be around you

[noohair]

It is the fragile male ego.

[KrakenAttackin]

I'm sure everything was his fault 😏😏😏

[HH1488]

Why do you care what your ex thinks?