Are men that call themselves alpha males ever actually alphas🤔🤔?

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a guy i was talking to kept telling me what an alpha he was, do actual alpha men ever need to broadcast this or is it always just insecurity and pretending?🤔🤔🤷🏻‍♀️

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

This goes for anything about men, men that are about something do it rather than say it. A man using his words is a man trying to make up for the lack of something he does.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Fuck no lol alpha/beta/Sigma titles are all bullshit. It's just made up terms to describe different types of assholes.

MisterWack · Answer

I’m “alpha” and I don’t tell people.

It isn’t conservative or anti woke or whatever, it is just being dominant leaning during sex for me, being aggressive (to a healthy extent), being masculine / proud of my masculinity, I don't know if these count however I’m owning up to it now.

I’m willing to own up to my mistakes, my faults, etc. I don’t shield it to preserve my ego or whatever. I don’t flash money or brag about getting B*tches or whatever. I’m kind, down to earth, honest, and truthful.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Probably not.. People who exaggerate about ANYTHING are usually fantasists living in cloud cuckoo land!

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Any man who says he’s an “alpha” is just lonely and needing validation.

First of all, the alpha-beta theory in wolves was disproven by the same man who wrote the theory. It turns out when you forcefully introduce wolves into an unfamiliar environment (as they did in Yellowstone where he initially studied this) things get aggressive and hierarchal but it’s not a natural instinct. When he tried to recreate it with wild wolves, he saw the only hierarchy that even came close to resembling what he saw was that between wolf cub and parent. Of course the disproval didn’t nearly carry the same weight as the initial theory did so it didn’t catch on as quick.

Second of all, applying animal social theory to human social structures is just asking for trouble to begin with. We’re not wolves, there’s no “alpha” or “beta” or “sigma” in humans unless you want to get into the omegaverse (trust me, you DO NOT want to do that). Humans are indeed hierarchal thinkers but that hierarchy is so much more complicated than some greek alphabets. You remember cliques in high school? Those are hierarchies within hierarchies, social groups with their own leaders and followers as they all live and work around each other in the hierarchy of a high school where everyone is separated by class, which also compares to the hierarchy of early teens and older teens and the young teachers and old teachers. This is like 9 different base-level hierarchies without exploring other social phenomena in humans. To whittle it down to this alpha nonsense is not only silly, but just plain ignorant of just how complicated humans can be in their own social structures.

And men who do this are usually buying into some social idea of masculinity that makes them feel validated because of whatever the hell happened to them as kids that didn’t make them feel like the manly identity they wanted to be and frankly? Men who call themselves alphas unironically are usually the worst kind of people.

Alli112 · Answer

You mean aside from the fact that the idea of an inherently "alpha" individual is actually based on faulty science produced in the observation of wolf social dynamics (which was later renounced and corrected by the original author)? AKA it's not a thing?

But generally speaking, if you need to boast about how powerful or dominant you are, you're probably neither of those things.

Besides, the traits that we ascribe to the concept of an alpha are actually traits that can be learned or developed as much as anything. Ex. physical strength? Go to the gym. Good leadership/charisma? Study psychology and take a public speaking course. Assertive? Just a matter of confidence and a desire to be heard. Work on your self image physically and emotionally, and you'll naturally be able to be more assertive when it matters. It's also the case that people have different talents and interests, leading them to be more assertive or "alpha", if that's the term you prefer, depending on the context (home, work, a sports game, a legal trial, etc).

The idea of people inherently being "alpha" or not diminished humans to a bunch of pre-sets and ignores the inherent versatility and growth potential that has rendered the human species evolutionarily successful.

MrOracle · Answer

If a man is an alpha male, he won't need to tell anyone - they'll know, and there really won't be any question about it. Most guys who claim this title for themselves are not in fact alpha males.

The same thing happens with women - for example, tons of women love to claim that they are "strong and independent" when they are anything but. That's not to say that there aren't strong and independent women, but they don't need to claim these things - anyone who spends 5 minutes around them will know what they are. My aunt, for example, owned and ran a trucking company for 35 years, running 20-30 trucks, which means dealing with truckers (who aren't exactly wilting lilies) and various construction contractors. She is tough and smart and didn't take crap from anyone, but she also didn't need to ever tell anyone she was strong and independent.

There *could* be times when these kinds of traits might come up in a conversation, where someone might say "I tend to be more of a...", but outside of these exceptions, people who have to loudly claim they are this or that are almost never those things, and are usually desperate to convince people around them and most of all, themselves, that what they're saying is true.

HawkPerception · Answer

I don't get why it's so hard for some people to believe that there's categories for personality types among people. Just because Google says it's a myth doesn't mean it is one. Would you say that there are people that are naturally more confident and charismatic even at early ages and throughout their lives? Would you say that people naturally have different personalities? If the answer is yes to those, then why can't there be different categories for personality types among people?

Sorry I know that doesn't answer your question, but I had to address all the people saying it's not a myth.

To answer your question, if someone calls themselves confident, does that make them arrogant? No. You can be confident and say you're confident. People just tend to react terribly to other people's confidence and want to take them down a notch, but when people are feeling down about themselves they try to support them and tell them to be more confident. It's strange contradiction.

Yes you can have an alpha male personality and call yourself an alpha. It depends on the context and the tone, but you can.

I'm certainly not an alpha. I've done an in depth assessment using multiple personality tests and my result is that I'm a sigma personality type.

HighValue · Answer

If someone says that just because a man called himself something, then he has to be the opposite, must then logically agree that all women that claim they are not promiscuous/pro sti tutes/ gold diggers, etc. ALL must be. See how that works?

There definitely IS a difference, just like there is with wild animals, and people are NOT equal at all, BUT there are also fake, low quality, scumbag people like some of the fake men's rights people that are hypocrites and claim that a man can have a past of sexual promiscuity and it doesn't damage his ability to pair bond long term. YES it does, just like it does for women.

Things do need to be done for men's rights, but the hypocritical liars like Myron and others actually damage the cause, by promoting immoral behavior. And many women that pretend to be alphas (they call themselves "strong and independent women") lie constantly too because they are often weak and helpless and rely almost exclusively on money to get others to do stuff for them because they are incompetent and incapable themselves, all the while, using things created by MEN.

Summeroflove · Answer

Look I think most men and women who get into this whole thing are losers. I think the most happy people are people who genuinely fall in love. But people who sleep around all the time have forgotten what that is.

I think a lot of these men are lacking something and they put on this public display because they’re hurting inside. Some of the incels as well have been genuinely hurt by a lot of people. It’s not to say there isn’t good women out there. But you have women who also are losers and hate men and it just turns into this low IQ nonsense. As you see all the time on GAG.

If a man tells you over and over again he’s a alpha. It may not be worth your time to get into it with him. A lot of these people don’t think logically and are in their own state of mind of what they feel is right.

ZamerZ · Answer

If you have to tell people that you are something, that you have a certain "status", if you have to  convince  them that you are this very thing... trust me, you're not that thing. Besides, this alpha / beta / sigma bullshit's just hilarious from the POV of someone who's unfortunately acquainted with fanfiction tropes...

imtiaz45 · Answer

Men who call themselves "alpha males" often adopt the term based on a misconception of dominance and social hierarchy. True alpha traits—such as confidence, leadership, and respect—are usually recognized by others, not self-proclaimed. Genuine alphas demonstrate qualities like empathy, integrity, and the ability to inspire and uplift others, rather than relying on aggressive or domineering behavior. Self-declared "alpha males" may often be seeking validation or attempting to project an image of strength. Authentic leadership and influence are typically evident through actions and the respect they naturally earn from others, rather than through labels or self-promotion.

nolabels · Answer

I find that entire male hierarchy thing to be pretty hilarious.

I jokingly pronounced myself as an alpha once here in fun about a year ago, and two guys here pounced on me within seconds.
I think that they were so triggered by my self-proclamation that they failed to recognize the joking part of my statement.
They're actually a couple of pretty decent guys, and when they finally saw that I was joking, then we all had a good time laughing about it.

But, yeah, they weren't about to let me claim alpha for more than a second or two.

Actually, according to those tests you can take online that'll tell you what you are, I always come up as a Sigma.

OOOOWWWWWOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

ManOnFire · Answer

Most alphas aren't really alpha. They are just the kinds of guys who throw their weight around, try to be the dominant voice or figure in groups of other men, and like to one up each other in groups, and call that being alpha. That's not alpha, that's bad behavior.

These same guys are also the ones who will get in their feelings if another guy does exactly to them what they do to people. They are also the kinds of guys who tend to be jealous and possessive of a girl they like or are dating, wanting her not to talk to other guys and worrying if she does.

"Alpha"-ism is basically little dick energy at it's finest. Brawn but no brains. Big muscles and flexing but having a little one down there. And they usually don't know how to please women in bed, let alone really care if the woman enjoys it.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

What I believe is that real high quality guys don't want female attention. They flee from woman who pay attention to them unless they are single and interested in her.

I've googled multiple high status guys I know and 80% of them are either not on social media or online with very limited profiles cause they know there are a lot of woman that want to date them and they don't want the attention or they are already married.

They have social media but it's private, with no photos and they have almost no friends on their list.

hahahmm · Answer

In the normal world, I would say no. However if you stuck me in a prison & the biggest dude in there said, "I'm alpha" he's probably not lying. Based on his experience of dominating the world he lives in he is correct.

Interesting when a self declared Alpha meets other dudes in the real world tho cause often the Alpha wants to dominate but the other guy can ignore/defeat him in many ways. But that's probably because we have various social rules that keep the 'alpha' from acting like a total wild animal. Just guessing. I suppose if all the social rules were taken away, a lot of guys who don't seem very dominate would then become that. And guys who seem intimidating would be revealed to be weak too.

RavVid · Answer

I would never call myself an alpha. I see alphas as two broad categories. Type A think it is a matter of bullying. It never works well for obvious reasons. Type B focus on inspiring others to achieve. That does work.

I think most men who would call themselves alphas will be in Type A.

For myself every thing about sigmas rings true in me. I like devising solutions and plans. I can do the inspirational leadership in order to realize my solution. If I couldn't I wouldn't have a job but I do it because I need to mostly. I do get a kick at bringing people on nearer to their potential but I'd rather work on solutions and plans.

Mostly I think Type A's are stupid and ignorant. They think their ideas will work because they thought of it whereas I will think they shouldn't have unsupervised thoughts.

Type B's I respect and they are usually smart enough to come to me for the solution and plan so we can work well together.

animalwithin · Answer

Nope. Any man who actually tells you he's alpha isn't so. If he was, there would be no need to say it. The most "alpha" men I know are the most humble, low key, down-to-earth men I've every met.

Alpha is a very fabricated statement made popular by the PUA community. It's very difficult to define and very rarely sustainable over long periods of time.

bobalife · Answer

Most who said they are will probably be just big talk. I think alpha men shows it than be verbally boastful. I think there’s unhealthy versions of it and gag seems to perceived it in a negative connotation. But there are also the more attractive alpha types that some girls including myself like.

MicahRaine · Answer

Lol I almost did a metal on those a few months ago when some kid was trolling me trying to assert his dominance or some shit.

But to answer your question, no. There are a few exceptions of course, but true "alphas" rarely call themselves that. Unit/spec op guys are a perfect example of that. They're trained fighters, the very best in the world at killing efficiently. These guys are clearly "alphas:" good fighters, great self control, and successful. But guess what? You almost never hear a legit unit guy bragging. And that's because they don't need to.

Anonymous · Answer

Dude, NO.

LMAOOOOOO!!!
The ones who call themselves alpha WANT to be alpha but never will be.

Real Alphas have muscles all through their body and their jaw looks a specific way. Everyone around knows they’re an alpha. They will never call themselves any of these nicknames, but everyone around both males and females know what they are. They are alphas and have great genes, and great health.

The high testosterone level are sensed by everyone around. The deepness of their voice or base in their voice , is heard and sensed by EVERYONE.

Nobody needs to call him “Alpha”. Everyone will automatically bend over to his will.

I’ve seen it time, after time, after time.

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

I gotta share it again, sorry... If you send this to him, I highly doubt he'll mention it to you again... :D

NamerOfStars · Answer

"Alpha males" are a product of David Mech misunderstanding the mechanics of a wolf pack. The idea has less scientific validity than pholgiston or phrenology, since a skull deformed by, say, a having a crate fall on it COULD very well lead to predictable personality traits, and a fluid like caloric WOULD function vaguely like a multidimensional "string".

Please familiarize yourself with the basic elements of existence in the dimension you currently reside in. Failing that, at least pick an INTERESTING debunked theory to proclaim as the truth. Spontaneous generation, maybe.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

I have met three or four of these blowhards over the years... running around with their little labeling machine. Assholes, the lot of them. And funnily enough, in the end they always failed, be it trying to keep a woman or with a certain job...

TalkWithoutSpeaking · Answer

I can't say what I voted because it would basically be a contradiction to what I voted but it's very easy to spot a fake alpha because that person will need to reassure others (both men and women) that he is an alpha. The real alpha is so alpha that he doesn't care if he's seen as alpha 😂

LiamJHayden · Answer

Rarely, if ever. More likely that they are like Stephen.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Most people don't understand what 'alpha' means, where it comes from and what it is related to.

The present century has morphed the original idea into something else.

So my own interpretation: a 21st century ''alpha'' is an undereducated troublemaker.

By declaring that one is one - they prove to be right with it.

SugarSugarplum · Answer

if you mean the Andrew Tate type of alpha then no. He's just a buff man-child who exploits weak women for his own fun and profit. No "alpha" male uses his powers to trample women.

Anonymous · Answer

no because their actions should do the talking more than their words

that being said, people saying alphas and betas don't exist clearly don't watch any competitive sports or been in job where there is a clear set hierarchy

saying that alphas and betas don't exist is them trying to making themselves feel better for not needing to improve themselves

Sunnysunny123 · Answer

Definetly not, my ex used to brag and talk and pretend to everyone that he is an "alpha" but in reality he was just a young boy in his head that has never even had a job until his 30s

Unit1 · Answer

All they're saying is "look! I'm an idiot!" in other words.

O_Canada · Answer

Listen up, bruh
Your claims are secondhand
True strength's from above
Not from boasts that you've planned

Confidence starts
From within, not guise
It's actions that set you free

Real alphas hide
Nothing in bravada
Just lead silently

True men understand
Humility's key
No need for blah-blah
Just let others see
Your deeds, not yada
That's alpha, humble, @on_my_knees

Rosexøxø · Answer

I find that when you ARE something, you never really have to SAY what you are.

I. e. - you play clarinet, so you’re a clarinetist. You don’t tell people, usually when they see and HEAR you play, they can acknowledge that- that is what you ARE.

Anyone who has to convey that verbally- is lacking or entirely absent of that said trait/title.

Shy_Steve · Answer

It can be half and half if you see him talk to and Approach other Girls or groups of Girls he is usually an Alpha but if you don't see him talk to that many Girls then he is definitely not an Alpha.

Usually Alphas just call it being "Friendly" so that Guy you are talking to is definitely not an Alpha he is just trying to get in your pants.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Alpha type men exhibit self confidence. To broadcast a self proclaimed alpha-ness to people in conversation screams insecure. So no, a real alpha man would not.

BetaBucks · Answer

As a beta, I can spot other betas real easily. Men who have to try to be dominant, are absolutely not dominant. Men who have to try to be leaders or masculine, aren't either. Anyone trying to prove themselves to others, is automatically not an alpha.

delsworld · Answer

I've found in my experience that the men who actually embody pure masculinity are very stable and secure individuals and, therefore, they are very comfortable within themselves so they don't ever try to convince me of what they are.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Fuck no 😂 that’s like when dudes tell girl’s “I have a big dick” or lie about their age. It’s insecurity that they’re trying to compromise for

Nikki1989 · Answer

Those men are a comedy act at best.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Sounds like he's trying to convince himself. Must be his morning mirror mantra.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Some probably. But I have yet to meet one who says he is when he is one. They usually just are. They don't need words to clarify or back up their actions. Most of the times, men who feel the need to clarify are Not Him.

sawno · Answer

In behavior sure, they will be the loud obnoxious types and try to be on top. In practice people don't take them serious and the leaders aren't the typical "Alpha" types.

patois · Answer

Being a bad ass usually comes with a bad attitude and a bit of bravado.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I think there's a difference between acknowledging a personality trait versus bragging about it. I've acknowledged that I have a bit of an independent streak in me. I don't think it would be cringey to say that.

RyanR03 · Answer

It’s like anything else… if they have to SAY.. they ain’t 😂. They have fear deep down.  So you have heard men actually SAY “I’m an alpha” ?

RMSTitanic · Answer

I think it's along the same lines as a guy saying they're not a bad boy, or like nice guys finish last

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

I think a man who was genuinely an alpha not only wouldn't say he was an alpha, but also wouldn't waste his time wondering if he's an alpha. He'd be too busy doing other things.

teamvic · Answer

That whole alpha and beta thing is so dumb People who say they're alphas are just trying to make them feel good and look tough

provokeesmokee · Answer

People who legit believe in "alpha males" are a special kind of retard. Especially considering the entire concept has been debunked.

pascal_climbs · Answer

Very often its insecurity. The real alpha male will show up in very stressy situations. The fake ones will panic or run away.

Makeushiver · Answer

Good point, probably not. Alpha males traditionally were the bigger, stronger males capable of being the best hunter in tribe. Men get this confused with how much $ they are making

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Anyone who has to tell people you ARE something, actually isn't. Since if they were pretty, Alpha or smart people would just know lol.

alice55 · Answer

Any person using those terms are just plain weird and never leave their house.

LazerBean · Answer

Every alpha knows that calling one's self an alpha is a beta move.

spartan55 · Answer

"A 🦁 lion never has to tell anyone he is a 🦁 lion."  Spartan55  2024

rienna888 · Answer

I think men who categorize themsleves or other men as alpha and beta are idiots. Usually men would say they're alpha and act all masculine and cringe.

worldscolide · Answer

Real alphas provide for and protect their families. They dont broadcast it. Its the same concept about "Strong independent women" Those that advertise it simply are not.

Levin · Answer

Anyone who calls themselves an alpha surely must have a double digit IQ...

DishLady · Answer

I'm sure some are... and some are too busy BEING alphas to talk about labels like that...

on_my_knees · Answer

Perhaps he senses upfront that you are a dominant person, and he's just letting you know upfront that he's not going to play a submissive role.

Ehjoh1 · Answer

I think this alpha/beta/sigma is just another stereotype to put some men in groups just like the word Karen is just a meme basically. I don't take it that seriously.

Juxtapose · Answer

Humans don't have alphas and actually neither do wolves. Those are faulty experiments run on captive wolves that were later debunked by the very guy that proposed them.

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