He called asking to go put on a lunch date so I got dressed in a flowy sundress and he picked me up down the street from my house cause they tend to be suspicious of strange cars in my neighbour so I don't let him pick me up or drop me off at my house. I got in and I suggested we go get pizzahut cause I've been having a craving for it. He said okay and I connected my phone to the aux and played music dancing in the passenger seat as I usually do. He wasn't driving in the direction of pizzahut but I figured maybe he was taking different route. He drove us to the hospital and it has a massive parking lot and he parked. I asked him what we were doing there. He got annoyed and told me to stop asking questions and to trust him. I turned the music off then he crawled over on top of me in the passenger seat. I told him I wasn't in the mood for anything and just wanted a normal date day. He put his hand under my dress and felt that I had under shorts on I always wear shorts or tights under my dresses or skirts it's how my mom grew me. He doesn't like it and tells me not to wear them when we're out. We're had sex before he's the only person I've done it with. I told him stop and that I didn't want to and I was trying to push him off but I'm 5ft and he's 6ft 3 and way bigger then me so he held my hands and pulled my clothes saying he needed this and he couldn't do any better ignoring my protest then he stuck it in. It hurt and turned my head to the side closing my eyes. He kept asking if I was enjoying it and I said no. Then he asked why not I told him I didn't want to do it and get off of me. He got mad and said I was turning him off. I told him to hurry up and get off me. He got off pulled his pants up and threw my phone and underwear at me and told me to get out. I told him no while I was wincing pulling them on. He threatened to drag me out so I got out. I keep $200 in the back of my phone always it has this wallet pocket. I got a taxi , iced myself and went to bed.
4.9K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Let's be clear - and this is as crystal clear and unambiguous as it gets - your boyfriend raped you. You should have reported him to the police immediately, but you should at the very least do so now. Chances are he's not going to get prosecuted because they likely won't have enough evidence now - but maybe you'll get lucky and they will. If they do, the trial isn't going to be easy either, but you should still stick with it. Even if he's not prosecuted, though, he will at least have a paper trail on him, which means if he does it again, it will be a lot harder to dismiss it.
You also need to get some counselling. You've been mentally and emotionally injured - no different than if you were in a crash and shattered your leg - and while you can recover and live a normal life, you're going to need some help to do so, just as you would with a badly broken leg. There's no shame in needing help.
Going forward (and I totally get that, right now, it's WAY too early to think about other guys, but eventually that time will come), it's REALLY important that you make better choices in men. You can see what happens when you make a bad choice. Many women make bad choices in men but get away with it mostly unharmed - but not everyone does - which is why it's so important to make GOOD choices.
Any man you are considering as a relationship partner in the future needs to be vetted by you based on their morals, values, and life-goals. Does that man have good morals? Does he have good values? Have you talked to him at length about those things? Are his life-goals compatible with yours? If all of those things aren't in alignment, then you end things and move on BEFORE you sleep with him or make any commitment to him.
If you don't vet the men you date, then you have no idea who they are or what they might be capable of. You could be dating a murderer or a serial rapist or a thief or a pedophile or who knows what. And any of those kind of men may seem normal, and they might have nice houses and nice cars and money for nice dates, but that doesn't make them GOOD.
The only person who can vet these men, and filter out the bad ones, is YOU, because no one else is going to be there to do it for you as you live your life. It's YOUR job as an adult to do this for your own protection, and if you don't take that seriously, you run the risk of bad things happening to you that you do not deserve to have happen to you. Life is NOT fair and not every person is a good person, so you MUST hope for the best but EXPECT the worse and prepare for it and, as much as possible, avoid bad situations and bad people entirely - EVEN if it means not getting to do some fun things that you'd really like to do sometimes.
No one wants to see you or anyone else be hurt this way - but bad people and criminals exist (your boyfriend is both, and needs to be prosecuted if possible) - and it's FAR better to filter them out up-front then to learn the hard way that they're evil. Once you've been hurt, it's too late - that's why you need to protect yourself from the start.
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+1 y“My boyfriend kicked me out of the car cause I didn't want to have sex with him?”
That is awful, vile, selfish, and sickening…
”I went to the doctor cause the burning and aching wouldn't stop. She said I was a little bruised, chaffed and ripped a little. I get nightmares of the day sometimes but I haven't seen a therapist yet. I really trusted him but he just hurt me.“
You did everything right, you are the victim here and should be treated with dignity, respect, kindness, and sweetness. You weren’t ready for sex and that was your choice, you had a voice & a say… For him to violently discard you like that is a low down thing to do. He is dirt!
My advice: Get therapy, get help, and make sure he NEVER EVER comes near you again!
I couldn’t even imagine doing it to someone I was dating…. Just sick n twisted…. You are worthy of love & respect, he definitely isn’t worthy of anything with the shit he pulled.00 Reply
Sweetheart, this is no boyfriend or even a man. This is a sexual offender who needs to be reported to the police. I'm so sorry this happened to you, and do not feel ashamed, you did nothing to deserve this and no way should feel guilty. I'm sorry but please do not ever get in contact with this monster again. Block him and get a restraining order against him, he belongs in jail and please, please z please report him, no one will blame you or say it was your fault cause it wasn't. Consider counseling for the sexual assault mentality part. Please get a rape kit and take an STD test and pregnancy test along with a morning after pill. Tell your parents even if you ended up sneaking out to see him or if they didn't want you to see him. Find an older adult you trust (30's &+) preferably a woman). If you decide to not take any and all of these steps and precautions to prevent this worthless dick from ever being in your presence again and causing any PTSD, please DM me.
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You should report him to the authorities for rape, especially if he's still stalking your neighborhood. Sorry that happened to you.
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+1 ySo why are you ranting about it here instead of getting the police to have him arrested for raping you?
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+1 yHe isn’t entitled to sex and hee not a good person….. He couldn’t even take you to Pizza hur. Also the Karen’s in the neighborhood need to get over themselves. Someone shouldn’t have to park and you walk because they bitched.
Break up with him. He’s a loser. Especially in public. If he wants to catch a case that’s on him you don’t wanna be prevented from being 1,000 feet or schools. K? Let him go00 Reply1.1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. time to kick him to the curb.
No means no.
Find someone who will treat you like you deserve to be treated, it's pretty obvious that he does not respect you at all to do something like that.
No one should ever be treated like that, ever.
Kudos on keeping the cash on hand!00 Reply431 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. I hope at this point he is your ex boyfriend and he is under arrest for raping you. If not, drop him like a hot potato and call the police to report the rape. You already have the doctor's report proving that he hurt you. He is trash and needs to be taken out
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Asker1 yReported it telling my parents tonight or hopefully sometime this week.
+1 yThis guy clearly doesn't respect you, and this was attempted date rape. The fact that you had sex with him previously doesn't matter. You didn't give your consent in this situation. I probably don't have enough information to tell you what do do, but it does not seem like a good relationship for you to be in. If he is willing to talk it out with you, the relationship may be salvageable, bur if he continues to have a similar attitude, I would doubt it.
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+1 yPlease do yourself a favor and get rid of that piece of shit. He did rape you but we all know how that going to go. After months or maybe years somehow some way you are going to be blamed for him raping you. No matter what anybody says or whatever he promises do not go back if you do you will most probably be abused if lucky dead if not. He sounds a little unstable. ALSO, NO MEANS NO!
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+1 yYOU GOT RAPED
Just tell ur parents about what happened and they will do the rest because it's gonna be complicated
U also need that doctor's report because u will need it later01 Reply
Asker1 yTook the advice dealing with it quietly. Telling my parents soon so they can brace themselves. I've terrified.
+1 yI always wonder if these are even true stories. Since I personally would never post something like this if it happened to me.
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Asker1 yI have no one to talk to about this, my mom's a psychiatrist along with multiple other persons in my family. They discuss patients all the time keeping identities vague sharing small details if a psychiatrist I spoke to consulted her and she came asking my opinion while also being vague it might click that she's talking about me and not knowing it. I'd break and my dad would be in jail and my mom would be sad.
1.8K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Oh Dear... What A Pity... How Sad... Never Mind.
Thank you so much for a truly lovely inspiring story... When's chapter two coming out?
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And I for one don't believe a single solitary word of any of the Bollox... Sorry.
Asker1 yIt's a free world u can believe whatever u want. Doesn't give u the right to shit on my trauma. I hope karma doesn't get u.
+1 ySo kick him out of the house. He is not worth being your boyfriend. Just a narcissist macho.
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+1 ySounds like you should drop his sorry as and find somebody better!! Don't forget to spread the word around about what a fucking asshole he is!! You dont want others girls to become his victim, do you?
00 Reply 1.7K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. He clearly raped you and he better be your ex and you are best to call the cops and have him arrested for being a POS
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+1 yThat's considerably more than "kicked me out of the car"; that's "kicked me out of the car after raping me".
10 Reply1.4K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. First of all, having a guy drop you off down the street is shady and shows you don't trust him, and you shouldn't even be in the car with a guy you don't trust in the first place. This guy is a piece of shit and you are an idiot.
04 ReplyWhat a creep and an asshole
Stay far away
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+1 yThat was rape. You should have gone into the hospital and reported him.
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+1 yHe basically raped you! You said no and he did it anyway.. I wouldn't stay with that ass.
00 Reply1.8K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. What a great guy…
Don’t contact this dbag again… ever.00 Reply- 402 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
+1 yI think u shud report him for raping u honey... no matter wht u just can't be forced to do sumthing let alone sex...
00 Reply Sis please don't take this much pain 😭
Please confront you parents and explain your problems I'm sure they'll kick his butt. And try to confront his parents they'll surely kick his butt too , but remember in a very polite manner you confront00 ReplyHun, he raped you. He needs to be reported immediately. And hopefully he gets the death penalty. Rapists deserve to die.
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+1 yHow fast was he driving when he kicked you out?
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Asker1 yCar was parked
Anonymous(25-29)+1 yWhy do you dumb girls always date scumbags then cry about it when shockingly (!) it all goes horribly wrong? Go cry someplace else, idiot.
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yThat is rape, you should've gone into the hospital and gotten a rape kit.
00 Reply1.4K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Is there a question.
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Asker+1 yNo just needed to get it off my chest
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If you do all the things most women do... you will end up in the same place that they end up. Look at the women you know who you follow/copy. Also look at older women who have followed the same path. Life is like walking somewhere. You can use a map/GPS to take the safest and best path or you can be the person who walks in the forest over the bear infested mountains into a desert barefoot cause a crowd of other people are doing it. A crowd of people who say they're smart/right but are they? Older people tend to have the GPS (wisdom) but younger people often ignore that and follow the crowd.
Asker+1 yI'm 24 my boyfriend is 49. So I should just follow what he says?
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Nah, I'm talking about older people who have your best interest at heart like mom/dad/grandparents or older family friends. A guy who treats you like a piece of meat and dumps you without a ride, probably doesn't have your best interest at heart. I don't even think you do tho. It's called self-respect. You even thinking about staying with this guy says you don't have a lot of self-respect.
Now there's a chance your whole story is fake too & I'm tired of fake posters on G@G wasting my time so that's all I'm saying.
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+1 yBreakup with him pronto
00 Reply 3.1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. I assume he is your ex boyfriend, right?
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+1 yProbably time to break up and find a better man.
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+1 yYou were raped. You need police involvement
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+1 yHe's a POS. Dump him, damsel !!!
00 Reply4.1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Get a better boyfriend
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+1 yGo to the police immediately
00 Reply1.6K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Rape is what he did to you. Call the cops on him.
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+1 yYour boyfriend is a idiot. Get rid of him.
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yBoy hun, you know how to pick them.😆😆😆
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+1 yThat's rape.
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yHe was right
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+1 yThat's rape
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We had sex and he kicked me out of his house afterwards?
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