A bipolar friend said he hasn't had time for anyone and is focused on himself?

[Lalalove11]

He was really into me for a long time. He has pretty severe bipolar and communication is inconsistent, to be expected. He's on meds and going to therapy.

I still reach out because I care about him. He said today he hasn't had time for anyone, that he is focused on himself. I do miss him a lot but I don't know what to do anymore. I developed deep feelings for him.

[noohair]

I have discussed Bipolar with a friend that has the condition. It is a complicated issue to deal with. Something you should know is that bipolar people tend to be self centered, sometimes selfish. It is just what it is. Their thoughts can drive them with great force and passion. If they are working on something, it will be their main focus and other things fall away. You should be prepared for difficult times. You can’t fix him. You can only fix yourself. Good luck.

[Lalalove11]

It definitely is complex. He has expressed intense interest a few times then he pulls away. He said he's not good at maintaining relationships. I feel I've tried a lot and reach out when I feel is appropriate. However he seems to push me away.

[lightbulb27]

You can't save him he mist aave and stabilize himself first… then maybe let someone else in his world.


One fallen tree will surely take another down unless that tree is cery strong.

[Lalalove11]

The last sentence hit me. Thanks.. I'm not sure if I have the strength for it.

[DishLady]

Are you reaching out bc you're INTERESTED in him? Don't wait around for this guy to show interest. He's working through his own stuff... He's telling you this directly... Don't expect much more from him.

[Lalalove11]

He has been starting to show more interest but I think he has too many problems to want to pursue me :/

[DishLady]

Hmm. Good that you spotted this. Best for you to move on.

[Lalalove11]

Definitely.. now he just replied with a smiley face and nothing else. It's pretty obvious I need to move on from him :/

[thenerdone]

As someone who's been depressed and miserable, give him the space he needs to work on himself and make sure he knows you can support him, if that's something you're capable of doing.
You can reach out occasionally and check in on him, it might help to know people care. Play that by ear.

[HotManPlayboy]

Sometimes life is worth taking risks to experience what you feel. Hey, clear your mind and act with your feelings in your life. ✌🏻 Freedom

[spartan55]

You don't want to do all that, trust me.

[Lalalove11]

So him pushing me away is saving me?

[spartan55]

If you want to look at it that way.

[war_daddy]

don't waste your youth on a damaged crazy person. I had bipolar. it's a serious issue.

[Lalalove11]

Although I agree I shouldn't waste time.. I'm not sure it's fair to call him that? He's actively seeking help. But yeah maybe not someone I should pursue.

[war_daddy]

you're only 1 year away from being dumped by Leonardo Dicaprio lol

[Lalalove11]

Haha true I'm aware time is not on my side

[war_daddy]

good luck! hope you marry a rich handsome guy before 30!

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's because he's focusing on his mental health