Did he break no contact just for attention?

[Anonymous]

I was involved with a man a few months ago who plays drums in a band, he’s pretty good and well known in our town and getting more popular in the state and playing lots of shows etc. We’ve been friends since high school, way before he pursued his music as a career and always kinda knew I had a crush on him. As the years went on I fell in love with him. So a couple months ago he invited me to his show and then I went to his place after and we slept together. He kinda stopped communicating like he was before. I felt used especially after all our years of friendship.
I implemented no contact. I explained why I was doing it and that I didn’t want to talk anymore and he was sad but didn’t try and change my mind or anything, still texted me good morning the next day like he always did but I ignored it. I have no hard feelings and still consider him a friend, just wanted some time to sort out my feelings and we haven’t talked since the beginning of June.
He had a new song that he posted and commented that he wrote the lyrics and the song is called “More than you know” the lyrics hint to loving someone and not being able to be together. I noticed he started viewing all my stories which wasn’t normal for him, but stopped looking when I posted the guy I was seeing recently. I tried not to read into that social media stuff but now I wondered if that song said more. I assumed her was just like promoting his new song so sending it to a bunch of people, but I asked some mutual friends and they didn’t get it. I didn’t reply so now I’m really confused and kinda frustrated, hoping he didn’t send it just to get his song some attention, but he hasn’t reached out since.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ehh sounds like that dude might just be confused about his feelings. On the one hand, randomly sending you his new song after weeks of no contact could just be about promoting it, like you said. But a few things make me think it might have been a subtle way to break the ice too:

- Lyrics hinting at being with someone he can't be with? Sounds familiar... could be about you.

- Checking your stories more than usual then backing off when you posted about the new guy. Seems jealous.

- Haven't outright tried talking to you since, just sent the song. Like maybe testing the waters without fully committing yet.

Guys can be shy about this emotional stuff, ya know? I wouldn't say he's necessarily trying to get attention - this dude is already pretty famous! But we do dumb shit when we got feelings we're not sure how to handle.

If you still care about him as a friend, maybe you could casually comment on the song to let him know you got the message loud and clear. Might give him the courage to actually chat again. Or just leave it be if you think he's not worth the hassle. Either way, his move - ball's in his court now!

[spartan55]

You are overthinking in a big way.