Why are some guys serial cheaters?

[Hello4242]

Why would a guy want that drama?
How could they live with themselves knowing they’re liars and cheaters?

[osmanthus]

Compulsive sexual inclinations and possible attachment disorder are the likely culprits but even if not some men do it for the thrills and spills and to see the self as manly; sounds retarded? Sure, but nobody said every man on this planet was intelligent. Nature made some men sex maniacs for the sake of procreation when all hell breaks loose and the world might freeze over and become a lonely and desolate place without one specimen to chase tail and make babies. Legitimacy doesn't factor into what nature programmed humans to do. I'm not about to say this man is a neanderthal but some men are just bored as hell and don't have sex with any or all of these women, anyway. What he does on his downtime doesn't have to influence what you want for your life, so why bother yourself thinking about whatever he is doing if he isn't harming anybody? (physically abusing or else taking undue advantages over someone and that person not knowing otherwise) If these acts are mutual between him and the other person and you're both not commited to each other in mutual agreement, well, is he cheating? Food for thought.

[DishLady]

Some people (men and women) are chronic cheaters... They most likely also have other pathological tendencies (lying, gaslighting, etc.) and are delusional when it comes to rationalizing their actions.

[GreenLanternI0I]

They are serial cheaters for EXACTLY the same reason why most girls are cranking their body counts like there is no tomorrow. It's just for a girl to get laid is as easy as pissing on two fingers, but for guys it takes Work, a decent amount of work, but in both cases the outcome, wants and needs are EXACTLY the same, because it is Fun, because it is exciting, it is auxilarating.

[NathanDavis]

they must be wired differently...

same as the people who keep going back to the cheaters

[Hello4242]

I dont understand all this rhetoric around bashing people who stay with cheaters. When you love someone it is unconditional, therefore really hard to leave. They will leave them eventually, but it takes time for them to face the music.

That’s just what truly loving someone will do to you.

But yes there can also be a level of self-hatred by continuously staying, too.

[NathanDavis]

I'm not bashing either... it's just how it is

and going back to someone who does wrong to you is not exactly love

because it does lack loving and caring for oneself first... and it neglects ourselves from a truer and healthier love as well

[Nikki1989]

It becomes an addiction for many guys.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause they are assholes. But women have to stop blaming the guys and blame themselves don't you agree

[Hello4242]

Sometimes men cheat because of issues in the relationship. But it ultimately their choice to make that decision to cheat. There are clearly healthier ways of dealing with things. Unfortunately, most men aren’t intelligent enough to figure that out.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I agree but these women date these guys and ignore all of the red flags then get upset when these so called men treat them bad when they knew these guys weren't shit from the start

[Hello4242]

True. Men do this a lot too. We all fall for the wrong people sometimes. That human longing to find someone can overshadow our logic.

[jahaims]

People cheat to cope with hating themselves

[Hello4242]

Wow. I think this definitely applies to my ex.

I still find it super confusing, though. If you hate yourself, why continue to self destruct in that way, and make yourself feel even worse. AND hurt the person who loves you in the process.

[jahaims]

Unresolved trauma causes them to not follow logic with cheating. Basically, their brain lies to itself to protect it.

[DrPepper12]

They likely saw dad do it

[noohair]

It is the caveman brain to spread his DNA.

[Hello4242]

No. It’s our cultural that teaches that to be a man equals getting woman. In other cultures, men view Americans as sleeping around a lot. It’s actually strange and unusual for men to be hyper sexual cross-culturally.

Men tell themselves bullshit like this because it excuses their behavior.

[noohair]

If you knew what you think was the answer, why ask? To prove you are smarter than Fredo?

[eagle1951]

they like strange a lot