Has he falling out of love with me?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys. for two months already my boyfriend and i barely hangout anymore. He has always told me that we don’t hangout because all i do is nag and complain and make him feel like he’s not a good boyfriend so i’m like okay so im the problem, let me fix myself. So after he would tell me that we don’t hangout because all i do is nag and complain I’ll ask him if that’s the real reason and he would tell me no then i’ll ask him why we don’t hangout and he would say I don't know but he hangs out with his friends all the time just not with me. he would tell me i love you and i miss you all the time but will not ask me to hangout. has he already falling out of love with me? am i being gaslighted?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man girl, that sounds really frustrating! Some red flags there for sure.

It's weird that he tells you conflicting stories about why you guys don't hang. And hanging with friends but not the girlfriend is no good. Seems like gaslighting you into thinking it's your fault when really he's losing interest.

Two months of barely seeing each other is way too long, I don't care what he says! He's definitely pulling away emotionally if not already fallen out of love.

I'd tell him straight up that this relationship is lacking quality time together and it's making you question where his head is at. Don't let him turn it around on you either - stand your ground girl!

If he can't commit to a real effort of reconnecting, then you gotta let him go sis. You don't deserve mind games and mixed signals. Hold out for someone who's excited to be with you every day!

Stay strong, you'll get through this. And hit me up if you need anything at all, aight? We'll get you an ice cream stat!

[CuriousHubby]

probably both! The honeymoon phase is over now he prefers his friends.

Are you two living together or you meet for dates?

He might be seeing another girl in his friends that he likes or is just kinda done with you and you don't fit with his friends.

Huge red flag!

[Asker]

no we don't live together. we don't even go out on dates, we will hang out once in a while. this week we did not at all hang out once.

[CuriousHubby]

Then sadly sounds like it's over and he is just saying things of you don't really nag. He could at least be honest.
At best he needs space. At worst he is just over hanging out with you. It happens a lot that guys and girls just drag along Thier dates till they get tired of it and break up so your the one breaking up not them.