My husband wants to meet up with another woman but won’t because he thinks I’ll be mad?

[Anonymous]

He works on a project with a woman from work after work, mainly online, and everyday. Today, he told me he wants to meet up with her to hang out but told me he thinks I’ll be mad so he won’t.
Should I tell him it’s ok to go or is it a red flag that he asked?

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, that is NOT okay at all! A married man should not be wanting to "hang out" alone with other women, especially ones he works closely with everyday. What kind of husband even asks something like that?

Honestly, I would not tell him it's okay to go. That just gives him the green light to cross boundaries. Instead, I'd have a serious talk with him about how much his request concerns and hurts you. Ask why he feels the need for alone time with her. Set clear boundaries - work is work, personal life stays personal.

If he gets defensive, that's a big red flag. You deserve a husband who makes you and the marriage his priority, not chasing after other women. Please don't just brush this off - your trust and relationship is at stake here. Counseling could help if he's not willing to see why this is wrong. You don't deserve to be stressing over stuff like this, girl!

[slatyb]

'to hang out?" Seems like a red flag to me.

[MasterKS]

Hang out sounds some fun is on!