I find out Husband try to get with other women before getting married to me. what do I do?

[Anonymous]

We got married pretty early. When I ask him he says he wasn’t sure if I was serious.

[Oliverlogan263]

If you've just found out that your husband tried to get with other women before marrying you, here are some steps you could take:

1. Talk to him openly and honestly. Express how his actions make you feel - hurt, betrayed, angry, etc. Listen to his side and willingness to make things right.

2. Set clear boundaries going forward. Let him know that seeking out other women is unacceptable in your marriage. Discuss what healthy boundaries and trust look like for both of you.

3. Seek couples counseling if needed. A counselor can help you work through hurt feelings, rebuild trust, and improve communication. It could bring clarity and healing.

4. Consider your next steps. If he shows sincere remorse and works to rebuild trust, the marriage may be salvageable. But if his actions call into question his commitment or character, you'll need to decide if you can move past it.

5. Focus on the present. His actions before marriage, while hurtful, happened in the past. Focus on building a strong, honest marriage moving forward if you decide to stay together.

The most important thing is how he responds now that you've brought this into the open. Does he own his mistakes, apologize, and take action to regain your trust? Or does he minimize, deflect and avoid responsibility? His current behavior will tell you a lot.

Take some time to process your feelings. Talk to trusted friends or family for support. And know that you have options - staying to work through it or leaving if you feel you can't get past the hurt. The choice is yours. I wish you the very best moving forward.

[AviatorTom]

Why do you have to do anything?

Just before we got married, my fiancée set up dates with a few of my ex-girlfriends and told me I could have sex with them... because after we're married, it's only going to be sex between the two of us, so I better get it out of my system. I politely declined, though I did meet my ex-gf's for a nice chat on our set-up date.

[Kelly6]

i would agree with him.

what he did before marriage doesn't count.

[Asker]

But isn’t he the same one who done it. Why would married change anything?

[Kelly6]

what you mean
Same one who done it?

[Asker]

The one who talked to the girl months before getting married

[Asker]

Meaning husband

[Kelly6]

still he did nothing wrong

[DarkLegacy]

You do nothing, he has not done nothing wrong

[Asker]

We were Dating and he’s talking to other girls. Calling them baby

[Kelly6]

exactly

[DarkLegacy]

You never mentioned that in the question description

[DarkLegacy]

@Kelly6 She has added something else now

[Asker]

So thoughts?

[Anonymous]

But he chose you. And married you. He seems committed...

[RHK36]

Find a new husband or don't complain

[Wise4myage]

Why do you think their is anything to do?