What would make a man pursue a very unmotivated, lazy woman over a motivated woman? (Obviously a lot of factors go into attraction, simply looking for your thoughts on men attracting to lazy/unmotivated women)
I mean, I think a lot of guys would get a lot out of being able to provide for a woman… not saying she should just be completely lazy and do nothing lol but like if she didn’t feel motivated by the corporate career type of lifestyle, guys literally don’t care about that.
Tbh, I feel like if I could find a girl that didn’t go to college but was still very attractive, that would actually be ideal. No debts to pay off, she has a better chance at being a virgin, and I could maybe show her some good experiences that would seem new and exciting to her.
I honestly don’t like the egos that tend to come with educated people in general. They always have to get their two cents in and can be combative to get their way. It’s just not a great thing to have to deal with in a relationship (or friendship even, for that matter). Like you get off work and want to blow off some steam and come home to a pleasant, soft, nurturing type of woman after a hard day… not someone who’s out to 1-up you all the time… or like if you’re chilling with the boys, you don’t want to get in these pointless intellectual debates like it’s some kind of cognitive d*ck measuring contest.
That was really kind of getting off-topic 🤣🤣 but I hope you see what I mean. Everyone could kind of stand to chill a little bit. Life doesn’t have to be that serious, especially if you’re a female. A guy is naturally going to want to take care of you. He just will want to feel respected in return.
I guess I more so mean women who don't have a passion in life, aren't motivated by anything, or don't have any kind of ambition, big or small. I see your point though!
If he does this because:
This is a hard question. Men in general don't need a super go-getter corporate ladder-climbing woman. So if by unmotivated, you mean lower-income, then maybe there is a positive aspect to that. Driven women can be aloof, and unforgiving.
On the other hand, if she is really lazy, like sits on the couch all day eating and texting, then ick. What man would want that?
I'm not sure where a woman who earns a living, but not a fantastic one, but spends her time on her own pursuits, like reading, art, and friends would fall on your "laziness" spectrum.
I don't mean lower income, I guess I should rephrase - a woman who isn't passionate about anything, not intrinsically motivated by anything, or no ambition. Does not necessarily mean corporate or job oriented
They'd have to think about when something exciting for them came along. They wouldn't want to share it with her as they would already know she wouldn't be interested in participating in anything he found fun, even if it made him happy. It takes very little to make a man happy really. Motivation is required for the slightest efforts.
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Makes him feel of value, in control?
Oh for sure some men are some women are into unmotivated men too. It makes ZERO sense to me. I can understand being depressed and things like that. But it’s people who don’t even want to have any ambition.
It’s the daddies princess that grow up to treat their men like shit. I don’t know why these men tolerate it at all when there’s better women out there. Especially when they’re giving giving giving to get little to nothing in return, unless something’s in it for him.
You’re gonna piss some women off here posting a question like that. But that really shows you the type of people who think like this.
Men and women both need to have standards. If someone refuses to even wipe their own ass it’s going to be a miserable relationship. I’m not saying someone needs to make six figures, but I am saying that if you marry someone who refuses to work, refuses to do anything around the houses only does what they wanna do. You’re gonna be absolutely miserable.
I know what you mean. People like Andrew Tate get a whole harem of those unmotivated girls. Who knows why they like girls, who are leeching off from them.
Even then Andrew Tate recently posted how the girls he has have no talent and do nothing all day long than scrolling instagram and live off their money. He got tired of them being useless.
I suppose physical attraction and these girls being adept at selling their "love" and catering to them holds the most weight in that.
It depends on the person. Some guys really like low energy girls while other guys are more into energetic girls. Some like girls that are on the extremes of the spectrum but not the middle while I've also seen guys who don't like the extremes but like girls somewhere In-between.
Generally guys who like low energy girls tend to like the Emo/Gothic esthetic but not necessarily while guys who like energetic girls tend to like Tomboys.
TLDR: Depends on the guys but yes there are guys who like low energy girls
I don't care what kind of job or income a girl has.
Are they unmotivated to workout? Are the unmotivated to put effort into the relationship? Are the unmotivated to pursue any hobbies? Then that's definitely a turn off.
Even with the update, I think my previous opinion accurately is answered your question.
A girl that isn't motivated to workout, put effort into the relationship, or pursue her own hobbies is not an attractive quality.
I'd agree! my update was more for the comments suggesting we are just talking about what career the woman has
It depends what you mean by "unmotivated". I don't think anyone wants to date a complete slug. But some people like to be captains in life and other people passengers. There's nothing wrong with being a passenger. You just need to find another passenger.
interesting! I'd agree with that. I guess I moreso mean a woman who isn't intrinsically motivated by or passionate about pursuing much in life; other than having on small hobby and smoking a lot of weed. I feel like on either side, someone who isn't passionate about something in life is not a turn on, but maybe im more of a captain lolol
Well everybody is a mixed bag. Like for example I can identify with half of what you say. To me money is a tool. It's not that I don't want money or am not motivated by it. But I don't want to work real hard for it. One thing life has taught me is you can work real hard and get NOWHERE. You can work real smart and end up a millionaire. I don't want to be a millionaire per se. But I do want financial security (that's all I want really). So I'm willing to work just hard enough to achieve that. Because life is short I'd rather spend the bulk of my time enjoying it. Because time unlike money is a resource you cannot get more of. I would never date a woman who smokes weed though. No judgement on you.
No lacking passion is a turnoff. But I'm sure you have to be passionate about something. It could be small but I'm sure you're passionate about something.
Guys would rather have a hot girl that's sweet and works at McDonald's, than a shrew that's a self-proclaimed "Boss babe" in finance with an sour disposition.
id agree with that - I was not necessarily talking about career oriented women - just comparing the interested in a woman who is passionate and motivated about something in life, and one who does not have passion or motivation for things in life - not talking about career.
Let me guess, said lazy, unmotivated woman is physically attractive. She's lazy, because she doesn't have to do anything, she thinks she's going to skate on her looks till she's in her 40s and discover it's not so easy to make a living as a vapid bimbo at that age.
https://youtu.be/yha1LQQnFJs?si=2H77GTsG1_MG06h0I don’t mind a girl that doesn’t like to go out much , that prefers to just relax at home and spend time together , but if she is completely lazy and unmotivated to work or clean up after herself , than that’s a turn off
If you showed me two identical women who were the same in every regard except for their levels of motivation and work ethic, I would be more attracted to the more motivated woman.
Controlling guys want to "make" and "mold" a woman into whatever they want, so this type of woman is like a serious treat for them.
It can work for a while but not long term for me.
And they never do anything they don’t cook. They just want me to wait on them from head to toe and clean the house pay their way no, no sir not interested in that.
No these days they r interested in working women bc they wanna sit ideal and play games etc. with zero accountability... Zero provide for their girl... So most of them r interested in ambitious women lol
I absolutely love lazy women, and if she's lazy, it's more likely that she'll be comfortable having me wait on her and do things for her.
fair - but what about this scenario - you get to wait on her, dote on her; but because she has no passions or motivations in life, she could potentially be kinda 'dull', or doesn't have passion to the relationship. what about then?
I guess a lazy, unmotivated woman could be attractive.
Because maybe the guy starts undressing her, and she just goes with the flow and tells him, "Yeah, sure, do what you're gonna do, just let me know when you're done."
Depends if she's fit, healthy, attractive, 18 plus and is a socialist minded non career ladder climber yet isn't slack about hygiene or cleanliness or chores
I guess. I mean…I don’t really care about your career. However, I think I’d take issue with someone who sits on their ass and does nothing 24/7.
Men tend to care only about woman's looks and if she allow them to fuck her.
If the woman is happy to be a pump and dump. Then the man can get his tubes flushed without having to spend a lot of money. Wining and dining her on dates for the same effect!
I'm not. You have to be productive in society somehow. Being lazy is wicked before God.
It’s true. They seem like going for a dumb woman who has no skill nor motivation.
Lazy and unmotivated how? Too lazy to shave your legs and pits and stay in shape? Yeah--that's a nonstarter.
ill rephrase - like someone who doesn't have any real passion or motivation to do much in life. Not many hobbies, not passionate about any particular field of work, not passionate about some pursuit in life, big or small
Ah okay. In that case probably not. But the issue there is less her lack of motivation in the career ladder sense and more just that she isn't fun. It's very, VERY hard to be fun if literally NOTHING motivates you. The way you right it it doesn't even sound like she's passionate about being hot and having amazing sex. So yeah--not going to be much fun to be around someone like that.
I don't think that is true.
I'm not. I into the opposite.
Some other factors obviously.
If she's hot yes.
I don't spend time with lazy people
No, for the most part.
Not for me.
I'm not
Nope, not at all
nope
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