I’m back at college, church and the gym. Why are a handful of “friends” still putting me down for past mistakes. It hurts?

[Brunettexoxo]

I didn’t injure anyone, or kill anyone, or steal from anyone or cause anyone grief or make anyone cry I was never addict was never in fights I just don’t get it is it really worth making me miserable when im getting myself back up again.

[Summeroflove]

Well I’m glad you’re back on the right track. Maybe you still have good in you after all. Nobody’s perfect Becca, but when you start to finally take accountability for what you have done and make things right. The devils gonna try to bring you back down. Especially when what people are hanging over your head is exactly the things not only have they done but are still doing.

I mean if you feel guilt, shame, remorse, etc. It’s a good sign that you’re not too far gone. If you reach a point where you can do bad things and not feel anything anymore or even enjoy it that’s when there’s serious problems.

What I can’t stand is people who keep doubling down on their actions. Thinking it’s just okay. Instead of taking accountability. That or justifying things they did or minimize it. By saying well…. There’s worse things. It’s like saying okay I killed someone but I’m not a serial killer…. I mean that doesn’t take away from the fact you killed someone. That’s just a example.

While you may not have done the things you listed. Keeping on doing the things that you said you have in other posts. Will lead you down that road. I can promise you that.

But you’ve said that before you’ve assaulted police officers among many other things. But if you can still recognize what you did was wrong and genuinely repent of it. That’s what matters.

There will be people who never change and only get worse as time goes on. You will be so glad that you left the old shit behind.

[Summeroflove]

Also. People who are still stuck in the ways they are. When they see you or anyone transcending moving up. They get jealous. They hate it. So they want to drag you back into it.

Pray for them. You cannot force anyone to change. They want to feel better about their own choices in life by throwing stuff back at you.

But that’s your testimony. That’s where you were this is where you are not and where you will be. People who try yo cover up like they’re perfect. Many times have the most to hide.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh, I'm so sorry you're going through that girl. Some "friends" can just be so catty and immature. It seriously says more about them than you if they feel the need to put others down.

I know it hurts, but just try to rise above it and don't let their nonsense get you down. You're doing awesome getting back on track with school/church/gym - keep focusing on bettering yourself. That's all that matters in the end!

Some people just wanna drag others into the mud with them. Prove to yourself that you're the better person. Keep your head high and keep doing you. And maybe distance yourself from those so-called friends who aren't truly supporting you. You've got this girl! Don't let their words get to you - just use it as motivation to succeed. Better days ahead, I know it! 💜

[avery58]

Cause they're not really your friends, and you'll come to find that very few people in your lifetime really deserved to be called a friend

[Daniela1982]

You actually call these kill joys friends?

[nawtee_me]

Some people don’t like to see others moving forward when they are not. But as a former addict one thing you hear a lot of when getting clean is learning to live life on life’s terms. Life’s term is you cannot change others, you can only change yourself.
You do what is best for you no matter what others do. You don’t blame them because blaming others can be an excuse to stop doing what is best for you.

[andy530]

People have a hard time letting others grow and move on because that requires them to learn and adapt to who they are as a person and they don’t want to change

[ChicoFromThe305]

When you are trying to do good there will always be people that wanna drag you down.

[dazzafromoz]

You should bot hang around those people and find new people.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Get some new friends

[Brunettexoxo]

Two of my old / current friends support me, obviously they did show worry when I fucked up but at least they didn’t belittle me or let it change how they view me those are the two I’ll keep