I don’t pursue men because once I start hitting on a guy or pursuing, my inner desperation comes jumping out or at least I feel like it is. Normal?

[Ysheheoeif]

Is this normal?

im not realy usually desperate or don’t feel it but once I start wondering if I should make a move on — guy, I spiral into desperate mode.

[MisterWack]

Just keep your head up.
Ask about his day, interests, hobbies.

Answer his questions honestly and playfully.

Don’t say “I love you” on the first, second, third, fourth, or fifth date… Wait until you actually go steady as boyfriend & girlfriend.

Don’t be too clingy or too pushy, go at the pace they want to go and if you think things aren’t going places wait awhile then go for it!

Best of luck to you, hope these general nuggets of wisdom help in some way. Sorry.

[Ysheheoeif]

Thanks. Getting a husband is more complicated than I thought.

[MisterWack]

@Ysheheoeif You’re welcome ❤️
OH! Tip, if you want a family in the future mention it in your dating app bio however don’t push everything about your future onto the guy on the first date because it will definitely make you look not approachable.

I see this on both sides of the relationship starting process tbh. Guys have quirks and girls have quirks, once you build upon that you can build a healthy relationship that will be sure to last.

[Ysheheoeif]

Thanks so just be open but not pushy?

[MisterWack]

@Ysheheoeif Exactly

[spartan55]

90% of girls have no clue how guys view 'being desperate'.

[jahaims]

You aren't emotionally healthy enough for a relationship if this happens.

[bowenw]

I think it is normal to feel that way.

[Iron_Man]

Get counseling

[MasterKS]

Its your age, in this peak age its normal!