Why was he frustrated that I copied him? (On a date)?

[Anonymous]

So he asked me what I “wanted “ relationship wise… I wanted to know what he was going to say so I let him go first. He said he wasn’t ready because he’s not where he wants to be career wise. So then he told me to go and I said the same thing.. because it was kind of true and I actually mentioned it prior…

He said..” noo you're just summarizing what I said “ and seemed a bit fustrated that I said it …

But what did he want me to say?

[Anonymous]

Lmao sorry girl he wanted you to say friend with benefits or ready to be a mom or something that lead to sex!

Simply you said your just wanting friends and probably will turn down sex. Not wanting to risk getting pregnant with a career.

That or he is an asshole with issues! But probably mostly wanted easy sex or a girlfriend.

[Asker]

Yeah I figured

[Asker]

But he said he was scared to sleep with me because I’ll be “crazier “

[Opinion Owner]

Haha funny he probably got a crazy ex! Or an old female boss threatened him to not sleep with his coworkers!

Yeah that is a huge red flag!

[Asker]

Mmm no

[thearchjoker]

I think its the fact you copied him, it made him feel like you were just saying what you thought he wanted you to say instead of what you actually think

[AviatorTom]

Maybe it was the way you said it, which is often more important than what you said.

An important thing I've learned in my life...

Perception is more important than truth.

[Anonymous]

I guess he was hoping you would say you want a freinds with benefits relationship. Isn't that what you want as well?

[Asker]

No and you never saw me mention that

[Opinion Owner]

You said you aren't ready for a relationship & and apparently you don't want sex, so why are you on a date with the guy? To get a free meal?

[Asker]

It’s a long story but that was in the beginning… I said that I wasn’t looking for anything… I said I could be a placeholder until he moved on.. he said he didn’t want that bc he would end up liking me

I admit that I’m not a healed person that’s why I wasn’t offering more in the beginning.

He just made me feel a certain way and that’s why I gave it a shot