Why was he frustrated that I copied him? (On a date) I’m confused 🤔 ?

[Anonymous]

So he asked me what I “wanted “ relationship wise… I wanted to know what he was going to say so I let him go first. He said he wasn’t ready because he’s not where he wants to be career wise. So then he told me to go and I said the same thing.. because it was kind of true and I actually mentioned it prior…

He said..” noo you're just summarizing what I said “ and seemed a bit fustrated that I said it …

But what did he want me to say? What did he want?

Wanted me to say something leading to sex? (friends with benefits, casual)

He wanted me to say I like him or want more

Boost his ego some way

He likes me

He doesn’t like me

[MisterWack]

You are taking a snapshot of the date so, can’t answer his intent.

What I will say is, if you basically said it word for word and you admitted you copied him (the question flat out) “ So then he told me to go and I said the same thing.. because it was kind of true ”(within the question context hints at it too)

I believe he felt frustrated and wanted a clearly answer from you, felt robbed / made a fool in that tiny piece of dialogue.

Only you know how the date actually went and only you know with full context so, I can’t say other than the piece you provided.

[Asker]

No but I said something similar… I actually told him that I wasn’t ready prior… so I don’t understand.

I felt like he wanted me to boost his ego

[MisterWack]

I think it was a misunderstanding or something.
I’ve seen people needing their ego boosted / taking their anger out on the little guy/gal…. This doesn’t seem like that. I just don’t think it was anything like that though I could be an idiot here since I wasn’t the one dating him lol.

[Asker]

Could you vote on what you think it was

[MisterWack]

I don’t think any of the choices are good though I went with, “ He wanted me to say I like him or want more “

[MisterWack]

2nd piece:
Wanting someone to like you / show interest is not an ego thing. It is a dating thing. You date to see if you two click, if he didn’t have interest or want interest then there couldn’t be / wouldn’t be a date… My choice is not ego boost, it is a bad choice.

If I could make my own option to vote for, it would be “Can’t determine any based on lack of information”.

[Asker]

Why aren’t they good lol?

If he wanted me to say that I like him then thats boosting his ego bc he didn’t say he liked me.

[Asker]

Okay but think about it… if he said “I’m not ready for a relationship bc I’m not where I want to be career wise “
What am I supposed to say…. it was going no where if that was the case. I felt he rejected me first

[Asker]

So for him to seem a bit upset was puzzling… the only I can think of is that he wanted sx.

[MisterWack]

If he just wanted sex, he wouldn’t go on a date then once the date is over he would have inquired some sexual action.
I think he wanted a relationship though didn’t expect long term unless his career goals were met.

[Asker]

Well I mean he did a 180 and asked me when I was last intimate and when I asked him he just chuckled… he asked if my father knew about the sexy pics I post.

I told him I wanted to wait until marriage for sex …

[MisterWack]

Well I told ya that there wasn’t enough context to make a decision, now given that… Definitely sex all the way though maybe not a friends with benefits situation since “waiting till marriage” defeats that.
Though it is nice he admitted you were sexy lol

[Asker]

So sex was all he wanted… I mean I understand not waiting but he didn’t have to hurt my feelings. I was just very confused and I felt hurt

[MisterWack]

I don't know given the extra context maybe, you could ask him his deal or whatever then leave it at that or just not contact him ever again. I don't know.

[Asker]

I mean he ghosted me then he only reached out when I told him that it was weighing on my mental health…..

[Asker]

But it’s a long story before the date… I messed things up in the beginning..

[bytes]

The trash just took itself out be thankful! You can do better than someone who tells you to leave! Plenty of fish in the sea

[Asker]

He didn’t tell me to leave… I’m confused

[thearchjoker]

None of the above. He thought you were saying what you thought he wanted you to say instead of what you wanted.

[Asker]

So we both can’t have the same answer?

[Asker]

I don’t feel like that’s a reason to get frustrated …

[thearchjoker]

you yourself said you copied him

[Asker]

I said sort of not word for word. I just agreed with him