Why does society blame single mothers for picking the wrong guys but most men lie to get what they want and then switch up when the baby arrives?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

And see this is the moment right here where it all could have been prevented when a guy doesn't want to use a condom and he lies He cheats his way to get her to say yes because she's in love with him and all he wants to do is come he fucks it probably takes Me 2 minutes because he's selfish and doesn't give a fuck anyway and all the girl had to do is say I'm in charge of my body I say no if you don't wear a condom we're not having sex and that's where it has to start right there..

Here exactly what you're saying I know it too well I have friends that have tried that bullshit and it's wrong

So girls if a guy tries to talk to you into having sex without a condom right in there that's a red flag he's not trying to protect you he does not love you otherwise he would be protecting you girls if he tries to do this you say no you are the boss of your body no condom no sex and it would stop all of that...

And for the guy that is so hard up just to get fucking laid but can't be responsible for what he produced you're a piece of shit

Sorry for the last paragraph I probably ruined your question but it's ridiculous girls do not have sex with these guys if they do not want to wear a condom because if they don't want to that means they don't like you they don't they don't even care about you because they know the odds is 50/50 that they're going to get you pregnant and they don't care that's not love that's not even like that's selfish pure selfishness

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

because they are being held to same standard men are when they make mistakes and pick the wrong women. why should there be sympathy for women who choose wrong when there is none for men who choose wrong?

the fact that mandatory paternity tests aren't made legal shows that men are literally blamed for committing to a woman who cheats on them and forces them to pay child support for kids that aren't biologically theirs

and what is the worst that women are being punished for? just a bunch of words?

there's already plenty of safety nets from welfare state to divorce to abortion that women can optimize whereas men get none

unless the single mother is a widow, for the most part she definitely deserves blame

how the fuck does Nick Cannon have so many baby mamas whereas there's so many virgin men who haven't gotten laid let alone dream of starting a family one day?

why the fuck do some women think it's ok to abort a loving husband's baby but keep an affair partner's baby and make the loving husband pay child support after the affair partner runs off?

fact of the matter is, if feminists stopped parroting the nonsense of women not needing men, then there'd be less blame but when you wanna be equal to men you get EQUAL amount of blame

this is what EQUALITY is all about

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

Don’t you know? Women get blamed for everything. Wear something modest and get raped, “oh she must’ve teased him or asked for it”. Wear something showing and get raped, “oh she was asking for it with that outfit”. Get abused by your boyfriend/husband, “oh well she should’ve known what he would do”. Escape from your abusive partner, “oh what an unfaithful woman, leaving her man!”. Stay with your abusive partner, “she must enjoy being abused, she clearly provoked him”. Have a child with a man who turns out to be a deadbeat father, “she should’ve kept her legs closed, what a stupid woman”. Refuse to have children, “what a selfish woman, it’s a woman’s job to have kids”. Have children with a respectful man, “he deserves better than that woman”.

You really can’t do anything right. Who gives a damn anymore. Do whatever you want to and disregard the losers who beat on you for it.

smashleyy · Accepted Answer

There are dumb women out there and society loves generalizing. Though I do agree some men’s true colours really don’t come out till after a baby is conceived and my heart goes out to the women who have to go through that bullshit. I also can't pretend some women aren’t responsible for how we’re perceived. I know quite a few women personally who knew exactly what kind of guy they were with and were so desperate to be loved they thought they could achieve it through a baby when the man already wasn’t showing up for her prior. Ironically they finally grow a back bone to leave after being bonded to a man for life through a child

ManOnFire · Answer

Two of the blue anons already covered a good bit of what I was going to say so I'll just add the rest:

A lot of women knowingly pick the wrong guys. And they do it on purpose. Because they have some novel/fantasy idea about the bad guy, or think they can fix him, but ultimately it's because deep down many women like bad men because they are bad, and hope to spite good men with that. When a man is decent and has his shit together and he's mature enough to understand what love and a serious relationship is, that actually upsets women because she perceives him as being morally better than her and more mature. So she picks lower quality men that she thinks she can change or thinks she's morally superior to him. Even Casey Zander explained all this - and much better than I just did.

Fast forward to the consequences, and then these women are left with kids or left beaten, and then they're ready for the good men they scorned before. And we are all expected to show her sympathy and understanding for her poor past choices.

Own up to your mistakes and stop trying to distract from it by putting shitty men on blast so that everyone can side with you.

Anonymous · Answer

Because a lot of women like to play the perpetual victim. It's funny how you make this EXCUSE. Because I have multiple sisters and this ONLY happened to one of them. And she learned from it. It NEVER happened again. So are you telling me my sister's were just LUCKY? Or could there just be something more to it. Like, they exercise good jusgement.

The REALITY is there are a lot of women today who simply do not know what a good man acts like or looks like, generally are not attracted to good men as those men do not feel her with enough, or any excitement. And rather then these women copping to that fact. They go out and get some loser and then think they can sand off the rough edges. Not accepting that this guy is actually rooted to the core.

All this would be hilarious if it wasn't just so pathetic and prolific amongst the female persuasion. You really don't think this doesn't get tiring? Good men having to read the women fumble one relationship after the next never choosing to learn from their mistakes or wise up just a little bit?

Avicenna · Answer

One would think based on your comments, Asker, that women have no agency. Are women really that naive? Of course not.

Use birth control and make the man wear a condom when he has sex with you unless you want to get pregnant. But if you want to get pregnant outside of a stable relationship with a responsible man who has agreed to have a kid with you, you only have yourself to blame for the consequences.

Summeroflove · Answer

Oh these people pick each other and play the victim. Plenty of women do the same thing just the other way around.

Not everyone does it’s just peope dorm want accountability it takes two to tango it’s just easier to blame the other person though.

Anonymous · Answer

And, you ALL seem to KNOW this but you STILL ALL fall for the bullshit!! Amazing!! You SAY you WANT nice guys but you won't give us the fucking time of day when you meet us! All you want are the sleazy assholes that ARE out to just get some pussy!! And YOU GIVE IT TO THEM!! THEN, you blame ALL men and accuse ALL of us of being that way when a LOT of us AREN'T!!

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes, that is a weird dynamic. The lady who decides to keep her child (ren) is disparaged but the guy (s) generally walk away free of public scorn. Worse, I know hardcore pro-life guys who will auto-reject a single mom but would date the same girl if she had gotten an abortion. What? Hypocrisy much?

Paradox316 · Answer

Because society loves double standards, and those types of men that lie to get pussy than switch once the woman gets pregnant are the same type of men that never use a rubber because "it kills the mood" and "they can pull out in time"

Maybeyoutoo · Answer

Ephesians 5:22-33 MEV
Wives, be submissive to your own husbands as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head and Savior of the church, which is His body. But as the church submits to Christ, so also let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Most men will always say what they think the woman wants to hear, but they can only keep that act going for so long.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because sadly she is just as wrong for picking the wrong guy , it takes 2 to tango not one

Juxtapose · Answer

Because you knowingly pass over really kind man who are just a little bit awkward in favor of these psycho drug dealers.

Pohjolan · Answer

If they attract fuckboys then they are attractive to others as well.

And one not only chose to fuck one but have unprotected sex as well and then chose not to have a abortion.

They made their bed and now have to sleep in it.

Berethor · Answer

If a woman can't tell when man is lying to her problem, I am not cleaning up this mess.

jahaims · Answer

Dead beat dad's are just as bad

Why does society blame single mothers for picking the wrong guys but most men lie to get what they want and then switch up when the baby arrives?

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