Guys, we met and slept together twice in a week now he’s sent me a link for a toy and told me to buy it why would he do that we’re not together?

[Anonymous]

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No date, no food together or anything like that literally met had sex and texts between. Now he’s sent a link for a toy and told me to buy it.

[Finchie40]

Because you are just a sex object to him , you are just his blow up doll pretty much , he just wants sex with you and nothing more , since you had sex with him twice already , he just assumes he can fuck you whenever he wants to, whenever it’s convenient for him , he figures you want the same thing , so he asked you to buy that toy so you can both use it next time you have sex together

[Asker]

Do you think the sex is good or is it just because it’s easy and available

[Finchie40]

It sounds like it’s both to be honest with you , if it’s wasn’t good? He would t keep coming back for more

[Anonymous]

Because he’s using you. Might have been something the wanted to try on his wife but she wouldn’t let him. If you’re ok w being used then get it lol if not move on. Chances are he still has feelings for her since she dumped him. You’re just a rebound. If she called him said I want to work this out more than likely he’d jump back on that ship.

[Asker]

He already did. And stupidly I tried to blackmail him into not by being manipulative and basically I think the times he’s come back have been to try and pacify me into not speaking to his ex of the time who’s now back together

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t know why you would try to blackmail him. He’s an idiot too. What he did w you has nothing to done his ex. They were separated, she dumped him. So I don’t even know why he’s concerned. Maybe cause he thinks she won’t take him back if she finds out he was w someone else. I think he would resent you if you did blackmail him cause deep down he loves her, not you. So if I’m right if you did that and she didn’t take him back, he would go back to you either.

[spartan55]

Don't be so uptight geez. He should be the one buying it though what a cheapskate.

[ohsheeT]

Because the toy probably has a remote control that he can operate from his phone if you give him the code so I would say he wants you to buy the toy give him the code so any part time during the day he can turn that baby on and send you sailing LOL

[EnjoytheDay777]

Talk to him and make him understand your boundaries and that he understands that you don't consider yourselves a couple.

[Miristheiss]

Why would you equate sex with being together.

If you gave up sex to someone you barely knew then you are not for relationships.

[Iron_Man]

Move on he’s only using you to get Laid

[Asker]

He’s just come out of 10 year relationship she left him and he’s perhaps doing what you say

[Iron_Man]

He is very dirt cheap user

[Asker]

What’s the reason for the toys

[Iron_Man]

I have no idea what kind of a toy is it?

[Asker]

He sent 2. One that is used with a remote and the other a wand.

[Iron_Man]

What are those like a dildo?

[Asker]

Ones a wand - that vibrates etc.

The other is one that’s inserted and then controlled via a remote

[Iron_Man]

I guess he wants to use them on you and he also wants you to pay for them

[Asker]

Yeah but is it because he finds the sex less interesting. Literally only met twice and I’ve never had any man tell me to buy toys only a week into meeting them.

[Iron_Man]

Get rid of him he’s very bad for you where did you meet him from?

[Asker]

I’ve known him since I was 17. He knows I’ve always had a thing for him. He went on to a 10 year relationship and 3 kids. I went on to the same with another person. She broke up with him and I had broke up with my ex I messaged him and met him and a b n b

[Asker]

He didn’t approach me I approached him and slept with him the same night.

[Iron_Man]

Ask yourself this do you really want to be used for sex and he doesn’t take you out anywhere and then he’ll get back with her and dump you or find somebody else this is a joke this clown

[Asker]

I think he is using me to distract his heartache

[Asker]

He tells me that it’s the best sex he ever had so I wonder why involve toys if that’s the case

[Iron_Man]

if I were you, I would cut it off immediately. This is just gonna end up real bad for you.

[Asker]

Do you think he means what he says about it being the best sex of his life

[Iron_Man]

I’m pretty sure he probably tells his ex-girlfriend that. you’re being used for kinks it’s toys now and the next thing you know it’s gonna be a threesome

[Asker]

I think I’m being played and used as the distraction

[Iron_Man]

Yes you are put it an end to it right now save yourself the disrespect

[Asker]

If the sex was that great he wouldn’t need toys

[Iron_Man]

That has nothing to do with that. He probably just wants to try different things on you.

[Iron_Man]

is this about how good you are in bed or about your dignity?

[Asker]

Why though

[Asker]

And both really

[Iron_Man]

I think you should be more concerned about the guys a piece of crap using you than how good you are in bed

[Iron_Man]

Why you say because some guys have different kinks and they want to push the envelope to see how far they can get by with it just look at all the people on here

[Asker]

He had toys with his ex just not 1 week after knowing her. Which is why I said about if the sex was the best he had he wouldn’t be needing them so soon

[Iron_Man]

you’re gonna have to ask him because I don’t know this man why he uses toys

[Asker]

I think your right in the answers you’re given

[Iron_Man]

Thanks

[Asker]

Thank you

[Iron_Man]

you’re welcome

[spartan55]

@asker
You a lot of weird ideas about sex.

[Asker]

@spartan55 what do you mean?

[spartan55]

You have written this narrative in your that isn't based on anything but your emotions.

"I think he is using me to distract his heartache"

Your last reply before this: "He didn't approach me, I approached him, and slept with him the same night"
(I added some punctuation for you)

How are you squaring these wildly different thoughts?

[Asker]

@spartan55 ah ok I see now.

I’ve made it easy for him by approaching him and then sleeping with him on the first night. Now I feel that I’m just being used to distract himself from the heartache of the fact his 10 year partner has left him. No doubt in my mind that this is the case. He talks about her all the time and usually in an angry context with lots of bad mouthing. Just typical signs of being hurt and upset. The things you’d expect from someone who’s been dumped.

[spartan55]

Okay, maybe be a bit more selective next time. You both used each other, it's not a one way street.

[spartan55]

He's asking for videos from you too?

[spartan55]

@asker
You are WAY too fixated on this sex toy thing

[CubaPirate]

He wants you to be satisfied when he's not there

[Asker]

He’s told me to buy them and I get the impression it’s for when I sleep with him

[Asker]

The fact he come out of a 10 year relationship only 4 weeks ago after his partner left him says to me I’m being used as a rebound and the toys are simply for his own ego and experiments

[CubaPirate]

Or he might just want to make sure you don't leave him or seek satisfaction elsewhere. Why not give him the benefit of the doubt

[Asker]

Because all he talks about is anger towards his ex and he’s still in touch with her and I just feel instinctually it’s a rebound

[CubaPirate]

If you feel that way then you need to end it and move on

[Anonymous]

Is it a toy he can use with a remote control?

[Asker]

No it’s a wand

[Asker]

He actually sent 2. One was a remote one the other wasn’t.

[Anonymous]

Ikr. You guys just had sex. It's not like there's anything between you.😆

[DrPepper12]

Weird. Like JD Vance weird. 🚩

[Jmmmfi4]

THATS... KINDA SOON

[Pterodon]

He wants to fuck you some more

[Asker]

Because it’s good or because it’s easy and available

[Pterodon]

Probably a little of both

[noohair]

In his mind you are together.

[MasterKS]

He saw how horny you are!

[Asker]

I’ve never had any man tell me to buy sex toys only 5 days into knowing or sleeping with them.

[msc545]

Just ask him - not us.

[Cheerfull009]

He want some interval on sex life