Why do guys ask, what are you looking for, when my profile says?

[Anonymous]

I always block these guys that ask

[DoggyDude]

It's an easy opener. When you first encounter someone, asking about their interests and getting a first hand understanding of their desires is often a fast way to increase understanding and intimacy levels. Most people won't write 'deeply' what they want in a profile, because that is too intimate to give out to the world. They would give a 'flavour' in the profile but be inclined, when getting to know someone, to refine it in person.

Don't blame you (figure of speech) in blocking them if thats the first thing they say; Whilst I sympathise with them wanting to ask they should first pick up on what brought them to your profile in particular and show an interest to get to know you, initially in your own terms. Its mearly polite, but also shows their look at you as a person not just a hot picture.

Hope that is useful (or at least something you can nod to lol).

[AviatorTom]

Why do you block them? Many women put fake info on their profiles. A guy asking what you're looking for is just looking to make sure he knows what you're looking for, that you're not fake.

By blocking them, you might be missing out on someone really nice.

[Asker]

I respect and understand what you’re saying. But I shouldn’t have to be a certain way based on someone else’s experiences. I’m who I am, he’s gotta change his mind frame and be optimistic that we’re not all like that.

[Caroline91]

I take that as a starter for a deeper conversation. It's better than "Hi. How ya doin'?" If you don't give anyone a chance, you are really cutting back on your opportunities to get to know someone. I am married, so I make that clear right up front, even though it is stated in my profile and I even expound on it there. But, I have been fortunate to have nice friendships develop with a few guys on this site. And, have developed a very close friendship as well. I would like to develop more friendships with women here, too.

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way about it but it's their way of verifying what you're looking for. Also, sometimes people put one thing on there and looking for something totally different.

[hahahmm]

Eons back when I briefly tried online dating I found it was full of women who said they wanted one thing but the truth was the opposite of what they said. The funniest was the woman in 2 piece bikini picture saying she just wanted a good christian man to start a family with. There was a note at the end about how she was still married.

Only a fool would take what people write on those sites at face value. So you eliminated all of the non fools.

[rienna888]

LMAO you’re funny but I agree like just look at my gd profile boy

[Asker]

For real! Do they not read

[rienna888]

😂 it’s funny that you block them after they ask

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Haha maybe there's no other topics? When I tried dating apps before, that question also annoyed me. But I suggest not blocking them quickly, you might lose a potential boyfriend. ❤️

[Asker]

A profile on a dating site, I always say what I’m looking for to avoid the dumb questions but it doesn’t do any good. Block block block - guys need to read profiles and mind their business if it doesn’t apply to them specifically.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Oh yeah, I see! 🙂 If you stated it already on your profile means they didn't read it thoroughly.

[Anonymous]

For the same reason women will write in their profile towards the end. "type the word strawberry somewhere in your message to me so I know you read my entire profile.

I likewise block women that say this. I didn't read your profile to take some got dammed test. And if this is how you are when you first meet someone I can only imagine the nightmare you are later.

[Asker]

There’s no harm in reading a profile you know. It helps people move along or send a message. It’s to breeze through the ones that simply are not even nearly interesting or appealing.
My app notifications are off because of so many sloppy little messages that have no value. Just blah

[Opinion Owner]

Of course there isn't. Who said there was? It's the constant insinuation that guys don't guys do, just not the guys she talks to. And she only has herself to blame for that.
But you know it doesn't hurt to have a positive attitude when dating either. It's one thing to think these 5hings it's another to say these things. Negativity is an instant turnoff.

[Asker]

Yeup, that’s why I block them

[Opinion Owner]

No loss.👍

[teamvic]

Mmm some don't bother to read the profile

Others want to try to see if you're open for a hook up.

And for the rest, they just don't know what to talk about

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

They probably want to get to the point in less than 25 seconds. Or lacking in imagination, or lazy, or blind to communication?

[OlderAndWiser]

For some guys, dating sites are like Playboy magazine: they just look at the pictures and never read the articles.

[V_Injector]

The same reason girls ask me that... they just want to fuck.

[paledreams]

What's this regarding, a dating profile, a professional profile, GAG? I'm very confused for context 🤔😲

[LiamJHayden]

It's a cut and paste question for you and the fifty other ladies they are hitting on. I don't blame you for blocking them.

[Anonymous]

I am convinced many men on here can't read at all.

[Anonymous]

I understand what you're saying, but it still doesn't make sense why you would block him.

[Asker]

Because they all say it before even asking how’s it going. It’s the first message they approach me with “what r u lookin for here”.

It’s so sloppy

[Ladsin2]

They don't read them or are trying to start conversation... Speaking of
What are you looking for?

[Butterfinger10]

Maybe it's not clear or they're just verifying that what you're looking for

[A_Wild_Redhead]

I think they forget that a profile exists.