Why aren’t you guys trying?

Question

Stop being pussies and ask us out 💔 I’m tired of being single because i know a lot of guys would’ve asked me out if they at least TRIED. What are you guys scared of?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Sadly a lot of guys’ are scared of rejection , the same way a lot of girls’ are scared as well. It mainly stems down to their own self esteem about themselves , whether they are confident or unconfident of themselves. Most people are their own worst enemy and think no one would like them or be attracted to them , so they keep their mouth shut and don’t say a word. I use to be shy when I was younger , until I realized I really have nothing to lose , it’s better to take the chance than not taking a chance at all , is how I see things. I rather have an answer than no answer at all. So if i see a beautiful girl I am attracted to , I usually go for it , and take the chance , to me it’s my window of opportunity before I don’t have a window anymore , especially if she disappears and I never see her again, when I am out in public. Some girls’ are nice about it and some can be mean about it as well. If she is mean about it? I lose respect for her and think she is a stuck up person that thinks her shit doesn’t stink. We don’t walk around with signs flashing over our heads saying what we are into and what our current relationship status is , so when someone is rude from the start , they have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves. Why I choose not to be rude to a girl that approaches me , whether I am attracted to her or not , I am still polite to her , I would only get disrespectful if she didn’t take No for an answer. Being rejected is a shitty feeling , so people shouldn’t be rude about it. But sadly that’s the way society is and sadly it will never change

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately you're being lumped in with the women men see online because they've come to believe that this is how all women are these days. Women on social media are completely useless to men now. They call us all rapists, they hate children, they hate mothers, they hate self-improvement because they all think they're perfectly already; they act completely selfish and self-centered, and often really stupid. I'd be shocked if any of them could find their own country on a map. They also have these extensive lists of demands that men must meet in order to even be allowed to enjoy their breathtaking presence. Most of them spend their time self-promoting on Tik Tok, usually by slandering others and a lot of the time it's men. Tik tok is a cyber shithole full of disinformation, tribalism, stupidity, and brain-numbing immaturity. So is most of social media.

So it's not fair, but men believe all women to be Tik Tok women now, and they don't want them. Who would? You couldn't pay me to have anything to do with those clowns. Of course not all women are like that. I know that. A lot of guys don't though. Things are in a dire state right now when it comes to dating and courtship.

jojouzumaki · Accepted Answer

I don’t think it’s fair to call them being pussies just because they don’t ask you out. They do have their own reason why they do what they do (after are we all are?).

Believe in yourself and kindly not to blame others when you don’t get what you want. In the meantime while you’re single make the best version of you and excel physically and mentally. You never know who might get attracted to you. Sooner or later there’ll will be.

Hope it helps

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

Why don’t you ask a guy out if you’re interested?

This isn’t meant to be rhetorical. I’m genuinely wondering why you wouldn’t want to ask someone out if you like them. Hard enough meeting someone you’re into so if you get that far why not ask?

Why leave it up to someone else to look after your own interest?

Summeroflove · Answer

Well the thing of it is most dudes you’re into also have a lot of other girls into them. So…. If you want someone then you can ask him out or see him witn someone else. It’s mostly desperate dudes who cannot get anyone who are the ones gonna be persistent.

Im sorry. You’re not entitled for someone to ask you out. Take your own advice and stop being a sexist because then the self respecting men really won’t want you. Sorry!

Plus if it’s dudes you don’t even know many are taken and others aren’t paying much attention just going about their day to day.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

No, we aren't scared, we are fed up and see no real benefits in fulfilling that gender specific role any further.

Quite frankly, you aren't your grandmother or mother. Today's women in general do not offer any real benefits to a relationship besides companionship which has been replaced with friend groups and online gaming groups.

Just based off your profile and what you've posted i see zero reason to approach you socially. That isn't meant derogatory or to make you feel bad, it's just in my view I see nothing "attractive " about you. Now you could be every bit a great person to know, but that doesn't mean you would be a great person to date.

I truly hope you find what your looking for, but honestly you may have to step outside your comfort zone and be the person who approaches.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It's just not worth the effort for most men. We watch the way women move and we've realized that you aren't providing the things we're looking for in relationships, so there's no point for us. Dating is a whole lot of trouble with very little benefit in return.

Why should I spend lots time, effort and money courting a woman who doesn't know how to provide the emotional connection I'm looking for, and will most likely drop me in an instant for reasons outside of my control? At least, that's how a lot of men think.

I'm 31, and I can tell you that most of the women I've interacted with who are my age are still pulling the same high school bullshit.

Dargil · Answer

Many guys look at the dating game as too risky due to clandestine social justice warriors. With women being the initiators of 80% of divorces, the hookup culture seems a better bet. An alternative is for women like you to approach a guy who interests you and suggest he take you out for coffee at Starbucks sometime and get to know each other. By initiating, you mitigate the risk.

In the olden days, men and women would attend social functions and a girl would drop her handkerchief when walking by a guy. That was the green light that he should ask her to dance. The Starbucks approach is the modern equivalent of that. He can decide yes or no and no feelings are hurt.

Benjiman19 · Answer

For the moment, I am not trying at all. I'm getting my life situated before I get myself in a relationship. Sure, I see beautiful women all the time and I would love to ask them out or for their number. Yet, I have a plan in the making.

I need to be financially stable and have my own place before I'm with anyone. It's work, work, work and sleep for me right now. I'm in the mindset of work and I'm not coming out of that mindset until I've completed what I need to to have a good relationship and be able to not only satisfy the woman or women I choose to be with, but also be able to house them instead of us going back to my parents house... That's not really a romantic setting, is it?

I haven't had a relationship with anyone since I was 18. Since then, I have been working and trying to find the perfect job that I not only enjoy, but that pays well enough for the future.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

To understand life, listen to @vivant and @still-alive they are both etymologically correct in french and English. If that argument isn't enough then I don't know what I could say... You need a mini-jeep to start moving or what? oops

SixFootSexy · Answer

Probably the guys who would ask you out can't afford you. Do you ever give signs that you want a guy to ask you out?

Women want guys to ask them out but never make it obvious they aren't just being friendly, they're genuinely interested and flirting.

HawkPerception · Answer

Maybe these video might shed a little light

NamerOfStars · Answer

Women who are so damned cowardly they're not willing to take minor risks to get what they want. We risk having the police called on us, being hounded out of our jobs, and having our reputations destroyed; you risk... hurt feelings.

If you think so little of us that you think that's unfair in OUR favor, then why would would any guy with half a brain want to be with you?

Kaneki05 · Answer

I don't really hide my feelings so if she hasn't asked me out it's because she don't want me, not that she couldn't figure out that I like her.

Still-alive · Answer

I mean you can try yourself. no ones stopping you...

dudewithnoname · Answer

In my story rejection plays a big part in not asking…theres this woman i know that had a few bad boyfriends since I've known her and when she complained about them to me i always said why aren't dating me instead of those asshats then she say something dumb then change the subject.. happened so much that i stopped trying

Anonymous · Answer

Man meets woman and asks her out.
Woman, rather than just saying, "No." or, "I'm seeing someone." threatens to call the cops on him.
Once bitten, twice shy!
What's keeping YOU from asking US out? Why does HAVING a pussy stop you?

avery58 · Answer

People have began to realize that dating in this generation is pretty much pointless and a heartbreak waiting to happen

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

There are so many videos online of women criticizing men for talking to them or looking at them. I understand some guys can come off creepy but some of them just seem to be friendly and get called a a creep. So, there is definitely a fear that you are going to be the next guy on a new viriall video being called a creep. I'm so glad I got married before the Internet.

Firestar01 · Answer

Ehm. Most guys are quite afraid about being called a creep or a harasser if the girl doesn't find them hot. Also, a lot of girls aren't worth pursuing nowadays. I could give you a ton of examples for that - and how shallow a ton of women are from my own life.

So if you want something, you actually now have to work for it yourself. I am not saying it's your fault personally, but it is what it is.

AviatorTom · Answer

Instead of blaming the guys, why not take the initiative yourself? When you see a guy you'd like to go out with, ask him out yourself? Why miss the opportunity?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Younger generation spends their life glued to their phones and fail to develop social skills, so now you pay the price. Older men are much more assertive and confident.

luvstoned4him · Answer

I've had a ton ask me out but mostly F'boys and I want something more serious

RavVid · Answer

From what I hear at least some younger guys have decided girls are not worth the trouble and get nods of approval from their fathers. Don't know how common this but I hear it a bit.

Fireguy17 · Answer

let me ask you the same question. Why don't you ask the guy (s) out that you might be interested in? It works both ways.

Anonymous · Answer

Stop blaming guys for your failures in dating.

And stop calling guys pussies for not asking you out while you sit on your hands passively waiting for a man to ask you out because you yourself are too cowardly to go after a guy you're attracted to. I will never understand this behavior in women. So hypocritical.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

The motivation to put in effort isn't there, that can be from endless reasons.

paledreams · Answer

Nah I'm too lazy enjoying money 💰 workaholic and trying to contribute to society through taxes and charity. 🥳🥳🥳🫢

Twalli · Answer

We don't like rejection. How about you approach guys you like and ask them out? Worried about being rejected? So are we. Also, subtle signals don't work, so don't even try to claim that you're giving signals you're interested that a guy would notice.

ManInChains · Answer

Not worth it. Not after th last time when I ended up with an ex parte ppo. I'd rather die alone and I'm sure I'm not the only man who agrees

rosemilk · Answer

just go up to the guy? i did. i now have a husband. just how it works sometimes.

LiamJHayden · Answer

lol I do approach, engage, and ask - if she turns out to be single.

Anonymous · Answer

what if this guy asked you out? hello

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

You don't want a man who doesn't try and make efforts, anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys aren't scared. Guys try, you reject them, end of story.

Your gender made this problem now your gender has to live with this problem.

You have to give Guys an INCENTIVE to ask you out. Not exploit them Guys for your own ego.

NathanDavis · Answer

sure... if I ever go to Japan, I'll let you know

Makeushiver · Answer

Hey babe, let's meet for a quick wham,. bam, thank you ma'am. Your only support would be your ankles wrapped around my hips. Forward enough?

morganherrel · Answer

Girls don't like being asked out by average men—only by men they deem attractive, who tend to have plenty of girls interested in them already and won't pick you.

Unit1 · Answer

Oh well

Anonymous · Answer

MeToo statutes and firing squads is a pretty big deterrent

Anonymous · Answer

ahh women, the same gender who shoot every guy who tries down, harps on penis size, wealth, height, blah blah, wonder why.

Quidthonian · Answer

Stop being nasty to men. Stop being gold-diggers, dating guys for a free meal. It works both ways.

ABC1x1x · Answer

Lol. No. You have nothing to offer and you are a head ache. You want to date men? Be born in Singapore. That's where men are lookin for women

abc--123 · Answer

The main reason ice never asked you out is I don't know who you are

Staximus · Answer

I don't ask a woman out unless she shows some sign of attraction

jahaims · Answer

You can ask too. If you aren't asked out there is a reason.

HopeTrust19 · Answer

stfu you wanted equality now suffer the consequences.

nawtee_me · Answer

Would you like to go out sometime? I would enjoy taking you out.

Anonymous · Answer

Tell your fellow women to stop being assholes

Anonymous · Answer

Some guys actually prefer self-confident, dominant and assertive girls who like to take initiative.

Anonymous · Answer

Another reminder of what has always been and likely always will be

Tamera952 · Answer

Us? What are you, conjoined twins?

BobbieBoy666 · Answer

Rejection and I like being a pussie. 💕

Nirmroth · Answer

Poked the hornets nest with this question lol.

stratford · Answer

What's stopping you from asking a guy out?

exitseven · Answer

What if you said no? I would be crushed.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Maybe you're just not their type

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Fine. If I must…

LadiesFavoriteToy · Answer

Why don't you ask us?

nudeNhorny · Answer

Why can't you ask a guy out?

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

Are you thinking of a specific guy?

eagle1951 · Answer

if only i were younger

Rohaan2020 · Answer

Most women these days are not worth it..

Anonymous · Answer

Will you go out with me?

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