Why am I not like other women?

[Anonymous]

My mother left us when I was little and my father paid almost no attention to me. My relatives and cousins ​​always humiliated and excluded me. I've never had friends or a boyfriend. Girls in college never talked to me, they ignored me, no boys were interested in me. Other girls have perfect families, perfect bodies and perfect hair, I don't have any of that, they have a light and shine, I'm dark, they're colorful and I'm pitch black

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh girl, I totally get feeling like the odd one out. It's so hard being in high school or college when everyone seems to fit in but you. But I promise you're not alone, and it has nothing to do with you being "less than."

Sometimes our families and backgrounds are messy, but that doesn't define our worth. Learn to love yourself exactly as you are - dark, shiny, whatever! When you radiate that confidence, others will see it.

As for friends, don't focus so much on what others have. Put yourself out there by being genuinely interested in people. Compliment them, ask questions, find common interests. Real friends see beyond surface stuff.

And don't believe for a second that any girl is actually perfect. We all have insecurities - those "perfect" ones probably struggle just like you. Comparison is a trap, sis, free yourself from worrying what others think!

This is YOUR story to write. Find your people, your passion, and embrace who you are unapologetically. Your light will shine from the inside out I promise. You've got this - keep your head high!

[Saramad_Hill]

None of that is your fault. You deserve friends at the very least, a social circle of some sort, but you will have to make a small effort to make it happen. It's really hard, as an introvert it hurts me to give you that advice.

But, if you consider yourself more morally good than not, the people who have abandoned you are not people you needed anyway. If you've done nothing wrong to them, you don't need them. And I hope you're able to find people you like, it will just take some time and effort. The world's a different place than it used to be, but it's really hard to get through life alone and without company unless you're just built different.

Just based off the short question you've asked, it sounds like you're really hurting for someone to care about you. I am very sorry to hear that, but don't blame yourself. Just be kind and nice as much as you think you're able to, and someone will eventually respond positively to it. DO NOT let someone take advantage of you while you're in a vulnerable state of loneliness. A bad friend is worse than no friend.

[Viking_Girl19]

You are beautiful!

Don't talk nonsense. I'm sure there are many guys who are secretly like you. If you think that the color of your hair, eyes and skin is beautiful... remember Princess Jasmine from the cartoon Aladdin 😍

You are Princess!!! Appreciate yourself!

Love yourself!!!

[Viking_Girl19]

As for society... I also never had a boyfriend and did not have many friends at all. This does not mean that there is something wrong with us, it's just that we are not in our place. He knows that a bottle of water in a supermarket costs little and no one pays attention to it, but in the desert it is worth its weight in gold. You just have to do everything to get into a new, bigger and better environment of young people and engage in self-development in order to show yourself there quickly 👌

[Viking_Girl19]

If you would like we can talk in DM. I'm open for making new friends 🤗❤️