Is it related thst I expressed that I was hurt or offended by his teasing and ever since, there have been times where he seems nervous talking to me?

[Wushvd]

My coworker. He made a joke about my appearance and I expressed that I didn’t like that. He said sorry. But yeah little things like that adds up. And I shut down. He seemed affected by me closing off. I didn’t expect him to care. I’m a lifelong bullying victim so I’m used to people who tease or bully me keep doing it even if I shut down or shut off. I didn’t think he’d even notice or care.

evwr since he seems at times to be nervous talking to me which is weird and I don’t like. I don’t want anyone nervous talking to me

i feel badly like I’m possibly autistic and i feel so stupid. I don’t get people and people don’t get me.

[Elaris]

I totally get where you're coming from. It's super frustrating when someone makes a joke about your appearance, especially after dealing with bullying. It's like, can we just be respectful? His nervousness could mean he actually cares and feels guilty about what he said, which is kinda wild if you think about it.

You shouldn’t feel stupid for how you feel, and questioning social cues is so normal. It just shows you're aware of your emotions and reactions. Seriously, take your time with this. You deserve to feel comfortable and respected at work, and it’s okay to set boundaries about how you want to be treated. Don’t let anyone make you feel less than!

[Eatthatgirl]

Thanks :)

[Elaris]

@Eatthatgirl
You're welcome sis! ☺️

[Nikki1989]

You will have to be assertive yet respectful if you want to get anywhere with this man.

[Benedict234]

Same has happened to me, I say the wrong thing and I only realize it after the words have left my mouth.

[Benedict234]

Thanks for the MHO

[Avicenna]

He probably regrets it

[Wushvd]

I’m surprised. I’m a lifelong bullying victim and I always see someone start teasing me or bullying and it just hurts because I know it’s just more to come and gets worse possibly.

For me it’s the principal of bullying or putting someone else down. He didn’t say something that severely was offensive but again the little teasing or jabs really just adds up. I feel like I’m weird cause other people do teasing each other and enjoy it I guess. It’s just too much for me. I really shut down.

[spartan55]

He, probably just doesn't want to bother now.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Give it time everything will come to normal

[Eatthatgirl]

Why do you think so?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

It was an awkward situation so by some time it will become normal.
a person can hardly change their nature.

The guy will eventually be himself and will speak to her normally and will be careful with his words.