Why is hooking up seen as bad from a lot of people?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because people look at it from a whole different. perspective , they just assume 2 are people mainly just using each other to get off on each other , without really getting to know each other , in their minds , it’s dirty and degrading to hook up with someone that they barely know 2 much about, most people in general are judgmental about everyone else but themselves. So they talk shit until it happens to them. Why I tend to ignore people most of the time that try to rub their 2 cents together , because they really don’t know shit , and most people are hypocrites when it comes down to other peoples’ decisions and chooses in life , like they assume things , when really they don’t know shit. I have hooked up with girls’ on the same night I met her , because her and I were attracted to each other and liked each other , and we had a lot in common with each other , but other people see it as we are just being whores by hooking up with each other right away. Her and I would just laugh and ignore them , because we really liked each other and wanted to be closer together There is no set time limit on when you or anyone else likes someone. If the connection and chemistry and attraction is there , that’s all that matters. Fuck what other people think or say. We all make our own choices and decisions in life , if I fucked up , oh well I fucked up , I am not blaming anyone else for my fuck up , that’s pretty much how we live and learn from our mistakes. I don’t live my life playing investigator. If I meet a beautiful girl that I am very attracted to and her and I hit it off and she likes me the same , I am more than likely going to fuck her , if she is lying to me , then that’s something she has to live with and suffer the consequences for her own selfish actions , I consider myself an honest guy , that really doesn’t hide anything about myself , so when I meet a beautiful girl I just assume she is being honest with me , if she isn’t , oh well thanks for a good time but not a long time , I have had sex with girls’ that lied about being single that had husbands and boyfriends waiting for her at home when I asked her if she is single she said Yes , so I believed her , if I didn’t believe her , I wouldn’t fuck her period. But again that’s not my problem if she chooses to lie , I am out having a good time and looking to keep having a good time , if the night ends with her naked in bed with me , to me that was a damn good night , and I am hoping she comes back for more. If she doesn’t? Oh well i still had a damn good time.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

Hook-ups beyond the obvious risks can carry the probability of emotional / psychological damage in my opinion. Personally I have never seen the attraction and would never have such little respect for myself but each to their own. Sex for the sake of it , there is just no appeal , there is no depth or attachment. No closeness or connection just bumping uglies for an orgasm. I don’t think it’s that they are thought of as ‘bad’ in my opinion , but just that if the point is to find a meaningful relationship why run settle for what is basically mutual masturbation over something that’s real and meaningful?

Radiate143 · Accepted Answer

More often than not, simeone is getting tue short end of the stick.

Usually there is a lack of respect in the entire scenario.

Generally, it lowers sexual activity to the copulating of pigs when as humans, it's for far more nible purposes.

Little good comes out of hooking up as a way of life or even as misadventure.

The majority of people who hook up are avoiding inner turmoil at a minimum.

If it had a smell, it would be raw sewage.

SugarSugarplum · Accepted Answer

I want to get married and start a family, which is best done (for women) in our 20's and 30's. Every year I waste boffing one-night stands takes time away from my eventual happiness, and also makes me less desirable to the right kind of men.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Some say if you sleep with dogs you end up with fleas & when it come to hooking up you can end up with a lot more if you don’t use protection or your partner isn’t clean. As for hooking it some people see it as trashy & as for me I see it as a fun way to test to see if you are sexually compatible with other people.

lightbulb27 · Answer

go try to raise a child on your own... good luck. there are no problems with anything... until there's a consequence you dont like.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Cause it shows perversion when people choose to sleep around with random people, it shows their sexual urges have more control over them that they would risk their own health with strangers that can be a carrier of many diseases, even if people managed to take precautions on disease, it doesn't change the fact they lack self control against their urges, the idea of it being just a fun thing shows they have more of an animalistic point of view when it comes to intercourse which one can only assume they would have a similar mindset against others things and many people that sleep around seem to have a very weak view in relationships and marriage, I wouldn't be surprised if these are the same people that eventually end up cheating when in a committed relationship.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

It's a negative because "free sex" has legitimately no benefit to society and actually has many proven negative social aspects.

The way I see it is only a weak degenerate with 0 self control, self respect, and or emotional intelligence. Especially for a girl because sex isn't the same for the 2 genders, you're 19 being a whore means nothing now because in college you're surrounded by horny similar minded young men and women. In 5 years, 10 years, you'll see the effects on your dating pool.

UnusualWeirdo · Answer

Personally it's not my thing, I can talk to a lot of people but I wouldn't have sexual relationships with them, people have their own ways, I don't agree with sleeping around but I'm not going to trash talk it, I wouldn't want to be in a good with a girl who used to sleep around either, it's all very personal. My opinion is neither right or wrong, there are many ways to go about life.

Anonymous · Answer

Because when you look back on your life when you're 40, you'll regret having played that game. Or you'll do the mental gymnastics to justify having done it in your mind, but by that time the damage will have been done, so what's the point? Or, you can try to have more wisdom than most people your age and foresee the problems that lifestyle at your age will create for the rest of your life.

https://www.aspenideas.org/sessions/has-modern-feminism-failed-us#idea-header-1

ManOnFire · Answer

Because there is no basis of love in it. It's just raunchy momentary sex. Plus there's always the possibility of getting STDs. There are many people who hooked up - especially if that was their first time ever having sex - and they were crushed when they later found out they got herpes or some other thing they couldn't cure or it at least affected them significantly.

SunnyYT · Answer

It can be heartbreaking it confuses people and can only cause heart ache and pain for those crush on that person hook us are never a good idea to begin with not only because of that but because people can be stupid and immature not saying this is 100% always true that they can but we all are human so we all have the potential to make mistakes so if you aren’t planning on making a baby or being with that person in the long run then your just using that person as an object to get some sort of sensational feeling for your own selfish bidding

abc3643 · Answer

Because then you are likely a selfish hedonist and such individuals are not team players who can be counted on in the clutch. Furthermore, "you rack discipline!"

Zack-Bann · Answer

It isn’t

People hate it either because they’re not getting any, or because they really really liked someone who ended up hooking up with multiple people without giving them a chance

It’s all selfish logic

The reality is. Sometimes you can see yourself hooking up with a person but can’t see yourself getting married to them and if they feel the same then no one is actually harmed

Garud · Answer

Socially,
if someone stares at a woman, the woman does not like it because she considers it an attack on her integrity.
So, exposing your whole body to others...

Personally,
I find it a bit dirty. I think I would rather connect with a lady emotionally and not just physically. Because physically, I get bored easily and start looking for more fun after some time.

laurieluvsit · Answer

Because Prudes and Puritans still exit. Some of them are even Moderators and Admin on this site... lol

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Hook ups are like a 5th grader making a rushed Mother’s Day card at the last minute that turns out to be absolute dogshit. Saving yourself for the person you marry is like making sure their gift (you) remains in perfect condition and doesn’t get more used than ran through than Brooklyn Guy’s mom. It is respect to yourself and to your husband. Imagine if the guy you have a crush on gave you a dead baby horse as a present.

paledreams · Answer

The risks feel like they outweigh the brief orgasm/orgasms lol 😆😆😆😆 - aka pregnancy risks, sti, STD, herpes, etc - genital warts even

So yeah - sleeping around , ain't my thing
That said even monogamy apparently they can still happen lol 😂😆 I'm no doctor or medic

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It shows you lack discipline, morals and integrity. Like how can you trust someone not to cheat on you when they can so easily sleep with people they barely know?

MrCharlie13 · Answer

Most people were taught since they were kids to think that way, because they were taught that way as well.

I see nothing wrong with hooking up as long as it is consensual and as time goes on I am finding more and more men and women thinking like me

SueShe · Answer

Because mediocrity is always worse than quality, because being a hoe or player is never ever a quality and because not being in control of your hormones reveals a lot about your character and personality, or rather lack thereof.

NathanDavis · Answer

because it doesn't align with their particular perception of morals or life style... and then they have the need to judge others about it

and sometimes people just do that... if it doesn't align with us then it is bad

Lalalove11 · Answer

It's not necessarily bad per se, it's more just an empty lifestyle. It's fun, it's playtime, but I think it leaves people feeling pretty empty.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It’s not bad, it’s just not what most girls really want (though a few like around my age or a little older are really into it)

V_Injector · Answer

The ones that complain the most about it are...

Kelley1 · Answer

Is there any reason people would not see it as bad?

Anonymous · Answer

It's because men insult women for sleeping around. After all, they want to control women's bodies and decisions. I think women should be free to hook up without judgment.

Levin · Answer

It's kind of gross, dude. You've got to think where that grub has been...

RingOfFire · Answer

Because most people believe that the act of sexual union is special and deeply meaningful and not to be diluted and disrespected by random acts of meaningless sex.

Billlewis · Answer

The ones who say it's bad are the ones who can't get sex. In other words, men. Mostly.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Depends on the gender. Men that can hook up are typically bringing some sort of value to the table while women who can are seen as giving their value away.

jshm2 · Answer

Not only because of the diseases, but the breaking of relationships and trust leads to trashy people in general.

Shamalien · Answer

You’d need a soul in order to understand that

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Becky JEHOVAH Witness is the truth religion. Disgusting Catholic are only lying to you.

Anonymous · Answer

it's only seen as bad by women who had hookups but aren't taken seriously for a long term relationship. other women just learn from the mistakes of promiscuous women

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

Double standard, it’s wrong but girls still do it and then complain, on them!

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It's risky to your health and the sex tends to be EXTREMELY BLAND.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Because it desensitizes you as to what a normal, healthy relationship looks like and involves

elizamichale1 · Answer

It is seen bad by the people who usually r unable to hookup

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

How about read the Book of Exodus chapter 20: The Ten Commandments.

LiamJHayden · Answer

For me it messed up my ability to have a romantic relationship.

Slim57 · Answer

Because humans are supposed to have control and not be like animals

jahaims · Answer

Different people have different morals and values. Plus it adds trauma/baggage

Pohjolan · Answer

Its mostly guys who don't get the benefits from hookup culture and end up with slutty seconds.

antony21isthegoat · Answer

Ruins dating for everyone, simple as that. Women and men were happier when it wasn't a thing and commitment was vital for both sides.

Tomisworthless · Answer

How is having lustful sex with a complete stranger any good?

In_Trance · Answer

Most people think it's bad because the church has told them to think it's bad

JohnnyB123321 · Answer

I don’t know. I’m pretty ok with bringing girls home a lot recently.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

because women dont know what hooking up really is

andy530 · Answer

It’s a cultural norm rooted in purity culture and reducing a woman’s value to her sexuality

LEGENDARY4200 · Answer

They are mist likely just scared of their sexualy or even talking about it. It's seen as taboo

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

It's not a bad thing it's just risky asf if not done properly

Jennz6 · Answer

Church ladies think that I’m a bad woman

Agape93 · Answer

No idea. It's just sex.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

It may lead to an unplanned pregnancy

CVNT5 · Answer

cuz its not real love

Adana01 · Answer

such a person will never find true happiness...

Totalgalpal92 · Answer

Because of societal convention!!

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