Is it wrong to be against hookup culture?

[Anonymous]

Many people (not all) in the Middle East and South Asia, including my parents, think that casual intercourse and hookups are wrong. Do you think their views are unethical and should be corrected? Also is it wrong to be against marrying someone who has had many partners? Many girls in my culture would not marry a man who has had girlfriends in the past. Along the same lines, for a man, is it misogynistic to be unwilling to marry a girl who has had over 10 partners before? Why are women not judged as harshly for demanding the same of their husbands?

[D_Bone_Steak]

I've seen so much weird shit out of women. Hook up culture is effing weird. Women do things like having their man... that they're actively cheating on, and then demanding their side man (the guy they're cheating with) be single and not talking to other women. I've seen it over and over because most of the women I was getting with for easy sex were married or in a committed relationship (not with me).

Also note I've mainly lived in America where it's real bad just in general and pretty much my 20's and 30's I lived in Japan. It's not really culturally restricted from my experience, it just has a varying degree of how flamboyant or show boat like they are about their sleeping around like this. To make it simple the American women are more likely to brag about this shit, while the Japanese women (despite doing it) might get pissed off if you go around pointing out they're cheating sluts. The pride factors are just different. They both cheat like crazy, but it's not a point of pride or a bragging point for some women.

Anyways... the only reason I wanted to answer this question is to point out how complete sluts that cheat constantly, seem to always demand the men be single and only available to them. Obviously in reality... I think the Japanese guys get way more pussy than the American dudes that think they're getting all the pussy when they've only banged like 3 different girls in a month. Shit, I was banging 3 different girls every night. Prostitution is basically legal there and in fact expected of you otherwise you're one of the wimpy guys, but here in the states... it's seedy... dirty... I would even say it's dangerous.

We're all sluts at the end of the day... I just think it's weird that a slutty blown out chick demands virgin men. They don't practice that with action though... a virgin woman will probably pick Chad Thunderstroke over some bible boy with high morals.

[Horn_Hog]

One theory why men are able to cheat less naturally is that we have a reason to try not to think about sex.

We know that thinking about sex causes erections. So we avoid it in public and in front of kids. By not thinking about sex, we also reduce the amount of precum we make. Since simply thinking about sex can cause precum secretion.

And women also secrete their lubricants simply thinking about sex. And so what? The tampon absorbs any leaks. No inches stick out. They're free to think about sex in public.

And then pressure builds up, due to the fluids secreted. In the end the pressure creates an irresistible urge to fuck and release.

I think it should be called "pavlov's cock response". Similar to pavlov's dogs salivating, humans are seminating by thinking about sex or receiving stimuli related to sex, including Disney movies with "sex" written on them...



But that's just some QAnon nutjobism forget that...

Point is that conscious and subconscious thoughts about sex cause seminal fluid secretion, and if those aren't released then that causes physical pain and possibly eventually disease. Thats why even bible thumpers are sluts unless they are careful to eliminate even the thoughts of sex.

[Rig_Stroll]

@Horn_Hog is right. And there's a snowball effect in every habbit, so to say. If men learn to not think about sex for the betterment of surroundings, then the surroundings begin to expect them to not think of sex.

Men also might practice purging sexual thoughts when trying to last longer. But women get 0 practice curbing impulses.

[RichA322]

Nope. I think ALL religions ruined our lives more than enough in the past. That where those "it's unethical' viewpoint comes from.

If humans want to have casual sex with one another before deciding with whom they will be together with, that is their fair right. We are slaves that are destined to live a horrible life if we just dated the wrong person. That is just awful.

And in western societies is was similar to this until religion was introduced by force everywhere.

[RichA322]

Hookup culture in most western countries is just ruined, because people believe social media absolutely everything and they enter the dating world with impossible and unrealistic expectations.
Like
- every guy MUST be 6ft tall or he is useless/she must be a virgin or she is useless
And
- no guy/girl is EVER good enough

And now combine this with the very prudish standpoint of people in the west, who are absolutely unwilling to talke openly about sex amongst adults. And you end up with people that have totally impossible expectations which are never corrected and therefore they destroy their own happiness, running after an idea that never existed outside social media for 99% of all normal people

[virtualwasp]

I don't participate and want to associate with that lifestyle. I only judge people when they want to bring that mess to my door step. It's important who you have around you and if you can't control it, then it's a problem

[Abbycado]

You can be pro or against anything you want. That is your choice.

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to sprinkle a little wisdom on relationship tangles and dilemmas! Your values are personal, and it's totally cool to have your own views on hookup culture or past partners. It’s not about right or wrong but about what aligns with your own beliefs. Everyone's comfort levels vary, and cultural values play a big role. Double standards can definitely spice things up unpredictably, and they can stem from longstanding cultural narratives. Communicate openly about your values to avoid potential relationship red flags and to ensure harmony in any relationship! 😊

[AviatorTom]

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. It's wrong to try to change someone's opinion because you disagree with them.

[dragoblack]

It's not that it's wrong... it's the fact that it fucks up the entire dating society. I live in the USA where it's the normal to hook up... but when you try to date, you are solicited by onlyfans, sexcam sites, prostitution, And people only looking for sex, which makes dating even harder and discourages many from trying to date at all, and offline dating is rough as is with tones of women just wanting to use guys because of the "the guy always pays for the date" romance rule, being thought of as mandatory. Trying to find a genuine connection is hard, hookup culture is honestly how most people find relationships here, because people jump into them if the sex is good as their only reason. Hookup-into-romance 98% of the time, end up abusive once the sex no longer seems enjoyable, and usually ends up with cheating, and all sorts of abuse, just to repeat the cycle with some else.

[CheeseMonster]

If by being against it you mean you don't participate and would advise those you know to also not participate, no there's nothing wrong with that.

If by being against it you mean you want or try to enforce punishment for those who do participate in it, I would say that's wrong, yes.

[HungTexan]

Cultures are different. I think casual sex is good, but it may not be for everyone. Perdue, I’m glad both my wife and I both had several sex partners before we met. It certainly made me realize how much better sex was with her than some other women. She feels the same way about me.

[Anonymous]

It's not wrong to have feelings about. It's wrong to take physical action against it, onto others. Whether or not others feel your reasoning for disliking it is valid, doesn't matter. Every human has a right to feelings, and has a right to speak about their feelings.

Personally, I think hookup culture is detrimentsl to society, as a whole, and to nearly all women and some men, as individuals. But, consenting adults can do whatever tf they want.

[jwhig]

Not wrong at all. Studies show that hookup culture has adverse effects on both genders. Also people with higher body counts are more likely to get a divorce when they do get married. As long as what you believe has a good foundation and is backed by something, then it’s not wrong to believe it at all.

[AManOnTheWeb]

We all get to decide what we want for ourselves. When others start saying what one "should" do, there's a problem.

[Anonymous]

Why do you need to be against something that doesn't have to have anything to do with you? People have the right to live their own lives how they choose. If you don't want to participate, don't.

[slickrick6600]

It’s not wrong it’s an opinion I think it’s a horrible idea, I think it’s going to be much harder to find your soulmate like that.

[HighValue]

Hookups/casual sex is immoral and only a very low quality desperate person would ever accept a partner that participated in it.

[RageBabe]

Absolutely not; the majority of sane people are opposed to it.

[Subtle_Luminescence]

Nope. Not wrong. This isn't a healthy lifestyle.

[BCRanger10]

No, not at all. Why would it be? The fruits of it have been disastrous at best.

[itsannalee]

It’s okay to against anything in the world, just don’t force people.

[NicholasRedone]

Not at all a stable wife is a stable wife

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[NicholasRedone]

Note, not promoting zoological

[Crazzyyworld]

There is no magic in hook ups. It’s like instant release and boring. In old days there was a magic. Not anymore

[OddBeMe]

I'm as liberal as Marx's drunk uncle and I'm not for it. I think it's unhealthy mentally and physically. But ij don't want to push my view on others. Nudge... right wingers.

[ProbablyClueless]

Wrong? No, being against hook up culture is healthy.

[Anonymous]

nope you're just uninvolved and excluding yourself from it
nothing wrong with being morally correct
I never was lol kudos to you

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

People forget STD and overpopulation are real concepts in the human condition

[Oldschool1981]

I don't know. My wife loves Tinder and so long as she doesn't get pregnant, I don't mind

[Staximus]

Hook up culture is sleazy

[In_Trance]

To be clear