Has the hookup culture started destroying relationships?

Question

One may have heard about many situations when a girl or guy hooks up while in a relationship with someone and their partner start fighting by saying that it is cheating. Moreover, do you think that it has changed the meaning of love?

SirRexington · Accepted Answer

As it's become more socially acceptable and widespread it has.

Women nowadays are proud whores where back in the day they were rightfully shamed for it. I've already seen one girl here say thays it's normal (which isn't an argument) and ask if it would really be so bad if it started destroying relationships? How dumb and awful can a person be?

I'm not saying we should be celibate or anything. But I'm saying we should focus morr on thr emotional sides to sex because society is taking us further and further into a direction of material abundance and job loss. Which means lots of time for sex. We will completely devoid ourselves of meaning and solely be privy to carnal and psychological impulses that react against instant gratification. If we want our future society to be held together monogamy, relationships, effort, companionship and emotional support between people are going to need to become popular again.

Also men snd women are more unhappy now than they ever have been even though the "economy is doing well" which is isn't and women are free. Women are choosing to do things that are against their best interest. And men allow them. We encourage them. And then we become unhappy alongside them.

People, not just women, need to be careful, smart and practical with who they sleep with. Your body is like a temple. Only people who will respect and "worship" it's beauty should be allowed in. Dont open it to the public so they can dirty it up. Respect yourself and your body. Giving your body away for a half hour of fun simply because you can is not freedom or respectful. It's a sign that you are a slave to yourself and others and that you allow others to take advantage of you. Don't want men to see you as nothing more than fuck toys? Don't treat yourself like one.

Dargil · Accepted Answer

The hookup culture has several causes. Here's two.
*the impersonal-ness and convenience of social media which have extinguished dating routines. One very attractive girl I know of maybe age 23 may have 2 or three hookup partners off social media every month. Thats 30 or so a year.
*The radical Feminist movement in the West exposes men to existential danger of life ruining accusations of rape and abuse which can come because the sex wasn't good enough, effectively nullifying the desire to date. Hooking up implies casual sexual relations and consequent accusations will be laughed out of court.

Psychologists say that men are wired to lots of sexual partners when young but turn into "TV Dads" in their 40's. But women erode their capacity to commit to men and nurture children with each new partner. By few more than ten, they are irreversibly lost as wives and mothers. This is one clear way where men and women are not "just alike".
Men have always chased pussy. The current scene is entirely the fault of women for abandoning their traditional roles of gatekeepers of sex. It is why I recruited a partner from the Orient.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Definitely it has.

People, regardless of gender only think with their genitals and the availability of porn to children is directly at fault.

Internet is the worst invention of the last 100 years and it definitely has an overwhelming negative impact than a positive one.

The internet simplifies criminality against women in the first place by objectifying and oversexualizing them.

The only thing that could reverse the negative trend would be a disease like GRID in the 80's which led to a decrease of the sexual liberation movement and made people think twice before having sexual relations with just about anyone.

But from a human point of view, this is of course not the ideal solution.

alice55 · Accepted Answer

hookup culture always existed even in the early 1900s but the difference was that when girl got pregnant they either married the man (if he was ok) either they aborted (in a illegal way and they often died because of it I don't remember the number but it was quite high) or they got away (in another city / country ) hide their pregnancy and gave the baby away to adoption or an aunt or something.

hookup culture is not recent it a-has always existed but before it was hided unlike nowadays. What change is that people doesn't really have shame anymore and don't care what other people think of them but the problem isn't the "hookup culture" but the state of mind of modern people.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

By saying it's cheating? It IS cheating. You did say in a relationship, right?
But, no I don't think it changes the meaning of love, don't really love each other, or they might of once, but not any more. It definitely changes the meaning or foundation or the relationship tho in opinion

coachTanthony · Answer

Hook up culture is a "Talking Point"  created by the media.  If you hook up you hook up. It's not a culture or a fad... it's been going on for decades.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m giving my 2 cent advice to young girls, and I’m not intending to offend anyone.

(Can’t post link) but the medical institute for sexual health published a shocking study. If a girl has too many sexual partners, she will never be able to pair bond with any man. This is how the hookup culture is destroying relationships. Men are not affected because we are different. The reason for this comes down to the fact that we are built different in terms of psychology and physiology.

The older generation can tell when a girl just doesn’t have the ability to pair bond with any man. She had that “1000 cock stare”. Why do you think promiscuous girls are always wearing eyeliner? It’s to hide that emptiness in her eyes.

davids88 · Answer

Hook up culture mostly exists in western countries. In Asia there is no such thing, in Asian countries by the time a man or a woman is 30 it is extremely rare to have even over 10 partners. This hook up culture is one of the main reasons for destroying relationships. Apps like Tinder has a huge role to play in it. Marriage rates are also going down thanks to the hook up culture. Men and women don't trust each other any more that they even hire people to test if their partner would cheat like the "to catch a cheater" channel in Youtube. It's kind of sad that they have to go that far to test their partner but lots of people do fail the test.

R_ūshī · Answer

Hookups were always there. They were just kinda differently handled.

My granny and my grandpa hooked up before they got together. My granpa was married to another woman then. Plus when he went in the middle east in the army, he had someone there. My granny never had a problem with that... or at least she says she didn't. She's even friends with my grandpa's first wife and they've never called him a liar or a cheater. Maybe women back then were more family oriented... they were more into mending things rather than walking away.

Now it's more like YOU HAVE TO BE COMMITTED TO THAT ONE PERSON. NO HOOK UPS, NO FLIRTING... NO NOTHING with other women. And I get it. I'm in a way like that too. If I were in my granny's shoes, I'd have dumped that mf.

Times have changed, so have most things.

Again tho... it's just my pov. I'm not generalising. It's what I have observed.

genericname85 · Answer

there are open relationships in which it is mutually accepted that sex isn't exclusive. if you're in an exclusive relationship and hookup with someone else, that's abusing your partners trust, hence cheating and not ok. sure some people do that. it was always like that before, it was never "ok" to do that and it still isn't.

hookup culture greatly enhances the actual meaning of love. because if you "could" just fuck anybody, being loyal to someone is way more special than in a society where that's not possible anyway. plus you got way better chances of learning what you want and finding a partner that matches that.

Anonymous · Answer

People here who are denying the existence of hookup culture or saying it existed to the same degree in the past are delusional. Hookup culture absolutely exists and is far more prevalent today than ever before. We even have apps today for the sole purpose of allowing people to easily find a hookup partner. Of course it exists and of course it is more prevalent today than in the past.

The biggest problem it has created is resetting the expectations about casual sex. It used to be that guys did not expect sex until they were in a committed relationship. But today guys have learned to expect casual sex without commitment, so when they don't get it they just move on to the next girl. So yes, it has definitely damaged relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

There are some people here that claim that people always hooked up. While this is true, it was much less common in the past, because people were way more conservative and religious back then. The rise of hookups and divorces is a recent phenomenon of the 21st century.
Anyone who claims otherwise, needs to go back to school to study history

Alpha09 · Answer

The hook-up culture has always been around. People make stupid decisions then try to blame it on porn or social media. There's nothing wrong with the hookup culture. It's people in monogamous relationships who try to be apart of it that are the problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Want to date casually/sleep around? Do it
Want a relationship? do it
Want to be mutually monogamous? do it up
Want to be in a poly or open relationship? do it up

Just be up front about what you want and communicate clearly/effectively

sweet87 · Answer

Hookup culture is for those who are single, it's always been there and probably always will be, but if someone in a relationship chooses to hookup with someone on a one night stand then that's the individuald fault! There's a lot of wonderful people out there in fantastic relationships who will always be true to their partners, then there's those who will choose to cheat for one reason or another, and then there's swingers who are another story!

BCRanger10 · Answer

It very obviously has. The value and sanctity of sex has been on the decline for decades now, but the hookup culture has made it borderline worthless. Relationships are no longer about building virtuous, intimate, and lasting bonds and rather about filling voids and use.

fuchit · Answer

Hook up, cheating, stepping out are different words for the same thing. So you could call it "the cheating culture" cheating had been around since pussy has been. seems to me everyone is getting their balls in a twist about synonyms. Some people are so fucking stupid they think hooking up and cheating are different things and of course cheating is really bad
Let me tell you if you got someone else's dick, pussy, ass, asshole, tit, tongue, etc... In or on your body whether spit, pussy juice nut, piss, shit or anything else is present or not YOUR FUCKING CHEATING YOU DUMB SHIT

EllieBlackfield · Answer

YES. oh my God! It's so hard to find a guy interested in more than just a hookup these days, it's driving me crazy!

bbgavin · Answer

I know I'm only 15 but I do think that it has affected the meaning of love by a big percent. If you have hooked up multiple times it makes you want sex more and more each time. It makes you crave it. I do think that it is cheating to hook up with someone if you're in a relationship and that it is unusual, if you want to be with other people, other than your s. o. , then you shouldn't be in that relationship before you know how to commit. Do you get what I'm saying though?

cuzodusto · Answer

Love has a different meaning to different people. There can be sex without love and vice versa. If people want to hook up then be safe and go for it. Nothing compares to passionate animalistic sex with someone you aren't obligated to talk to ever again.

Pete671 · Answer

There used to be dating, and going steady, I'm all for free love, but it seems younger people are too often chasing the next dating high, perhaps this makes me a boring old fart, but I just think it's important to appreciate what you have right now,,,
Yep, having re-read I'm def a boring old fart lol,,,

kaylaS91 · Answer

No.
It’s not like people didn’t want to hook up with each other on a nsa basis before hookup culture became a thing. Cheating and casual hookups were always a thing- they’re just more normalized now.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not at all and it has always been there. It is just the internet has made it more accessible.

Djaay · Answer

Back in the day a hook up , because of its secrecy from the female side... she was thought to be in another relationship with someone else instead of an actual hook up (slut move) .
Today , women admit they're sluts and find pride with it.
Mystery solved that's all.
Uts always destroyed relationships... hows was this ever a question

DonCachondo · Answer

No. Modernity has lowered the value of relationships by making independence easier than ever. On the other hand, the economy in some modernized parts of the world is such that lots of young adults can't even move out of their parents' houses! Funny enough, both scenarios are conducive to singlehood, albeit for different reasons XD

BlueDream · Answer

Hookups may have already been around for a long time but now they're in the palm of your hand by simply downloading an app, which takes the fun away, it's just a normal thing nowadays.

dafor2978 · Answer

Absolutely. a lot of people join those dating apps looking for different things such as life time partners, flings. Friends. But wen they end up matching they dont attract. N over time slowly but surely people start to stereotype every guy/girl they meet simply bc of past experiences they had. Wouldn't say its destroying but its definitely making things harder for people to connect with good people.

Taylor_C · Answer

Not really. It´s like candy being readily available in stores. Doesn´t mean you have to stuff yourself full each and every day.

Rosépink773 · Answer

Yes , it did and thats why we’re out here with trust issues lacking affection

DontFvckingAskMe · Answer

Not for the real Ladys and gentlemens out there. They dpnt get involved in that shit.

Phoenix98 · Answer

It's without a doubt done it's fair share of damage yeah.

Chrissylynn93 · Answer

Hook ups have always been around but dating websites have made sex like a meat market and people want to skip the efforts that go into a relationship. So yes it is getting harder to find true love and hookups are a gamble generally over half of the time a hook up is temporary and does not lead to a lifetime partner.

Anonymous · Answer

The culture made it easier to find people that want no-strings sex. If they were happy in a relationship then they wouldn’t stray.. in theory. But I believe it’s a combo of ill fitting relationships, access to hookup apps and people not being monogamous

vind785 · Answer

Yes it has but more than that what has really changed relationships at least in my country -india is the patriarchal culture going towards feminism made both the parties independent and now both girls and boys have their own opinion and because of that strong and rigid opinion they don't come on the same ground more than often

MackToday · Answer

It's destroying the fabric of our society by destroying the family. This dysfunction is largely responsible for our low birth rates. People can't form decent relationships with nothing out there but a bunch of damaged goods.

Pamina · Answer

Why is everything that people dislike now suddenly referred to as a "culture"? How is that a "culture"?

Daniel3035 · Answer

No hookup culture has arisen because of the relationship culture being destroyed mostly because of girls playing mind games with guys and guys resisting initiating a relationship. So no one goes anywhere they go to hookup.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

1. Hooking up while officially in a relationship IS cheating. 2. Hook up culture is destroying society.

4eyes2mouths · Answer

No shitty people destroy relationships. A lot more shitty people these days.

Liz_thorne · Answer

People have always cheated, that isn't new behavior

Beta_Wolf · Answer

People just get to fast to jealous, no wonder relationships don't last, that has nothing to do with hookups

BigJake · Answer

I don't think so. I think people have hooked up (i. e. cheated) for as long as there have been people. Sometimes it's hard to ignore when a sexy person starts showing interest in us.

Emily_jean · Answer

I'm not gonna read the thing under the question but yeah, friends with benefits for example. it's the worst when you start having feelings for them

AynonOMouse · Answer

Liberal morals is what ruined relationships. That and the court system making it advantageous for women to mistreat men.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

No. They were already wrecked by failed marriages over the past 60 years. With that said, the internet can act as a double edged sword. Side chicks have existed far beyond our timelines..

OddBeMe · Answer

Actually relationships have never been better. Divorce is down because marriage is down, but thanks to lgbt advocacy and alike, relationships are lasting longer.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

How exactly is hooking up not cheating? Who'd be dumb enough to think so?

Anonymous · Answer

Hookup culture does not exist. And millenials were way more promiscuous than us. The new generation just sit at home and play games, are on social media etc.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

People hooked up in our parents time just didn’t have the social media bs and get caught easily. Nothing has changed

John2676 · Answer

Hooking up while in a relationship is cheating. If exclusivity is understood in the relationship, then side sex destroys trust. Without trust, you have no relationship

lofii · Answer

Science that let's you stop unplanned pregnancies has. Now you can fuck anytime you want without consequences

red_knight · Answer

Bigtime.. That's we hat happens when you go for easy shit... The real one gets too hard..

Shamalien · Answer

started? It's basically fucking good game out here no?

soleil2666 · Answer

I reckon it has destroyed all the ones it could and now it's passe

Snickermarstwix · Answer

What was the meaning of love and what could it have changed?

Anonymous · Answer

hookup culture has started helping relationships <3

Lprice121498 · Answer

No. I dont think so. If anything it actually makes it easier to tell if you want to spend time on that person or not.

Anonymous · Answer

Women have so much options, us regular guys will never get action. Now women don't want anything from average guys.

Anonymous · Answer

It has been running relationships and people's morals for years, it didn't "start" ruining them just now.

Anonymous · Answer

perhaps more so to the individual, as opposed to relationships.

hijgh32 · Answer

it depends on the people in the relationship and if they decide to have a hook up

Anonymous · Answer

No. Some relationships start from hook ups  If anything it’s getting back to reality.

winterfox10 · Answer

Oh it's done more than a start

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