I think it is. As I always say the family is the foundation of any strong society. Now we've lost those old family values because we're taught that they're oppressive people have become more self-centred. They care more about pleasure-seeking than anything else. Many young people today don't want kids because they want to live for themselves. They never grow up into anything but adult children, and this is what you get. Someone said that it happens less than people think, but in my experience it happens more than people think. I don't envy anybody who is single and still dating people today because most people have such stupid ideas on relationships and many are damaged. Almost everything about our culture today is rotten.
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Love will always exist, relationships will always exist. Hook up culture has definitely ruined these things for those who participate in it but even they will eventually desire relationships and love as hooking up is not meaningful or fulfilling (base upon statistical data). The problem is it ruins a lot of people so by the time they realize this their is ample damage done, most stop being able to function in a normal relationship because they have never really been in one. Its a terrible thing but their will always be a desire for meaningful relationships and love.
Don't believe the hype. Younger people are actually engaging in less sex then previous generations. www.thestar.com/.../...ls-are-having-less-sex.html
People have been engaging in casual sex since we first figured out what sex was. History is full of torrid love affairs, and crazy sex stories. Look up the Marque De Sade he's the reason we have the word sadism. Relationships will be fine.
Good question. It most definitely is! People don't treat each other with respect anymore, it has gone way too far.
I find current western culture toxic and prefer to watch older movies and music because of that. Men used to have to be charming to even get a kiss or hold holds, now it's rip off your clothes and give the goods now or you're a prude. No thanks.
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It is more a reflection of the instability in society and people's lives than a cause of it, IMHO.
To be honest i think love will always exist i do not blame it on the hook up culture that it gets destroyed allthought i am not a fan of it my self.
Personally i blame it on the social media in general and the online dating market but the main problem is society who pushes people towards digital communication in the first place. I mean the smell and with smell i mean the smell we capture unawarely and the touch of another person aswell as the energy is missing to even start a connecting/bonding on a intiem level it also misses nervosity and excitement it is easy to hide behind a mask on a online chat and geting the wrong vibes.
as much as we may hate it were human and were animals just like cats and dogs not saying we should behave like them since not every animal behaves the same (unlike people who act like donky's or other animals😂). Just look at it there is no denying that people ussually grow bored fast when it comes to online stuff and in my opinion a few reasons are the factors i list above.I think it depends on the person and how many times you hooked up. If you have Sex with many many people, how can you value sex with a special one more? Sex should be special, but it loses its value, when you sleep with everyone. You will overwrite your thinking of what sex is and what you do. Its very hypothetic. I know, that Sex raises the trust between both partners, but what happens when you have many many sexual partners? Could it be, that it gets harder for you to bind/relate with someone? I think it depends on the person. Sex shouldt be the first step of a relationsship. You can't get to know a person by having Sex with him/her. Puh.. But how do i know what others think. I am not Part of the hook up culture. I had one girlfriend in my life. And i know that i can love again. The sad thing is.. that when you are attractive, women think that i am part of this hook up culture and ignore me, because "i am just a replacable Sex object". Oh man.. I hate this culture. Maybe i just give up sooner or later. Its so hard to talk to many women, cos they think its a flirt.
It is ruining relationships.
That is why people are confused and actually ask each other to be BF/GF these days. It should be obvious, because normally if people keep spending time together and share intimacy they are in a relationship.
But these days people are VERY stupid, have bad morals, and they just go around screwing lots of people, then they somehow expect all of those sluts and players to magically change and become good, loyal, faithful mates. lol
Anyone that does that stuff is an immoral idiot. I see them as scum and will never respect those kinds of people.
I wish we could divide the country in half and put those people separate from the normal people.Yes I do.
The average looking woman is flattered way too much by internet strangers which leads to overestimating her self-worth.
80% of online men don't ever get a match on Tinder. 20% get too many matches. Ergo that 20% have sex all the time and never need to settle down.
The 20% of course have enough options that they ghost on most women. Then those women (somewhat understandably) start assuming all men are ghosting sexual pigs...
... and the cycle continuesNope.
If there is a hookup culture today, then that means that there has always been a hookup culture. I have some rough news for you, kids: when your parents were our age, they were having sex with other people. Probably lots of other people--your mom might have gotten laid more often than you will in your entire life. Have you ever heard of the sexual "free-love" movement of the sixties and seventies? This goes for your grandparents as well, and their parents--the roaring twenties were named that for a reason. Basically, people have always been having wild sex in their youth before settling into relationships.
The real problem we have to face is why this generation is the one that gets demonized as having a hookup culture. The answer is probably because we are open about it.Well yeah but I think it goes deeper than that.. I think porn is makin people look at sex as this thing fun excercise that feels good, and not the intimate settin it's suppose to be.. That contributes to people just wantin to hook up wit no strings attached just to experience a little of what they see in porn, or just to fulfilled the sensation porn cannot.. And that leads them to view relationships definitely, or not wannabe in one..
I would compare it with Fast food (hook up culture) wrt healthy food (old school love and relationship). The former may give you instant gratification but it's time and time proved to be unhealthy and toxic. While healthy food may be less appealing but it the long run its very good.
Y E S 100%. I do think love exists but I think it’s rare that younger people find it because why buy the cow when you can milk it for free. Everyone hooks up nowadays because they can, but our parents and the generations before them were very keen on dating and marriage. It highkey sucks. Ya girl just wants to be loved!!!
Great question and one I've thought of too. I go out a fair bit and see a lot of hook ups happen.
It's a matter of choice really, there's nothing wrong with a hook up. But we aren't like the past with guys trying hard to get the Governors daughter's attention lol.
Traditional love is there but the hook up world has evolved a lot from when it was basically taboo.
I think because sex/sexting/hooking up is so open now it feels hard to find people wanting the real thing.
Especially in the age range of 20-30 yr olds.
Just my two cents 😎 Cheers.I don't think it is destroying or ruining the concept of relationships. By getting out there and seeing what is available and gaining experience in the wants and need of the opposite sex we all learn more about each other so when it comes time to look for something more stable we will make less mistakes. We will also be less prone to making impulsive decisions into getting into a relationship from the pressures of physical attraction and think more deeply about the chemistry.
and for the second part of your question, love is a very idealistic dream i am not even sure if it exist. a quote i like very much goes like this “To love is nothing... To be loved is something... To love and be loved in return is everything.” it's very unlikely you find mutual love and even if you do people naturally change and don't stay the same so whatever love there is will evaporate away. But in the meantime we all can love each other and everyone in the world physically lolDo I think it's troublesome on a family values standpoint? Of course. However, promiscuity has been around for thousands of years. Ancient Rome was known for having wild orgies where men and women would pleasure eachother, there was your traditional procreational relationship that spawned offspring, but other than that it was quite open, men with men, women with women, there was no judgement, and that was one of the strongest empire's on the planet at one point. Bastard children ran rampant.
Nothing that is happening today in respect to relationship and family values that hasn't happened at the very least, once in the past. The only major difference is what diseases are out there, people have to be careful.
In terms of sustainability of the human population, despite the hookup culture and whole families, people are still having children frequently. The human population will continue to grow.Based off of the 2 relationships I've had so far, it sure feels like hook up culture is overtaking relationships :/ First guy left after finding a different girl, second guy couldn't decide between me or his ex so I choose for him. Seems like guys nowadays are always looking for a girl better than the one they have. But hey, that's my opinion. I'm sure other people have had much better luck in relationships than me.
Nope. Hookups have been around of centuries. We're now just more honest about it and accepting it more. In the end most people want to settle down and start a family and if you don't then that's completely fine. Exploring your options is completely normal before you get into a committed relationship, it assures you that you're not missing out on something
We were destined to get to this point ever since people thought that it was acceptable to have sex outside of marriage.
Sex used to mean that you had something truly valuble with that person, but now it just means that you and somebody else happened to be horny on the same night.
People are going to start doing sexual things before even shaking hands at some point with the route we're on.It is but we will continue cuz we are so stupid and coward to change and standup and say it is wrong when everyone says it is ok.
Guys may stand up but women will never standup that and tell their friend... you are fucking your life.
But anyway the society has more slut n jerks without brains than slut with brains.Not at all...
It's just a reaction to the puritanic former culture.
Nobody can tell whether young people share love or not. It's not likely to be supposed.
Things are not that simple, happily.
And sexual freedom has nothing to do with love survival. There is no incompatibility, nor need.
Happily, i 'd Say again ^^No. :D just because it's a popular thing these days, it's still a choice. There are plenty of people who prefer to be in a loving relationship rather than keep hooking up, so they either get to know the person before 'hooking up', or they simply continue dating the person after they 'hooked up'. it depends on who you are and how you approach your dating life
I think it is an incontrovertible fact, regardless of my opinion. Our divorce rate is 50% and our illegitimacy rate is 40%. How could we possibly deny the effects of transient relationships on our culture?
~JSmithno it's not. hooking up and dumping isn't a problem. but yeah i think the ghosting part is. cause people are not responsible for their shit anymore. they shouldn't be having sex, if they can't tell someone to the face that they don't wanna see them again.
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