Are men shamelessly persistent with everyone, or only the ones they like, or is it when they’re desperate?

[Anonymous]

I have found that every man I have been with - where the separation between sexual/romantic was murky - have always fallen off the radar for a period of time by their own choice, only to return with extra persistence (I. e. being blocked on socials and left on read several times, leaving a string of calls/messages/voicemails in the middle of the night, continuing to text and ask to come over even when I have set my boundaries b/c I started catching feelings and communicated that to him).

I have never understood why this phenomenon always happens specifically with me. It seems that some, but not all, of my other friends have experienced some version of this but to a lesser degree.

My question is why? Is it me and the kind of situations I place myself into, the kind of men I go for, or is it because society has taught men to never take no for an answer especially when they are desperate?

[SweetPi]

It's not you cause every man is basically the same! Now I can go on a dating site get the exact same responses from 30 guys!

It's how they are taught or trained to be? Trash! Ops I'm gone chasing another girl but I'm back and needy! Why did you not respond while at work for 8 hours?

They just get whiny! Such a turn off! It's not you Hun just the guys being all like.

Especially online with no social skills! They let the thirst control them cause nothing bad happens! Not like when they irl stalk us.

We need a dating app rather for men! Like review men online help other girls avoid the trash guys who are so toxic and needy! Like this guy was 1 star don't date he will grab your leg or...

[Anonymous]

Most are quitters, and then they whine how they are not having any success.

[Jersey2]

In movies they say some people have the “it” factor. Some girls have something special, even beyond being pretty. They have a certain magnetism. It isn’t common. Who knows what it is. It could even be the phenomenons between you and some guys. Sometimes that attraction may mean that you would have great kids. From a supernatural perspective it could mean that you knew them in a past life. Enjoy it while it lasts though.

[lightbulb27]

It's the kind of guys you are drawing I think. It may be there are more like that in your area or domain.

[NathanOlipop]

It's because they watched movies growing up as a child that showed them men who persist get the girl. It's indoctrinated by popular culture. In movies were a man persist in any way and gets the woman, context can sometimes be ignored by men and women and it seems like persistent men get the women they want, when in reality persistent men look straight up like creeps even though they're doing what they've been taught. This isn't necessarily their fault. This is honestly the fault of the entertainment industry for appealing to popular culture which is what made them money and power to begin with. An emergent property of our society is that the lack of warning labels will cause even the most intelligent people to have accidents.

[BruceJender]

Probably a mix of all that.

We tend to attract the mirror image of who we are at that present moment.

You might desire for something, but that thing you desire won't come to you so long as you aren't desirable yourself.

If you're someone who is always seeking validation, you'll attract, almost by default, someone who seeks that very same thing.

If you're confident, you'll attract someone who is confident too.

It's as simple as that, in my experience.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"where the separation between sexual/romantic was murky"

What is the pattern here, of the breakup and even the relation itself, I'd ask, if identifiable?

[spartan55]

Because you gave them free sex. Why are you surprised they are back for more? It has nothing to do with being desperate.

[Slim57]

I would say a majority are, but I can't really relate to them because I've never been that way, a lot of men just have no morals, patience, or backbone, and a lot of women nowadays don't either, I would just maybe try a different setting if the ones you're using right now aren't working

[SlightlyMental]

Dating apps are the same personality types... they are one dimensional and have no clue how one could get with another without them.

Let it sink in.

[PeachyPie93]

They are only like that when they are desperate they will hit up and love bomb ANY girl.

[DrPepper12]

When they're high key impervious to logic, reality and evidence.

[Anonymous]

Well first you can start with men are not monoliths. If you can't even wrap your head around that. You won't be able to wrap your head around anything else.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe you attract desperate guys. Or maybe you’re just really good at sex.

[ProbablyClueless]

Men who are horndogs are horndogs with everyone.

[Christian_Cartier]

So you're sleeping with men, then blocking them when you catch feelings?

You should research into avoidant attachment theory.

[Christian_Cartier]

I have no idea if this is relevant for your situation or others you know, but I'm going to leave it here anyway: (https://www. youtube. com/watch? v=ax6ACMQYgeE&list=PLXZS21cOTrwoB8w4PLFIAwXxW1AUCHqjo)

[Anonymous]

I have been desperate with one girl, because I liked her way to much.

[LiamJHayden]

Persistant? If she is not interested I move on immediately.

[RedInnocent69]

Shamelessly persistent with everyone we like 😂