Ever notice and wonder why men who don't desire relationships are often the nicest men, which causes you to still lust after them?

[Bethany22]

It's so annoying, as you can see that they would make such good boyfriends/husbands, in that they're always looking out for people's needs and have such a nurturing streak. They're also extremely neat and tidy in their house 🏠. Like, literally all the things that women complain about their husbands, these guys portray themselves as though they wouldn't trigger women in those same ways, so I just want to shake these men and tell them that they have nothing to fear about relationships.

[Paul_in_Indy]

I think this is, more or less, me. The fact is that women are comfortable with me, willing to flirt with me, not afraid to come home with me, and usually let me take them to bed. I find that if I have my life together, I’m kind and understanding, and I treat women well, I have many options for companionship, for the excitement of new connections, and for physical intimacy.

I don’t feel that I need to grab hold of the girl who is willing to let me get close and never let her go. It doesn’t feel like I have to settle down in a relationship. That FOMO element that drives someone to lock her down before I lose her just isn’t there.

So, it’s easy to remember the negative elements of long term relationships—the fear of loss and pain and disappointment—and stick with the constant excitement and possibility and fearless adventure of an always-new connection.

I don’t know if that makes sense. I think that lots of nice, put-together guys pursue casual relationships NOT to use women, but to enjoy that spark and excitement with as many interesting people as possible…because it seems like we can.

and, honestly, how many people latch onto a relationship because they are afraid to be without intimacy? I find that if I am (I don’t think about it this way, but going with your description) the perfect guy for a relationship that I don’t lack for physical intimacy.

[Paul_in_Indy]

I DO know that I am missing out on all the wonderful things in a relationship. I also know that I am missing out on some of the best women because they won’t allow themselves to be with a guy who doesn’t commit. (I try to “friendzone” women who would be heartbroken if I didn’t want to think about marriage…and I feel bad if I end up sleeping with them). Ironically, I think that empathy still makes me attractive to some of the girls I don’t want to hurt.

One of these days, I will want to settle down. After countless weddings flirting with the bridesmaids (with great success, by the way), I do want to attend a wedding and sleep with the bride. …and I want that to be for real and forever.

And maybe that’s one of the reasons (crazy as it sounds) that I avoid serious relationships.

[Anonymous]

Yeah it's funny though you don't realize all the women these men have seen in there life. You might take this as a slight, and it's not. But if you do there's nothing I can do about it. By the time you get to this age you're just tired of women's games. I meet most women today that 20 years ago wouldn't even have talked to me. And they want to date me. And all I can think is, "why"? I mean i can't undo the damage of 20yrs. Of other guys. I don't need you comparing me to 20 years. Of other guys. I'm happy now. What does she bring to my life that I don't already have? What does she bring that it's worth complicating my life for. Now I KNOW I've already pissed off half the women reading this. But that's my point. It's not just about you. You have to give to get in life and there reaches a point where a guy has lived without female companionship it's just not necessary to him anymore.

[Holsen]

Yep I’m like that and not like that at the same time so I can relate to that!Well it’s not like all fear relationships, personally I just take it slow as I don’t just want a successful relationship with a woman but instead I want a successful bond with a woman and that would most certainly result in a successful relationship but even then there’s a difference in them, plus I want to find the one for me and I just think that if I would be more open then I would probably be in a relationship or would have been in multiple relationships in wich there’s always a possibility that you will stumble upon the someone really important and if you’re in a normal relationship you don’t even have a reason to stop that just because you are feeling something stronger for someone as it wouldn’t be fair so to prevent that from happening I tend to be more secluded or picky about relationships or a relationship!!

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well I can't speak for everyone, but I'm not afraid of them, I just haven't found many lately that I considered high enough caliber to really entertain that possibility. Now personally, I actually really like relationships when they're 2 people who actively seek to bring something to the table. If you don't want to bring anything to the table though, I'm not going to entertain it, and if I'm not sure how MUCH you bring to the table, I'm only so willing to explore that.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Men who are nurturers, and neat and tidy, maybe that way due to their upbringing, and perhaps because of previous failed relationships in which their character flaws made the relationship impossible. They are trying to change what they can, or have some degree of control over their happiness, and cleanliness and nurturing happen to be where they are focusing their energy.

[Nifrayu]

Usually these men have already been hurt in relationships that they are just happier alone. Or they have been rejected too many times that they get discouraged from approaching women. Or they are like me and they were never comfortable being the one to approach in the first place and are waiting for women to make the first move.

[Billlewis]

This^^^^

[FunkyMonkee]

No, I haven't! I'm one of the nicest guys you'd ever wanna meet but I desire a relationship and can't scare one up lest I walk around with a fist full of thousand dollar bills in my hands at all times but, who wants a relationship like that? Certainly not me!!

[AviatorTom]

If a guy doesn't want a relationship, he is probably looking for girls who lust after him, so you would be playing right into his hands.

[kylee2437]

It’s because you want something you can’t have. Once those guys feel out of their element, they no longer show those sexy sides that you were attracted to.

[Anonymous]

As one of those men, I've had relationships in the past entirely submissively

I'm an asexual workaholic with a fear of MeToo as a whole thing to ice the cake by the nature of my business I am jaded about marriage and as a final cherry on top my frankly fucked genetics mean as a responsible person I shouldn't even fathom having kids

[devilish-cutie]

thats fake front, something is definitely wrong w them, i would never understand someone who doesn't desire relationship, that is basic human need

[DarkWinterNights]

The real question is, do these types of men just avoid relationships? Or do women turn men like this into the husbands they dislike and complain about?

[Redstang88]

Nah, guys only get that way because we’ve been burned and have damn good reason to be hesitant with relationships

[MysticDevice]

Unfortunately most of those guys have been played and catfished so many times that they've finally given up.

[DiegoO]

The day I ended my previous romantic relationship, I gain back my sanity.

I am well by myself.

[The-Stud]

Try approaching them first, they are probably not scared of relationships like you think

[Djaay]

Ever noticed all the stupid idiots women end up going with?

[Billlewis]

I've actually found it to be the opposite.

[Jennz6]

Bill, you don’t desire a relationship?

[Billlewis]

@Jennz6 Oh, I very much hope to have an opportunity to serve a woman and her male lovers.

[Jennz6]

@Billlewis okay, that’s the Bill I know 💕

[Billlewis]

@Jennz6 💕 Blushes, wags tail...

[Jennz6]

Stop it Bill

[loveslongnails]

Can't say I've noticed that.

[slatyb]

They are gay.

[HouseMoat]

lol, why thank you

[mohsinniazi]

What's about me xx

[Andres77]

And scarred.

[Anonymous]

This is me 😂