What does it mean when a man keeps rejecting your hugs?

[Anonymous]

[FearlessFlame]

Well, there's lots of potential reasons why.

-Some guys just don't like being touched. Even with people they're close with, they might prefer minimal physical contact. Make sure to respect this!

-If the guy is in a relationship, he's probably just really uncomfortable with the idea of sharing that kind of contact with a girl, with the usual exceptions of family and women much older, obviously. Or, he's trying to respect his girlfriend who may not be okay with stuff like that from other girls. Some might say that she's insecure and possessive, but I think that's rather cruel. A lot of people might feel that way, some are just better at hiding it or don't get AS bothered by it though there are some lingering weird feelings there about it. Not to mention, most insecure people are that way for a reason. Don't take it personally and please don't feed her insecurities. If she's going to heal from whatever made her insecure, she can't exactly start any kind of progress if people are feeding into it. This goes for both guys and girls who are insecure, mind you.

-He doesn't know you well enough to allow that. This could also fall under the first reason, but some people are very affectionate with people they are comfortable with, yet come across as distant from someone they aren't comfortable with yet. Even if you two have known each other for some time, this could still happen. I would observe how he is with hugs around people you know he is comfortable with.

-He is just having a bad day. Was he acting differently than usual? Maybe more quiet and withdrawn? More irritable? Sad for some reason? While a lot of people welcome physical affection when they're feeling down/upset, there's plenty that don't at all and refer to have space, or just vent to you without the affection.

Overall, just look at his behavior and life. If he's acting differently, has a girlfriend, has issues going on etc. I wouldn't worry about it too much. I would ask if something was wrong if say, he was previously fine with hugs from you, has nothing going on in his life that's too bad, and is still acting completely like himself around his friends while being noticeably more cold around you

[b_lova]

That he has personal reasons to keep a social distance from you. And just to be clear that may have nothing to do with you. For example some guys are taught to not hug women as children because their parents have oversexualized breasts.

If he isn't showing other signs that he doesn't like you then I wouldn't be too concerned.

[sage2021]

Don't make a fool of yourself. It's embarrassing so stop it.

[Faith18letsgo]

It means you shouldn’t keep trying to hug him.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Print This Coupon & Give It To Him If You Want.

A hug is a hug & everyone needs a hug from time to time but if those hugs keep happening to frequently it could make some people a little uncomfortable.

As for me I’ll never turn a hug down but some people will. As for the man that keeps rejecting your hugs anything is possible. It’s possible he is in a relationship or married. It’s possible he’s not into you. It’s possible he doesn’t want to lead you on. It’s possible he doesn’t like girls. It’s possible you smell or your perfume stinks. It’s possible your hugs suck or you aren’t a good hugger.

If you want to give him a hug you can always ask & see where that leads or doesn’t.

[coachTanthony]

Making sure you don’t get the wrong idea

[RingOfFire]

Have to agree that's probably the most common reason. I've done that. Was not interested in her and didn't want her to get the wrong idea.

[Mr_twoface]

Some people are less comfortable with physical affection, especially in certain contexts. Maybe it has to do with his cultural background or personal beliefs and is reserved about physical contact.

Personally though I believe he could be naturally shy or uncomfortable with physical closeness. I knew a guy who didn't like hugs because his lack of confidence caused his lollipop to raise during physical closeness and hence he avoided it.

[Finchie40]

Is it a friend or a partner? If it’s a partner that’s a red flag , if they never rejected your hugs before , but If it’s something they always pretty much rejected than it means they just don’t like being touched , some people can’t handle touch like others’ can

[mstbooblover]

Some people are just not confortable with being hugged or touched in general, set aside social obstacles. Sometimes a little vanity, kind of "I'm not a child anymore"... Otherwise there may be a lot different reasons some other people here mention.

[SotiCoto]

Possibly that he is concentrating on something and you've chosen a really bad time to be distracting.

Possibly that you're touching him in an uncomfortable place without warning.

Possibly that he is annoyed at you for something you did and is trying his best to communicate it in womanese (i. e. by not communicating). Men aren't good at this generally, but will try as a means of finding a middle ground... or sometimes just to be petty.

[Pinay_ako]

It means he doesn’t want you to touch him or not comfortable with physical contact from you or anyone. Stop pushing it if he clearly said no the first time. No is no.

[Count_de_Monte_Volo]

A few things come to mind:


Doesn’t want to lead you on. Not attracted to you.


Or he sees you are too friendly to guys including himself (and/or girls in a romantic/sexual way) and wants you all to himself, in which case he doesn’t want to get mixed up with you romantically and would rather find a more exclusive partner.


3: He’s a germophobe. I’ve heard some guys are and it’s kinda unmanly in my opinion.

[Dongie]

He's not in that rare (for men) non-loveing feel and it creeps out. Might even say it scares us. 👰 But not commitment, nah, it's just some weird feeling that feels bad. I know y'all are girls, there for perfect but, you have to have that similar gut wrenching grip that makes you say, " yuck".💘 At least once a month.🩸

[hahahmm]

Smart man. He knows that a woman can accuse him of sexual harassment & if he touched her even innocently it can be used against him later since her perception/impression matters more than his intentions.

[MrOracle]

It means LEAVE HIM ALONE.

If I came up to you and kept trying to hug you, and you kept rejecting me, and I still kept trying to hug you, what meaning should I take from that?

It's really not difficult to figure these things out.

[OlderAndWiser]

He is either not attracted to you at all, or he is rejecting you as a form of punishment.

[rosemilk]

after the first rejected hug, why keep trying?

he is likely not interested, if this is a guy you're pursuing romantically

if this is a friend, he probably doesn't like being touched/too close to people

[Seinna]

If it keeps happening then its one of those:

He doesn't like you

He doesn't like hugs

[Lynx122]

That's not a good sign at all. At least if it was me it would mean I feel uncomfortable with you as a person and I'm not interested in being around you let alone be close with you.

[ManOnFire]

That is not enough info to go on. Is he someone you're in a relationship with? Or dating? What is the situation?

[itsclearlynicholas]

Don't you just hate guys who aren't huggers that you'd like to hug/want a hug from that person. Lol. It means they're not touchy-feely or even ticklish or a sensitive soul either, they're just... cold 🥶🥵

[RebelinSteel]

He does not want a hug

he's not into you

ask him why

[tzdc21]

It could be that he doesn't like to be touched. Or maybe he had a bad experience in the past and is not open to it anytime soon. Or maybe he just doesn't like you all that much.

[molonski2]

It just shows he is not interested romantically , either he is not interested , as it appears he is not gay.

[strateguy632]

that he is busy. so scedule a time. do not interrupt his gaming for a hug. that will anger him.

[Rafrenc]

If your cute and neat , Rejecting your hugs is a problem but if is the opposite you must work on yourself and admit your wrongs to see what’s really happening and the real reason will pop up

[82lynx]

There are women who actually care enough to offer them? 😳

[blueonblack22]

The fact you are even asking this question says a lot.

[NetherlandsNar]

Lol speaks the right one 😂

[RasmusAiken]

Maybe you give him a constant boner and he's embarrassed.

[mistershy94]

maybe he just doesn't like it, I'm autistic and don't really enjoy getting hugged, even by my wife. Sure, sometimes i want a hug or to get hugged but overall it's not something i enjoy doing

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

Wait, wait, wait. Why do you keep trying to hug him?

[CrabCakes11]

He probably doesn’t want to hug or kiss you

[Avicenna]

Probably not comfortable with physical contact

[Alwayreckles93]

Chances are he might be a mommas boyfriend.

[supercutebutt]

The gentleman in question probably prefers bear hugs to human hugs. It's a thing.

[Nikki1989]

Maybe he is not the affectionate type.

[Meropatrick]

He doesn't want you in his life. If he is your boyfriend leave him. maybe also he is dating someone else and afraid of her seeing u hug him

[LuminousMind]

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[LuminousMind]

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[The_Sexpert]

He is not interested in you and prefers that you leave him alone

[Razp_Sorbet]

That you should stop trying to hug him and respect his boundaries... Wtf

[spartan55]

It means he doesn't want to hug you. Leave him alone.

[saroj786]

Whether the guy is Sheldon. Or you are not appealing enough for the guy.
If its the appealing side, couple of sex would do the job

[Massageman]

Maybe Physical Touch isn't his body language (ref Gary Chapman for the other 4)

[ryanbas]

depends who is the man, how much affection you have had so far, and what's going on in his life at the monent.

[Anonymous]

Probably because he's afraid of getting in trouble. ;)

[ProbablyClueless]

He's probably just not the huggy kind of guy. You might benefit from asking him his love language. If he's receptive to your affection in other ways, knowing what those ways are will improve your relationship considerably.

[Asker]

Actually he is he used to hug me a lot.

[NYCQuestions1976]

He either values his personal space, or he doesn't like you.

[Justneedtokno]

they may not want to be touched or they don’t want to be touched by you

[Justneedtokno]

Only going based off the title

[litty736]

That means he's not interested. He would hug you back if he loves you, introvert or not.

[Asker]

Um he used to hug me all the time.

[Elsie_Lachlan12]

When a guy keeps rejecting your hug or rejecting you, it’s means there’s something not going right, when you notice this ask him, talk about it and if he continues hold back and do other things

[Likes2drive]

That he doesn’t like affection or doesn’t like you that way

[Blueeyes81]

It most likely means he speaks a different love language. Some people aren't huggers.

[grega239]

Well stop trying to hug him then. He doesn't want you touching him.

[Awesomesauce2005]

He is not familiar with being physical so he avoids it. He is probably just shy.

[FuqUFggt]

It means he doesn't like you, he has boundaries, and you are disrespectful

[Chazmatazz269]

It means he has boundaries and you can’t take a hint. You’d already be in jail if you were a man. Knock it off. He doesn’t owe you anything.

[Asker]

Oh shut up! He used to hug me all the time.

[Chazmatazz269]

Doesn’t matter. If he doesn’t want to hug you now, you back off. Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason or no reason at all.

[Anonymous]

He is rejecting you all the way.

[DreamLife7]

Bruh are you really this dense? He doesn't like you stop bothering him

[Anonymous]

Things like hugging a woman can be very hazardous for a man in the post MeToo era.

[JamesRandiDebates]

It means he doesn't want to hug you. I figured that would be obvious.

[Anonymous]

Wild guess - he either doesn't like being hugged, or he doesn't like being hugged by YOU!

[Abdullah_Adhi]

He's probably jealous of your femininity or has an inferiority complex

[PizzaDaddyo]

It means yo breff stank

[Anonymous]

[jshm2]

You need to change your perfume