It's so annoying like find something to do with yourselves
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So clarification I'm not saying y'all are gay but y'all don't have to approach a woman everytime you see her let us grocery shop, walk our dogs, read in thr library, work out, dine alone in peace. Why do y'all keep hounding women like omg go play basketball 🤣
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Desi addressed my point "A majority of guys do play a numbers game for ego boost and bragging rights. Thats why they see fcking a bunch of girls as a good thing. I see them as a hoe. Girls dont really play a numbers game but they toy with emotions to brag about “omg so and so liked me but i turned his ass down.”
Why are men so desperate, needy, and in constant need of validation 🤔💭? And constant hounding women for attention?
Why are women so picky and think they're going to marry someone rich? Why do women usually go with scumbags, then come to the good guys and expect them to raise someone else's kid? Why do women never give a crap about a guy who actually cares about them? Why do women like being abused? Women are hardwired for emotion and men are hardwired for logic. You bitch and bitch about finding a guy who respects you is loving kind and funny and good with kids. When one of those guys talk to you you either kick him in the balls, ignore him or friendzone him or humiliate him. So you wonder why guys try it's because that's all we can do is try. Women are usually the pursued not the pursuer. We have to impress you not the other way around. It's time for women to start impressing men. Not all guys like sluts, not all of us will bail on you when you're pregnant. Some guys really want love and make your life special, but you know what you don't deserve it anymore. Have fun getting beat and having kids by different guys and live on welfare. Piss off!
Maybe some but still we have to impress you. women leave babies after their born , women are abusive, rapists, child molesters, cold blooded druggies and drunks too. The problem is women see themselves as innocent and sinless and blame men for all their problems. Men are always evil and rapists. Don't hear much about welfare fathers do we?
You forget to mention 99% of all provocative pics and selfies are desperate females. And this girl has the nerve to mention the opposite. Men and women can both be desperate, but express differently due to nurture.
Because some men crave attention and can’t control their hormones. Not all men, but some men. And those men come off as egotistical and they’re the ones I tend to avoid.
My friends would always tell me, don’t chase. It makes you seem needy when there’s plenty of other people out there. If the person you’re drawn too has a mutual interest in you, you shouldn’t have to beg for them to notice. They would know on their own.
Ouuu the update , totally agree. Some guys feel like they have to approach every girl they find attractive because they’re desperate. Desperate for a girlfriend , desperate for validation , desperate for sex. Not all men of course but a large majority crave validation. And it comes off as creepy. Once I was walking to my car and some guy in a truck rolls his window down and tried to holla at me….
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Yassssssss🙌🏾🙌🏾 exactly! It is just too much. It's like dude is y'all ok? a lot of them talk about women so insecure this and that but it's really them. Look at what they do.
Usually the ones rolling their windows down is on the passenger side instead of the drivers side 😂 i can't complain cause i hate driving but its just funny to see
@pink2000 gurl the damn audacity. I dont know where they get it. Even dudes with no car, no job, no money ,12 kids , and baby momma in the car will still approach you. Like where do they get the guts to do this 🤣. They literally have no fear
It's just a number game. The more women you approach more your chances increase. Because men have to make the first move we have to constantly make sure we're active. Think of it like practice. You dont want to go 3-4 months w/out hollering at a chick and then run into a bad one would u?
1. I get one heart warming compliment a year as an average looking Eastern looking Asian. (Growing up and being bullied about my appearance contributed A LOT.) 2. When someone actually wanted to date me, officially and with excitement, it really helped me calm down about how I thought I was. Like, for the longest time I wanted to experience what everyone (who was getting into relationships) was experiencing.
Yeah it seems needy but you sometimes have to shift perspective and realise we don't get the compliments a lot of women get. No, I don't mean it's good to be harrased but how many woman on the streets are willing to straight up compliment a guy, subtly? Hardly tbh... Reciprocity isn't equal and if we speak, we're put into the needy category (regardless of if it's actually an actual problem or not)
No, I'm not speaking for those extra ego booster "players" or "nice guys". Just my take from what I've witnessed and experienced over the years.
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❤️❤️ love this comment. And I can understand your perspective. Your approach is not the issue. The issue is the guys who go around collected multiple women's numbers in a day like it's a game or hobby. It's comes off as creepy, sadistic, narcissistic and seeking and needing validation as if he cannot be complete unless he's playing games.
What's wrong with multiple numbers? It optimizes the chance to find a good woman that has something to offer. When you go shopping for clothes to you look at 1 shirt and say that's it? Same difference. It probably doesn't mean he will sleep with them especially when females have a reaction like you have. I would collect more numbers also.
I see what you mean. I feel as though some people are trying to seek validation from either themselves or a group (Like growth environment). Maybe there are exceptions because of sex drive... I'm pretty sure there are more issues at play.
@MrInsensitive2 it comes off as meat head behavior and lack of self control. No woman is going to a man seriously whose on everyone. It appears insecure
It's the internet, if you are expecting "reality" or to understand who a person actually is... unreasonable expectations. And Dat Guy where did you study psychology do you have a PhD?
"The clock on the wall goes Coo Coo, but who watches the time. I think once you understand that this is just the internet and find the other 37 you wouldn't be wasting time on things that are beyond you.
Though, I get what you mean with the online dating culture. I think there's a misunderstanding with having options while seeking (which seems to be somewhat normal for people) Vs being in a committed relationship and cheating? here.
Don't mislead people most of the time people create the reason why others treat them bad and don't realize it they call it narcissism. And individuals that are "desperate and needy" do more than get a few numbers. And isn't it the same when a woman goes for multiple men hope to get the biggest income? Yes I. mean $$$
How it would actually be cheaper to be serviced by a prostitute rather than trying to meet the unrealistic expectations and demands of a stuck up self centered princess that seldom puts out...
Hahaha I like these type of questions by women, not gonna lie :D
It is because some men can't control their hormones. You would be surprised if you met a guy in his 50s where all of his testosterone hit the Junk Yard and looks at you like it's nothing special
It's all about the mind set. Desperation, love seeking, neediness comes from a scarcity mindset.
There are literally women everywhere. And amongst these beautiful womanhood must be at least one who is willing to go out on a date with you.
Are you referring to the simps? Well they certainly play the number game. They are simping for anyone. So it probably looks like there is more of them than there are. I can only blame lack of male guidance.
simplified answer. you know the saying "you can only take so much before you have to give a liitle back" ? reverse it "you can only give so much before you get a little back". most times, a woman gets validated almost daily, has societal support towards her needs, and gets to pick who she wants to date. where as us guys typically go an entire lifetime without more tgan a handful of times being validated (if he is lucky) , most of society demonizes him for even existing yet still wants him to bare the brunt of putting in effort and not react to being demonized, and is often lucky to find one woman who will tolerate him.
I laughed because it could be true. I dont see it as a dig at you but who we select or who we come across is who we base our opinions and experiences on. So all he’s saying is, its not ALL men but the ones you’ve dealt with. He couldve said that to me and i’d still laugh cause the shits likely true
Thats why i said “who we select OR who we come across.” You did not select them but you came across them when they hit on you, and thus you had a negative experience based on their actions which is likely why you stated the opinion you did. Damn that was a lot to break down.
Anybody can get dealt with. We dont have to date them to deal With them. You dealt with them by rejecting their approach. You came across them when they hit on you. I stated select because im referring to myself on that part which is why i stated WE as in women who have made bad choices. Not referring to just you and me. And in this case, not you since you selected none
@dizzydesii I wouldn't say negative experience. I just prefer to be unbothered. The approaching just happens too much. I got stuff to do I don't have time to be jotting down my number for these frog head nukkas 🤣🤣. Men are everywhere they're unavoidable. If they see what they like they approach. I have no control over that no woman does really. The only thing we can control is if we choose to engage with them by exchanging numbers.
🤣🤣🤣 look I'm just tryna understand. Cause he's saying selection. I'm thinking I know I didn't say I'm choosing or chasing anyone. Then you liked it so im like ok let me re read what I posted maybe I put something in there that gave off a vibe. But I still didn't see it so I was like imma tag desii I rather hear a woman's perspective
@DizzyDesii impress me and right on. I made assumption it’s about your experiences. Beyond that I started to understand some of how attraction works. It is sub conscious emotions influencing…whom is attracted. So if you get one type of guy then it may say something about you. If you don’t like what you are getting you need to look in yourself. Of course some women are going to get hit on just because they meet the physical characteristics that speak to males. Make any more sense? I took me long time to figure this out so may not make any sense yet til you get into deeper relationships and run into bigger challenges.
@lighbulb27 was that meant for me or @dizzydesii? I'm not saying there's anything wrong with the men's appearance who approach nor the way they carry themselves. It's just the constant point of doing it and going to every woman you can. It's like a lack of self control and validation. What's the deal with that? Is it because you guys don't get approached often? Which men really don't
@lightbulb27 yes that makes more sense the selection process. I guess that's what you and @dizzydesii have been trying to explain to me for the past 2hrs🤣🤣. Dizzy probably like "I can't stand her ass"
I hear that differently now and not clear what you experience: * Going to every woman - this guy is playing, getting experience and doesn't care who it is. he wins by percentages. the testosterone is driving them:) Other men though are not experienced, introverted, shy, losing, out of the game... you may not notice them... for they don't show up. * We do get approached, sometimes, certainly not as much. It's all about projecting our "value" and being confident for guys.
This topic doesn't matter if it's men or not. Broken and empty people obviously are going to need someone to love them and make them feel validated, accepted and love. It's human nature that most people can't handle properly.
I don't understand it either. Women are people just like men. If the weirdo guys talked to them like a respectful person and not a creep then they would have much better chances in my opinion. I prefer to become friends with women/get to know women I'm interested in first before getting romantic but that's just me.
Its not just men women can be needy to it depends on the person. You need to set your boundaries at the beginning then they know. Someone doesn't know if you don't tell them it bothers you
When a man don't show interest in women and dating, women say he is a Gay. When a man show interest in women, women say he is desperate and needy. No men are not desperate. All women of the world say men should approach and start the conversation. Women will never approach and initiate the conversation. If you don't take the initiative, How will you start a relationship and start dating?
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I'll copy and past what I said to another user. Too much to retype
@Raaj4you I agreed with everything you said until you said “women dont approach.” Women do approach if they’re not shy and find the man attractive. So girls either dont approach you because theyre shy OR they simply dont find you attractive.
@Uptowngirl88@DizzyDesii People say it's a feminism era men and women are equal. But when it comes to dating, women say it's a tradition men should do the hardwork to get a girl. I thought dating is different in other countries but it's not. Women just sit back, reject and enjoy. At the end we men are left with broken hearts💔 and we start drinking alcohol. Then women again blame men are alcoholics. 😞😒😔😟
@Raaj4you every woman has their reason for rejecting. Rejecting is not fun on our end. It's exhausting but at the same time we aren't going to settle for what we know won't work for the future as far as qualities in a man. And women do approach men it's just not the ones you guys want. So men reject women aswell
There’s a lot of pressure put on men to find a lady. Could be from family, friends, society and norms themselves. Then couple that with the fact of men finding women just so damn attractive lol and you get men literally tripping over themselves just to have a chance.
Understand the disparity… women generally have plenty of options coming at them constantly, men have relatively none… there’s often times a desperation of not wanting to be alone.
Because he care about you but Instead You can tell your partner you have to do your own things so that it will be corrected. Also if you get these kinda guys everywhere then it must be because they thought you are single and want to meet and everyplace you go there would be different people so they are just trying to befriend you and it’s okay to have friends and if you don’t reject them.
This right here shows me that women totally do not understand men. Men don't seek validation at all and most don't even want a relationship 80% of guys that chase women want one thing sex period point blank. They could care less about validation that's a female trait woman crave that if you don't believe me just look at the post on the app
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Probably growing up in a society that tells them men are bad women are good and they have no worth other than what they can produce for women, lack of make teachers and the removal of father's from their homes they built The demonization of everything male has conciquences for women, (🙀 Pikachu face! )
I happily live by myself, so I do my own shopping, cleaning, cooking and housework, etc. I can look after myself. I certainly don’t a woman to look after me, I don’t mind been pampered once in a while, but I would like to keep my independence.
Uptown I can't figure out if your being clever trying to get guys willed up on purpose for fun or more posts or if you are really into man bashing as a part time hobby?
Because if we waited for women to work up the courage to do the approaching, the human race whould go extinct
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Seems like your answering your own question. On average theirs more men than women which creates a horrible trickle effect. I don't really see women being approached in person besides bars though like ever
There will come a day where you men will just stop approaching you period. When that day comes you will be complaining about how men no longer find middle aged women attractive.
You can validate my parking, and also females do similar to what you described. And that male you described is the new age emasculated male. I wouldn't waste effort on trying to empress anyone.
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