Men, would you be friends with an attractive woman if she is ''one of the boys''?

Question

Almost all of my friends in my social circle happen to be women, they're friends I've had since I was a child, but I'm moving to another city soon and I'm already wondering who my new friends will be.

I'm a little unusual: I'm a feminine woman in appearance and manners, it's not a coincidence that many straight men do find me attractive, but I'm masculine in plenty of ways. A friend of mine once said: ''sometimes I forget you're a woman, having you as a friend is like being friends with a guy.''.

All of my hobbies are typically masculine, all of my interests are typically masculine (sports and videogames above all), I'm very direct and rational, I'm perceived as confident, strong and charismatic in a way that is typically masculine, yet men are attracted to me because I was born with a body and a face they're attracted to (I'm skinny, curvy, tall, I look a lot like Taylor Swift when she was younger and didn't look a little bloated like she does today). Sometimes I feel like I'm a male who happened to be born an attractive girl, but I don't have gender dysphoria and I'm happy as a woman, I simply happen to be masculine in many ways. I don't know if I've just had bad luck with male friendships, but some men struggle being friends with me because they are attracted to me, some men don't give me a chance because they think female friendships are worthless.

Honestly, what would you think if you met a woman who is similar to me?

Puppystarfish23 · Accepted Answer

I have plenty of male friends working in a male dominated industry and I think it's really healthy as we both get to see things from each others prospective and learn new things we might have never known before making friends with the opposite gender.

I used to be really scared of men growing up as I was bullied by boys in school and I was always told as a little girl but boys only wanted one thing which isn't ture. When I started working with mainly men I was so nervous and had a chip on my shoulder but they ended up being like big brothers to me

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

Men can  only  be friends with women they’re attracted to

sawno · Accepted Answer

This is exactly the kind of girl i tend to fall deeply in love with. Feminine looks but I can relate more to in terms of activities and interests? Thats a very good foundation for having things in common. My love interests have always been like this, more rational and interested in the same things I am but at the same time very feminine in the ways that matter.

So yes, being just friends is doable but i'd probably desire more if we have enough in common since that's girlfriend material.

MisterWack · Accepted Answer

I don’t care about looks or whatever, if she has good enough character & we share common interests to build a friendship on & she is down to hangout as best buddies then yeah she can be ‘one of the boys’ and I’ll fist bump her & treat her as an equal.

morganherrel · Answer

I value friendship, male or female. If you and I can improve each other's lives, or if for some reason I felt compelled to invest in you, then absolutely we could/should be friends.

I think beauty is a good thing in general, so if you're a beautiful woman, then that's great. It doesn't mean I have to be attracted to you or see you that way.

Apart from that physical aspect, there is no need for your personality to conform to your norms associated with your physical appearance. At least not for me. I get along with rational confident people as well as emotional indirect people etc. etc.

All this is to say that if any men in your new city are like me, then I would encourage you to entertain male friendships as well as female ones!

godfatherfan · Answer

You women need to stop thinking you have, or can have, men "friends". You can have men acting friendly to you. Every guy you think is just a "Friend", has had sexual thoughts about you. He might even have a "plan of action" in case you and he end up single at the same time.

Women cannot have men friends, at least not when you are young (straight guy friends that is). Later the chance goes up, but we still will probably have a few sexual thoughts.

Anonymous · Answer

You sound like you might be like my wife, who was my best friend before we got married, and of course still is. There's nothing wrong with having typically masculine interests and hobbies, or being direct and rational, confident, and charismatic, as long as you retain your feminine character. That's the key.

But if you are attractive, as it seems you are, you can't expect to have a lot of platonic friends. It just doesn't work that way.

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236color · Answer

When you're 60, you can have great male friends and go fishing with the guys and tailgate before the game. As a young attractive woman, guys can't get past the hormones screaming in their ears. If you're looking for friends, look for women. Men just can't do it till their testosterone level falls.

worldscolide · Answer

No, but that's because I don't know her.

I've been friends with both kinds of women. The one of the boys type and the not one of the boys type. Both had been friends of mine since I was in 2nd grade. Just because she's one of the boys doesn't mean she gets my friendship. I'd need to know her.

NathanOlipop · Answer

My last "one of the boys" friends I had like that went out on dates with some of the boys without damaging our relationships with each other. This is of course, extremely rare. I think the best "one of the boys" girls are ones with no girlfriends to sit there and manipulate them with bullshit.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

I would be friends with a woman, but if she was as hot as you claim to be, I'd be thinking in the back of my mind about how I could possibly date and/or f**k her.

I wouldn't be plotting, and I wouldn't be pretending to like her as a friend, but her skinny, curvy, young Taylor Swift attractiveness would not be overlooked.

In_Trance · Answer

Friends but nothing more.  But let's face it, men and women can't be friends When she's one of the boys:

spartan55 · Answer

I'd think you were a phony. Every girl that's ever claimed to be 'one of the guys' actually isn't at all.

Miristheiss · Answer

Could I be friends? Sure. Would I have dated a woman who hung out with men all the time? No. 4 billion women I wouldn't have settled for that.

Keyboardkat · Answer

Sure! Girls like this can have a great sense of humor, and can be great friends. If she's attractive, I'd surely give her a chance!

Berethor · Answer

A girl who look like girly girl, but have tomboy interests like video games? good combo. :)

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Not at this point. Regardless of how attractive she is, I have found that women like that are always sources of chaos in life.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Gender mentalities are a myth. Those aren't masculine hobbies/interests, they are just hobbies/interests.

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

One of the boys is a euphemism for unattractive.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I prefer not to have friends who are of the opposite sex. I rarely do anything with my own friends. I prefer to keep to myself.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Yes, in fact, being "one of the boys" would make me more likely to be her friend.(Did you emulate your brothers and boy cousins when you were a girl?)

paledreams · Answer

Probably smells and farts like a horse, no way one of the boys, off putting 💩💩💩

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not sure attractive easily fits into a male friend group but otherwise, someone with similar interests is going to have an easier time of fitting in.

Anonymous · Answer

If I were single, sure, but if taken, no. Making friends with attractive women while in a relationship is such a stupid move.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Sure why not as long as she’s a lesbian because no attractive girl to hang out with guys and say she's one of the boys.

Quigly · Answer

As long as she can still wear a dress and identify as a woman in that way. What she is interested in is not an issue to me.. It's fine.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Absolutely. If she’s got the parts, doesn’t matter how well she acts/fits in with guys. If anything, it probably makes her more attractive

power_wolf · Answer

taller women are often masculine. height is amasculine trait

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Why should I be friends with a woman? What's the point of that?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes. I have attractive female friends, and friends is exactly what they ever shall be.

AmeerX · Answer

I had a crush on my tomboy friend and she got married to someone else and broke my heart

noohair · Answer

This is complicated for men. There is always a sexual aspect for guys.

Ladsin2 · Answer

No woman, especially an attractive one, is one of 'the boys'.

JesseP1nk · Answer

Nope. I know every "friend" in that group tries to fuck her.

kaucky1 · Answer

I would suck a girls dick and lick down there same time elsewhere

Chthou95 · Answer

Nope. I wouldn't be friends with s woman to begin with

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. But we'd also want to sleep with her.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course I would, I like tomboyish girls who are into sports and video games.

Avicenna · Answer

Yeah, I could do that

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Sure. It's happened a time or two before.

Intheclouds00 · Answer

I would be friends even if she wasn't

Pete671 · Answer

You sound awesome!!!

DtMe89 · Answer

Why would you want to be?

Anonymous · Answer

Probably not.

AviatorTom · Answer

Of course

Rohaan2020 · Answer

Yeah y not

justabuddy · Answer

I have been yes.

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