Does he really like me?

[Anonymous]

A guy I found on linkedin used to text me randomly like for 1.5 years but I was dating but then I brokeup dated other guys but couldn’t fall in love. But with this guy when I started talking I instantly felt like he’s the one to spend my rest of the life with. He told me damn date me I wanna be your last and he said how he doesn’t want women to come in between his success and all that. But then I started texting him like everyday but he didn’t give the same energy. When I asked him he said as he is in US now and he hasn’t met me he can’t be serious on Instagram so he wants to propose me in person when to comes to India where I live. I was like okay fine I’ll wait but then after few days we didn’t talk but he came in between and we kind of had flirtatious talk yk kinda sexual and it turned us both on. He is Indian too. He told me that my way of looking into it is being together during hard times and when during good times do whatever you want. It all started when he jokingly told me that I should date someone for time pass as Im single I was like I can’t date a guy and just dump him. He was like why not its fun! And I jokingly said that I’ll date you. He said no I’m a very bad guy you’ll leave me in 2 days I said haha let’s try and we started acting like husband and wife and started discussing how we would treat each other if we were a couple and yeah after that infatuation liking all that happened. And he was like damn I’m getting obsessed with you. And he was like I am tempted to ask you out. And he said jokes apart, Date me I wanna be your last. I was like are you serious? He said yes. Before him asking me out we were so good friends we used to talk a lot. be it serious or some funny topic. We shared everything and he also said he wants to spend every hour on text everyday when he was in India. But now when he does its all flirty and dirty. Before asking me out he also sent his shirtless workout pic and his food pics which he cooked. Now he doesn’t update much.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm it's kinda confusing but it seems like maybe he likes you? It's hard to say for sure from long distance.

He definitely was into flirting and talking all the time at first. And asking you out was a big move. Guys don't usually do that if they're not feeling a girl.

But the sending mixed signals thing now would kinda bug me. Like why back off the communication? Maybe he's just busy with his life in the US.

Or could be the kind of guy that loses interest easy once he gets a little of what he was after. Hard to say without really knowing him.

If it was me, I'd try chatting with him again casually like before, not so serious. See how he responds. If he seems distant still, might be best to back off yourself and stop overthinking it so much, ya know?

Don't keep chasing him if he's not matching your energy. You deserve someone excited to talk to you everyday! But one more chat couldn't hurt to figure out where his heads really at. Keep me posted on what you decide!

[Asker]

Actually I did and he replied that he can’t be serious on Instagram and he wants to propose me in person. He said he wants to at least meet me in person before making it official. I said okay. But then we didn’t text and he suddenly started being flirty and calling me baby and all that. And then again when I initiated. His replies were kinda dry.

[Asker]

I can also say that just after he asked me out I said yes we had a good convo and he said now he has to go to work. After that I started being clingy. I was texting a lot. Sending him 5-6 reels with gm gn messages. And maybe he didn’t like that. It was like he had also told me that he doesn’t like women coming in between his success. But I clearly wasn’t. I was just happy and excited.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ooh okay that makes more sense now. Yeah it sounds like maybe he got a bit overwhelmed with how clingy you were being after you started dating. Guys sometimes do need their space, even if they really like a girl. And if he said he doesn't like women coming between his success, constantly texting him could maybe feel disruptive to him.

I wouldn't totally write him off yet though. His saying he wants to meet in person before making it official does show he wants to take things to the next level. Maybe dial the texting back a little and see if he starts chatting more naturally again without feeling pressured. Next time you message, try keeping it lighter and not always expecting a long convo.

Bringing up meeting in person again could also be a good idea - tell him you understand needing space for work, but you're still open to him visiting soon if he wants to keep seeing where things go. As long as he keeps the flirting up a bit too, I'd say there's still a good chance he's into you! just ease up on contacting him so much. You've got this girl!

[Asker]

You make sense but the thing is he told me he’ll never cheat on me when I asked him why has he become distant suddenly has someone else come into your life he was like no I my bad habits are drinking smoking yes but Ill never cheat you don’t need to worry about that. Then I told him that how much I miss our old conversations he said awww that’s cute. I told him I feel that something has changed between us. He said no I don’t think so👀. Then he asked what has changed I said how he used to talk so openly about anything and we would have nice chat. Now it feels like he doesn’t care about me anymore. He said nothing like that🥺. And then he sent me hugs emojis. And I asked him would he ever leave me he said no I won't leave you with hearts. But this conversation was 5 days ago after that we didn’t talk. He didn’t text too. Earlier he used to like my insta stories now he doesn’t. I don't know after saying all this what happens to him.

[Asker]

Because see personally if I like a person and If I say these things to a person I want that person fr and would do anything to keep them. I’ll text everyday not because I don’t want them to feel bad but because I would love texting or talking to them. And if I have no interest I wouldn’t entertain someone for like 11-12 months just to end us up dating and then just become distant when that person actually starts liking me back. I don't know I can’t play games if Im attached to someone and especially if I like someone.

[Asker]

You said men don’t ask anyone like that. But before he asked me out he told me he has been asking out girls in the bar and how dumb American girls are.

[strateguy632]

He showed he likes you lots!

[Avicenna]

Doesn't sound like he's serious